UK SMOG Wannabes - March

Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ March

Hi ladies! Wishing everyone a great March full of bfps and happy healthy bumps!

BFP's so far this month:


TTC

Id_Love_Pink 2010 TTC HT poss 2012

Homebirthing princess Me 24, DH 26, 2009,2010 ttc august

HopeandDreamG Me 36, Dh 37, 2006, 2007 TTC now

Lavenderlime Me 24, DP 24 2007, 2009 TTC now

Wishing4pink, 2003, 2009 ttc April 2012

Butterfly

Bettyboo

Sarah

Sixhappysons

Happylea


BFPs!!!!!!

Inglewood.2007 BFP 23/8 EDD 1/5/12 OMG Identical twin :DD:!!!

Babymad BFP 23/9 EDD 30/5/12 Due a :DS:!

Pinga BFP 10/10 EDD 20/6/12 Due a :DS:!

Maybepink3 EDD 22/06/12 Due a :DS: !

Charlieispy BFP 22/10 EDD 4/07/2012 Due a :DS:!

Zanacal EDD 24/5/12 Due a :DD:!

Kell BFP 17/11 EDD 26/07/12 Due a :DD:!

Indigoviolet BFP 01/12 EDD 08/08/12 Due a :DS:!

Chocolate BFP 22/12/12 EDD 01/09/12 Due a :DS:

Littemisswilko BFP 13/12 EDD 17/08/2012

Deaks BFP 6/2/12 EDD 17/10/12

Nini BFP 7/2/12 EDD 17/10/12



SMOG babies due 2012

March:
Maybebaby

April:
3rd ~ Inglewood

May:
24th ~ Zanacal
30th ~ Babymad

June:
20th ~ Pinga
22nd ~ Maybepink3

July:
4th ~ Charlieispy
26th ~ Kell

August:
8th ~ Indigoviolet
17th ~ Littlemisswilko

September:
1st ~ Chocolate

October:
17th ~ Deaks and Nini

November:
December:


:cheerteam: Cheerleaders :cheerteam:

2monkeyboys - Me 32 dp 35 boys 2007 and 2009 ttc- maybe next year fx!

Threelittlemenandcounting me 30 ds 36 boys 3 girls 1 done for now tt but never say never

Petal - Congratulations on your beautiful baby :DS:!!!

Sunset - Congratulation on your gorgeous baby :DD:!!!

Mabeybebaby - Congratulations on your beautiful baby :DS:!!!!

Just made the march thread! please could one of the mods make it a sticky!

if there needs to be any alterations or updates to the roll please let me know! tired to ammend it the best i can xx

Just marking my place. Thanks Littlemisswilko.

Wrote a long reply then lost it, sigh anyway have a lovely Friday everyone really sunny here:)

Wow the boy girl ratio is 6:3 so 2/3rds boys 1/3rd girls......

Inglewood, how long did it take from starting to take the Acidophilus to seeing a difference in pH?

Lmao at microwave!! I'm useless at anything art and craft related, I can just about draw a stick man. Ds1 went as Indiana jones, that was a last min dash to fancy dress shop yesterday.

Ds2 is driving me crazy at the moment, he has a red ride on cars 2 bike, he loves it and it pretty much goes everywhere with us, today he decided to take off up the middle of a road when we were picking ds1 up from school, I shouted to kinda shock him to stop just incase a car came but he just carried on, running after him was fun, I literally had to grab his jacket to stop him, in the process I've ripped my nail, bent it right back and blood was poring! It's so painful :(
He is really going through a I'm not going to listen to mum phase, I've take. The bike away now and the only thing I can think to restrain him is to get reins of some sort, I can't be dealing with him running off every day it's too stressful!

I came home burst into tears on dp, proper sobbing child crying! He didn't know what to do lol!

Sitting in the garden ATM making the most of the sun!

Kell my ds1 run away when he was about 14 months. He was in the garden and we was just about to go out. I forgot something so popped in the house for ten seconds in which time he escaped and I found him running down a road 200m from the house. If he had the gone the other way he would have been on a road. I almost died of stress and guilt. Main thing is they didn't get hurt

i'm here too ladies! :)

littlemisswilko ~ I replied to you on the february thread :)

Charlieispy ~ I am so sorry you're feeling so low at the moment.. wish there was something i could say or do to make you feel better.. i miss your posts on here! just know hun that we're all here for you whenever you feel ready to come back to us! ((hugs))

Petal ~ so glad to hear your ds is better! :) :agree:

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Originally Posted by Kell

Ds2 is driving me crazy at the moment, he has a red ride on cars 2 bike, he loves it and it pretty much goes everywhere with us, today he decided to take off up the middle of a road when we were picking ds1 up from school, I shouted to kinda shock him to stop just incase a car came but he just carried on, running after him was fun, I literally had to grab his jacket to stop him, in the process I've ripped my nail, bent it right back and blood was poring! It's so painful :(
He is really going through a I'm not going to listen to mum phase, I've take. The bike away now and the only thing I can think to restrain him is to get reins of some sort, I can't be dealing with him running off every day it's too stressful!

