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Just wondering with the one attempt at positive opk when does it become too late that if you didnt want to sway blue you shouldnt dtd?
For example if i got a positive opk at 4pm sunday and i couldnt dtd, is it best that we dtd the day before on saturday or is waiting til Monday morning ok?
Timing doesn't sway. You can have intercourse smack dab on ovulation and you are 50-50 to get a girl. It doesn't work and when scientists using modern technology to actually pinpoint ovulation accurately (instead of having people simply BD on a certain cycle day or using self-reported data without verifying it with blood tests or ultrasounds) they have proved that about 50-50 boys and girls are conceived every fertile day without exception. :)
To answer your question, you're not going to be able to BD on Saturday anyway unless you have the ability to predict the future since you can't know the day you'll get the OPK!! But honestly, either is ok - you can conceive with an attempt the day before or the day after the day of positive OPK. There is NO swaying magic to having sex the day of a positive oPK, it is just an easy way to have that one attempt at a day of the fertile window that is a good chance of conceiving with one attempt. :)
Studies have shown that the amount of time you DTD before ovulation does not affect gender ratios at all. It was Dr Shettle's theory that having sex a few days before ovulation would sway girl, and having sex right around ovulation would sway boy, but it's been disproven.
Just don't have your one attempt so much before ovulation that the sperm die in you, or so far after ovulation that the egg can't become fertilized. If you can pinpoint exactly when you ovulate, then I recommend having sex 6 -12 hours before ovulation. If you can't pinpoint it (most people can't) then I recommend aiming for 1 - 2 days before so that you don't miss it.
Edited to add that my timing recommendations aren't for swaying, just for maximizing conception.
Just sticking my two cents in but I dtd the day after my first positive opk and got pregnant with twins and with my current youngest I dtd the night of my first positive opk so in my opinion its the best way to get one attempt in with a good chance of conception. Good luck.
Thanks for the comments guys
Looking back when i concieved in Sept i only dtd on the positive opk day and got preg but sadly miscarried at 10.5 weeks. At that time i didnt know about 1 attempt swaying ��
The reason i asked about dtd a day before expected positive opk was because last month i got a darker line but not positive and then the day after got positive. I know each month can be different but what wih hubby working nights if i were to get a darkish line before a positive line i can work out if we have a chance to dtd the following day or not depending on his work shift ��
Is the one attempt to sway girl working alongside with diet strongly at the moment?
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Originally Posted by mandyp85
Were u swaying with your current youngest?
Yes I was, ended up with the most adorable little boy, but I think my sway failed because I was obsessing about everything to do with my sway, it seriously backfired on me, not that I would swap my boy for 10 girls he is the most gorgeous little thing. I was a lot more chilled and relaxed this time so hoping I've produced one girl at least lol. Also threw exercise in to the mix this time. Good luck.
It's better to be in with an attempt too early (like before positive OPK, even) than too late. You can get pregnant from an earlier-than-ideal attempt, but an attempt that misses the egg, you've missed the month. So in that case, yes, it's better to have attempt with a dark OPK if you are sure the positive will be the next day, than wait 2 days and risk missing the egg all together. OR you can have attempt the morning after a positive OPK. That is ok too. Either way, whichever will work better for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Parying4agirl
We know one attempt sways based on not what's happening right now (as one attempt has gotten more popular, people start doing it even without otherwise good sways, and results drop - this has happened with all the sway tactics) but because of what happened in the past. We were doing a lot of sway tactics and adding attempts to get pregnant, and we found that the people who had three attempts had the most boys even with very strict sways otherwise. The people who were having success with swaying during that time were doing one attempt even when they were not doing a lot of other things to sway. Then we began to emphasize one attempt and our results went up by over 10% and have stayed up ever since, and that was really the only thing we changed during that time. One attempt is working and I strongly recommend you guys stick with it at least at first.
Ahh i get what u mean though. Obsession sure does take over, i seem to be looking at every tiny detail yet theres millions of people who have pink without doing or changing anyhing! I do tell myself to relax over the details beyond my control but that only last for a few hrs max 😂
I was sure my previous boy was a girl (dont find out sex during preg) but when he was born, i couldnt imagine not having him ever! Such a blessing.
This was all before i knew about GD
Hoping u have twins girls- thatd be amazing! But at least one would still be great 😁 fingers xd for you.
Id love to have twins but need to focus on pink sway ... is there a twin sway out there 😂😂😂😂
Swaying pink seems to make more twins for reasons we can only guess at, we were just talking about that here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...s-le-diet.html
It's normal to get anxious and think about swaying a lot. The solution is not to try to force yourself to think or not think about something, the solution is just to do a very simple, easy sway and then get busy doing other things. Trying to make yourself relax does NOT work, you just end up in a tizzy stressing about relaxation!
Getting pregnant with twins is my secret guilty daydream, and has been since I was a kid! I know the risks, and I still want them!
Im on the same page as u - even started dreaming of twins 😍😍😍
Yeah its really hard to not obsess about everything, I think just over time as I got more comfortable in the diet and the exercise I just naturally relaxed about it all, was so exhausted anyway I didn't have the energy to obsess over anything ha ha. This was actually my third time swaying, first time I had my gorgeous boy, second time I didn't get pregnant and had to take a break so I guess by this time the diet was almost second nature to me, which I think helped me to relax. Like atomic said though you cant force yourself to relax as it just doesn't work, but my advice is definitely just do what you can, don't beat yourself up about the things that might go wrong and just keep busy :-) Yeah I got my daughter by doing absolutely nothing different to when I got my sons but now for the life of me cant conceive another girl ha ha. I'm scared about having twins but feel really blessed, wasn't expecting it but definitely wouldn't change it. Thank you, I will update when I know what they are. Good luck to you and fingers crossed you are blessed with twins also :-)