Should we skip this month?

Hey everyone!

So my blue sway is going great so far in terms of diet, supps and exercise. I’ve really stuck to the HE diet religiously and I’ve been taking my supps every day without missing a single day. Also been lifting weights a few times a week and going on walks.

The only thing DH and I have struggled so much with is the frequent BDing.

AF just finished yesterday (and it was heavier and about a day longer than usual?) and our first attempt is coming up in about 10 days and we haven’t DTD in about 2 weeks!! DH hasn’t released by himself either.

If we really commit to BDing every 2nd day from here onwards through ovulation, do we still have a good chance? Or should we not attempt this month and keep going with the frequent BD until next month and go for our first attempt then instead?

Thanks in advance!

If your husband hasn't released in 2 weeks I would consider skipping the month if that's an option. Sperm takes a while to form, and I'm worried such a long abstain (that's even longer than I recommend for pink swayers) might undermine an otherwise great sway.

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

If your husband hasn't released in 2 weeks I would consider skipping the month if that's an option. Sperm takes a while to form, and I'm worried such a long abstain (that's even longer than I recommend for pink swayers) might undermine an otherwise great sway.

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It’s an option but kinda a last resort. Is there anything else we can do? We have about 10 days until O. What if we FR for the next few days to “bring him up to speed” then do every 2 days from next week? Does it work like that?

That doesn't work because the damage has been done. FR would only further deplete his sperm numbers. I would just have him release every 2-4 days and then have your attempt when you are ready to.

Hi DisneyBaby,

Wishing you all the best for your coming up attempt.

Atomic,
Can I ask a question here. If DH abstained during the AF time, around 7 days- is that ok?

How about the bd patterns?

Example - bd 1 or 2 days before AF started then no bd or release for 6 days.
Bd on cd 7 unprotected
Bd on cd 9 protected?
Bd on cd 12 (ths could be day before ovulation)

How can I make it O-2 O-1 and O day if I ovulate around CD13? ( Or is it better to do o-3, o-2, O-1 nd then O day too? - please advise)

Otherwise

Should DH release his own maybe one of the AF day eg - cd 6, then bd on 8, 11,12,13?


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Thank you Jazmin!

Atomic, the plot thickens. I have come down with terrible food poisoning in the last 24 hours. Haven’t been able to eat or keep anything down. Is this yet another reason to skip this month?

I would not have your husband abstain that long. 5 days or less if possible. I would have him release once whenever it's convenient in the middle.

:agree: with 7, 9, 12

It is ok to BD O-2, o-1, and O Day. It is also ok to do O-3, O-2, O-1, and O Day. (I would always add one more to the day after you think O Day was, just in case it was delayed a bit) The only warning I would give is that sometimes when people start on O-3, and let's say they ovulate a day or two late, then their husband can get tired and not be able to continue. so just keep that in your mind, and give him a day off if need be O-3 or O-2

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Thank you Jazmin!

Atomic, the plot thickens. I have come down with terrible food poisoning in the last 24 hours. Haven’t been able to eat or keep anything down. Is this yet another reason to skip this month?

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Probably, but you have to weigh that against how important it is to try this month for you.

I hope you're feeling better soon!

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

I would not have your husband abstain that long. 5 days or less if possible. I would have him release once whenever it's convenient in the middle.

:agree: with 7, 9, 12

It is ok to BD O-2, o-1, and O Day. It is also ok to do O-3, O-2, O-1, and O Day. (I would always add one more to the day after you think O Day was, just in case it was delayed a bit) The only warning I would give is that sometimes when people start on O-3, and let's say they ovulate a day or two late, then their husband can get tired and not be able to continue. so just keep that in your mind, and give him a day off if need be O-3 or O-2

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Ah great. Thanks so much Atomic. Will make a note of this.

DisneyBaby- oh no hope you ate better now. Xx


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Thank you Atomic.
It was a 24 hour thing and I was back to normal.
I think we’ll see how we’re feeling as we get closer to Ov. DH has been releasing every couple days so far but we’ll see how we’re feeling.

Otherwise it’s Jan 2021 for us!

Ok! Good luck and keep me posted!

Thanks Atomic!
Looks like Ovulation is later this month which is unusual for me because it’s always on time. I usually ovulate around CD16 but this month according to OPK looks like it’s gonna be CD19. I’ve been extra stressed this month with the house buying process. We DTD yesterday unprotected which was O-4. If we decide to attempt this month what other days should we BD?

You can't possibly be able to predict when you're 4 days out from ovulation. Please don't rely on that guesstimate because the odds are very good it will be different days than that.

This is why I suggest going off the OPK and not your cycle days. Because we can't predict in advance when your fertile window will open.

So, I would aim at having an attempt the night of positive OPK, 2 times the next day (morning and night if at all possible), the following day, and thenevery other day if possible. And if you can, get one in the day before positive OPK, that's often easier to predict than 4 days before.

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

You can't possibly be able to predict when you're 4 days out from ovulation. Please don't rely on that guesstimate because the odds are very good it will be different days than that.

This is why I suggest going off the OPK and not your cycle days. Because we can't predict in advance when your fertile window will open.

So, I would aim at having an attempt the night of positive OPK, 2 times the next day (morning and night if at all possible), the following day, and thenevery other day if possible. And if you can, get one in the day before positive OPK, that's often easier to predict than 4 days before.

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Uhhh turns out the CB Advanced OPK did NOT do its job. I got a positive OPK this morning After only 1 day of flashing smiley so ovulation was as usual this month. Now that means we’ve BD on O-3. So is skipping not an option anymore? Should we go ahead and attempt tonight and tomorrow x2? Because our O-3 BD is literally the only time we’ve done it this cycle. And I started leaning more towards skipping this month :(

AGH I only just now saw this, yes, that can happen sometimes.

I would have had you go ahead and attempt, but if you didn't, the odds of conceiving from O-3 are not that high.

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

AGH I only just now saw this, yes, that can happen sometimes.

I would have had you go ahead and attempt, but if you didn't, the odds of conceiving from O-3 are not that high.

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We didn’t end up attempting. I think my “food poisoning” was actually a stomach bug because DH had the exact same illness as me on the day of my positive OPK and had a fever so I took that as a sign to skip! So if our accidental attempt before that on o-3 doesnt result in a bfp, we’re going for it in early Jan! :)

Thanks Atomic and I’ll keep you updated!