I came home burst into tears on dp, proper sobbing child crying! He didn't know what to do lol!

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eugh i remember that phase.. my ds2 has only just got out of it thank heavens. don't be too hard on yourself all that matters is that your ds is ok and that nothing happened!

Thanks for starting the thread

Hope you are all having good days in the sun

catch up later :HH:

Hiya, my due date is the 1st of September and bfp was 22nd December.


Kell, I still threaten my 3.5 year old with reins now, will probably still do it when he is 16 lol.

Kell my ds has major terrible two's issues! He is a nightmare no fear, naughty, headstrong = PITA!

Deaks great news about the offer hope they increase it asap and you can make your offer!

Gecon we're both 5dpo 2ww is dragging...... well it is for me how are you coping?

Kell do you have a name for your little girl yet? I get what you mean about you wanting her to wear what you want to her to wear I'd be the same. Not really into bright pink for girls but you tend to get a ton of that when your expecting a DD.

Ds's brother brought back drums for my boys from India, what is it with people who don't have kids and noisy toys!!?

Pinga, maybe, maybepink, babymad and Indigo have you decided on names yet?

Lol lavender my dp's sister does that with toys every Christmas and birthday, if and when she has her own I WILL repay the favour, only two fold as I know which ones are particularly annoying!! Hehe

Your all right atleast nothing happened to ds, I feel like I have no control when he does things like this and being hormonal doesn't help at all! I've ordered a safety strap to put on his and my wrist, I'm just going to have to be very strict so he learns no to run away!

We have decided to call her Lily, but I can't think of a middle name at the moment, don't want family names because her name would end up really long to keep all nannys happy! The obvious names would be Lily mai/may/Mae lol or Lily Ann but I'm not necessarily wanting obvious.

We have our 20 week scan tomorrow at 9:40, dp's mum is coming which she's very excited about, she's never seen a one as they weren't done when she was having kids!

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Originally Posted by GeCon

Inglewood, how long did it take from starting to take the Acidophilus to seeing a difference in pH?

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probably around 3wks of taking 4 tabs per day?? I had been on the diet and taking the tabs for 6wks before 1st attempt. I remember by my 2nd mth ttc I had been taking only 2 acidophilus and 1 cranberry tab for about 3-4wks. Seems so long ago :) june/july/aug

Lavender - going for Ewan or Ashton depending on what suits him :-)

Kell, that's a lovely name :) nice dp's mum is going too! My mum LOVES coming to my scans, even tho I go every 2wks, it's like the first scan each time for her!! Enjoy! Does she know it's a girl?

Maybe, lovely names too!! :)

I'm still going for Ruby and Amber (for now)....feel like that's right for them. x

Maybe lovely names for your lil man! Can't believe how soon he will be here! :)

Thanks inglewood! Yep she knows we are expecting a girl, to be honest I think everyone does, I couldn't keep my mouth shut lol!

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Originally Posted by Lavenderlime

Gecon we're both 5dpo 2ww is dragging...... well it is for me how are you coping?

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I wish I was, Lavender. I am still waiting to ovulate or AF after coming off BCP at the beginning of November. But yes, that's dragging too....

How are you feeling? Are you symptom spotting yet?

Oh Charlie I'm so sorry Hun, look of its difficult to deal with things here your very welcome to email or text or even call me. I'm more than happy to give details if you want. We are all here for you in what ever context you want or need us. Just wish we could help in real life.
Babymad same goes for you! It must be difficult hearing all these girls arriving etc, you really shouldn't punish yourself like you do, I suppose it's easier said than done tho.

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Originally Posted by GeCon

I wish I was, Lavender. I am still waiting to ovulate or AF after coming off BCP at the beginning of November. But yes, that's dragging too....

How are you feeling? Are you symptom spotting yet?

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Sorry that should have been H&G! scatterbrain. I hope something happens soon Gecon How about the trigger injection Gecon mentioned? There is also an injection to bring on AF have you talked any options over with your dr?

I have the worst craving for peanut butter from nowhere! I know your not ment to eat nuts when pregnant but i'm buying a jar as soon as I get my bfp!!

There is also a bag of nuts, raisins and chocolate drops taunting me in the kitchen cupboard....... think i better go to bed!!

