Relaxing my girl sway

O.k this is what i did and its not working so any ideas what to cut this time,i really want to conceive this cycle...
We did both DH and me ig girl diet STRICT both did cranberry calcium magnesium ,and dh did licorice we didnt overdo supplements and stayed under recommended doses as well.
then we did abstaining 14 days which i will cut dh is 40 so that was silly
and we dtd once day before ovulation
We tested urine for ph and his was always 6_6.75 mine was4_4.5
And the problem now is hes been off diet and supplements for 2 weeks and his is LOWER than when on the diet at 5.0now and me is this because calcium mag makes you more alkaline?So what should we do ive lost loads of weight and dont want to gain and sway boy ,thought of trying french diet but cant find enough recipes or info and im on cd2 so need to hurry and decide?

When do you ttc? How long have you got?

I will ovulate between Nov 4 til the 9th

I'd try and get more BDing attempts in around OV - even if you BD on OV day you only have a 33% chance of conceiving each cycle even if not swaying (and we know swaying reduces fertility)

perhaps the LE diet would be a better fit for you? have you looked into it?

also... you're meant to test pH of the CM aren't you? do you find your urine pH and CM pH are the same then?

Just realise you said you tested URINE. Urine and cervical mucous and semen will not be the same, you MUST test those, not the urine when swaying.

I have tried to test cm but with using cranberry its never enough?I will ask dh he wont be happy to im sure i just figured it was easier for him the other way..

if you're both doing the diet strictly I would PERSONALLY either avoid testing the pH anyway (since you won't be able to change it more) or to use something like RepHresh which will keep your pH in the right range regardless

Stop testing urine now because it does not tell you anything other than the last thing you ate and is totally irrelevant for swaying. Cran supps will always make your urine look very acidic.

Calcium can def. make you more alkaline. So I suspect you are right, once he went off the Cal it made his pH go up.

Personally, I think it's dangerous to stop taking vitamins cold turkey anyway. Please continue your cal-mag during the 2 ww and then gently taper off of them. Your body gets used to mineral intake at a certain level and you can end up with heart palpitations if your levels of cal-mag-sod-potassium get out of whack.

I would def. drop the abstaining and that will help you get pg. Are you doing anything like antihistamines, jump and dump, jellies, spermicide, douching???

The complete French Gender Diet book plus recipes and other stuff from my LE Diet are available in the Dream Members section.

I agree with Rainbowflower totally in that I don't think you get much benefit from obsessing over your pH and it may even hurt your sway by raising your testosterone.

Hi atomic thanks for replying,weve started testing cm and dh was8.5 and mine was 4.5-4.0,and we dont take whats recommended we do slightly under like 10000 cranberry powder and mostly under and 1000 calcium but lately under that too and never more than 200mg magnesium,,im more for the diet than supplements..i dont like even taking pills for headache normally...and no anihistamines or jelies or douching just last time i jump and dumped because normally i lie for a bit ,,but conceived boys doing that so i figured???I think next time i will let them sit and give that a try,,but im thinking to do a 7 day abstain as last 2 babes were conceived without abstaining,so that scares me?And im going to test once more ph but not obsess over it thnxs rainbowflower,im scared about thr rephresh would make my ph spike ive heard it can do that?

I would have no worries over low pH in CM if DH had a pH of 8.5. The combined pH will be fine.

It all depends on how big a hurry you guys are in. It can take people a few months to conceive even if they aren't swaying. So since you aren't doing anything else to sway, personally I would keep in the jump and dump and just be patient, but that is totally up to you since you are wanting to conceive sooner rather than later.

RepHresh shouldn't cause your pH to spike, it's more Replens and Acijel that can do that. RepHresh is designed to keep reacting with whatever alkalinity that shows up to lower pH to the 4.5-5 range whereas Replens and Acijel are just big bursts of acidity that then your body may attempt to wash away with the alkaline CM, and since neither Replens or Acijel are designed to continue to chemically react, your pH may go up at that point from the CM washing them away.

So i just researched your info on rephresh and now im considering it seriously,but wonder if im doing 7 day abstain already ,if i use rephresh will it be keeping my chances even to conceive or does it cut the percentage if i use it once or twice say 6 days then 3 days before at a 3 day cutoff ,so only twice in total before dtd? In short will it help my sway but also cut the conceiving chances...?

Yes, it can to some extent but if you use it as you describe, then I doubt it would matter much.

Thanks so much atomic, i will let you know how or if it turns out,i bought some refresh today,i think i might use it once 3 days before and leave it at that..thxs again such a help youve been xxx

You do not need to track your cycle before TTC unless you want to do timing. A lot of people choose not to do timing and that is fine. You can have a great sway without timing.