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Originally Posted by Lavenderlime

I have the worst craving for peanut butter from nowhere! I know your not ment to eat nuts when pregnant but i'm buying a jar as soon as I get my bfp!!

There is also a bag of nuts, raisins and chocolate drops taunting me in the kitchen cupboard....... think i better go to bed!!

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I asked the midwife about all types of nuts in pg as I went thru a pistachio nut craving phase and she said nuts are fine now in pg, so enjoy!!! Tells u in ur pg booklet that they used to advise against them but not now.... a personal decsion still, but can say I have enjoyed an odd snicker bar!!! x

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Originally Posted by Lavenderlime

Sorry that should have been H&G! scatterbrain. I hope something happens soon Gecon How about the trigger injection Gecon mentioned? There is also an injection to bring on AF have you talked any options over with your dr?

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No, I haven't. Are any of these safe when breastfeeding as I am still BFing our son.

yOh Charlie - you poor thing <hugs>. Been thinking of you...Just keep looking after yourself... don't feel guilty as that will make it all worse. My mum had big PND after I was born and apparently didn't want to hold me or anything - I used to want to go to my Dad. But my point is. It didn't affect my relationship with my Mum whatsoever. What I'm trying to say is - don't worry about baby right now. Baby is fine... baby won't mind if you feel dreadful and regretful. Just concentrate on you and working through your grief... xx

babymad - <hugs> to you too. It does feel as though everyone else in the world seems to be able to have girls. ALL my friends have girls. I tend to expect everyone but me to be pregnant with a girl. I always say my boys are going to have the pick of the lot when it comes to women!

Great names guys. I love Lily. Ewan and Ashton are great names maybe - I have a particular soft spot for Ewan after teaching an adorable one :D
We don't have names 100% sorted. I really thought I had the name when we found out but DH isn't sure. I have maybe 3 names possibly... need to think about them more. I have to admit that one of my favourites is actually the name of DHs family dog. I know I know... that is a bit weird. But hey the dog won't be around forever. My nephew is called Max and my childhood cat was called Max - so if my brother can do it... why can't we used another pet name :D

Inglewood - you must be feeling huge??? Can't imagine 2 4lb babies wiggling around in there!

I had a "lovely" day. The kind where you just want to strangle 25 children all at once! Was doing supply teaching at a school and serious they were the worst class I've ever had. I actually yelled... I've never yelled before. But they did NOT listen. Its the first time I have never warmed to a single child in a class. Evil monsters!!! I was sooooo looking forward to getting my lovely boys from childcare!!!!

Hope everyone is going well.... x

Urgh I just tried to brush my teeth with hand gel! Weirdo lol

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Originally Posted by GeCon

No, I haven't. Are any of these safe when breastfeeding as I am still BFing our son.

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I'm really not sure but think it's something worth discussing with your Dr. though if it gives you options!

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Originally Posted by Kell

Urgh I just tried to brush my teeth with hand gel! Weirdo lol

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:rofl: pregnancy brain ;)

Lovely names ladies! :) :agree:

Pinga ~ good luck choosing a name.. it's so hard finding that perfect, special name! you've still got a few weeks to decide though :)

Lavenderlime ~ when are you testing?

Maybebaby ~ I vote for Ashton! such a lovely name :) only 3 more days eeek! I can't begin to tell you how excited I am for you :D can you believe it, you're soon gonna meet Dave :p

AFM, Serena is 2 months old today :D i can't believe how fast it's gone by!

btw ladies! i know this is a touchy subject so i hope i don't upset anyone as it's not my intention, but i just have to bring it up as it's been on my mind alot lately and i'd like your opinions on the subject!

background story:
one of my best friends is pregnant and her OH doesn't want the baby and they're in a bad financial situation atm so they've decided to have a termination which will be done next week.

Fair enough. Now although I could never ever go through a termination myself I don't judge people who choose to go down that route so I am putting my own feelings aside and supporting my friend 110% at this difficult time in her life. but this has made me think... and i can't help but think it's very strange that it's legal and socially acceptable to end your pregnancy just because you don't want to have a baby when like in this particular case it could have easily been avoided, but for some reason it's not socially acceptable nor legal to have PGD because it's to "play god"? if anything, isn't ending a life to "play god"? and what on earth is this "designer baby" statement all about? isn't picking and choosing which children to keep and which children to have aborted to create a "designer lifestyle"?
It really gets on my nerves that this society detest the idea of gender selection when in fact it could prevent alot of abortions, heartache and PND.. i can't help but feel that if we need medical reasons to perform gender selection then we should also really need medical reasons to perform abortions. I just wonder where did the society go wrong? Why is the idea of gender selection so frightening to people that we hide behind silly excuses like "needing medical reasons" "playing god" "designer baby" bla bla bla the list can go on forever..

like i said, choosing to have an abortion is obviously a very personal choice and i don't judge people who's had it done, each to their own! that's not what i'm trying to get at here, i just don't understand why it's legal when pgd isn't?

what are your thoughts on this?

Charlie, thinking of you, be strong, big hugs x x

Love the babies names :-)))

I TOTALLY agree with you Sunset, just doesnt seem right to me either!!!!

Babymad, I looked into adoption briefly brfore trying this swaying stuff lol, i always loved the idea of adopting a little chinese girl :-) that is until i saw how much it would cost!!!! Could do 2 pgd cycles for less so i think if i had the choice i would do the ivf.

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sunset - i completely agree with you about the legalization of PGD whilst abortion is also legal. I myself carnt really comment to much on abortion as i have had two myself and wouldn't want to sound too hypocritical. But id just like to point out that i was very young when i had them (under 16) i felt pushed into having them by my parents at the time and i was with my partner i have now. I was a very unruly child at the time. my parents hated my bf and wouldnt let me see him. i used to skive off school everyday just to see him. when i was grounded during school holidays i would sneak out of the house when they were asleep so i could meet him. Then at one point i ran away from home and she got the social services to come and bring me back. As you have probably guessed i was off the rails! After the second abortion it was really a big wake up call for me. i just regretted it since the moment it happened. my mam knew it had affected me but im a strong person and dont like to show my feelings so when she tried to get me counseling i wouldn't co-operate. Eventually after time things started to get better but i always wanted that baby i had got rid of. Thats why i think i had ds1 quite young i mean i was 17 when i fell pregnant and 18 when i had him but i felt it was the right time for me to have a baby. when i fell pg with ds1 i just coudnt bring myself to tell my parents as i didnt want them to pressurise me into trying to have another baby aborted so i kept it a serect stayed away from home and moved in with my dp's parents with them and barely spoke to my mam. Eventually word got to her that i was pregnant and she asked me if it was true and i told her i was and i wasnt getting rid of it. she told me i was ruining my life etc etc. after time she accepted it and was there for his birth and my parents put aside their differences with my dp and got on. Now i can honestly say i have never had an arguement or dissagreement with my mam or my dad for nearly 6 yrs. When i think about it now its all so very sad and i wish it never had happened but i always knew that i couldnt go through with it again.

i watched this morning yesturday and they had a news report saying that 2 medical experts were wanting to legalise after birth abortions. Meaning that the lady could have the option of going through the whole 9 months of pregnancy giving birth to the baby and then having the option to have the baby aborted. especially if the baby was born with disabilitys etc. i thought that was absolutely horrific! couldnt imagine anyone going through that and coming out the end of it without any mental issues further on. and like phil and holly said who on earth would carry out the job in aborting the newborn baby? just so sad!

Charlie - ive really got you on my mind at the mo! depression is terrible! i hope you can pull yourself through it all! big hugs to you. xxx

Lmw, holy cow I never saw that on the telly that's crazy! Sorry but it's not abortion it's just plain murder.

I believe people have the right to choice and if an abortion is part of that then its ok by me, but I don't think I could have one. I did think about it with ds1 as I was young also (19).
Having said that I havent been in a financial situation like your friend sunset so I don't think I can comment unless I'm in that situation iyswim?
I do think it's crazy people can look down on gender selection and not on abortion, I think it's pretty hypocritical! But hey who am I to judge others!

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sunset - i completely agree with you about the legalization of PGD whilst abortion is also legal. I myself carnt really comment to much on abortion as i have had two myself and wouldn't want to sound too hypocritical. But id just like to point out that i was very young when i had them (under 16) i felt pushed into having them by my parents at the time and i was with my partner i have now. I was a very unruly child at the time. my parents hated my bf and wouldnt let me see him. i used to skive off school everyday just to see him. when i was grounded during school holidays i would sneak out of the house when they were asleep so i could meet him. Then at one point i ran away from home and she got the social services to come and bring me back. As you have probably guessed i was off the rails! After the second abortion it was really a big wake up call for me. i just regretted it since the moment it happened. my mam knew it had affected me but im a strong person and dont like to show my feelings so when she tried to get me counseling i wouldn't co-operate. Eventually after time things started to get better but i always wanted that baby i had got rid of. Thats why i think i had ds1 quite young i mean i was 17 when i fell pregnant and 18 when i had him but i felt it was the right time for me to have a baby. when i fell pg with ds1 i just coudnt bring myself to tell my parents as i didnt want them to pressurise me into trying to have another baby aborted so i kept it a serect stayed away from home and moved in with my dp's parents with them and barely spoke to my mam. Eventually word got to her that i was pregnant and she asked me if it was true and i told her i was and i wasnt getting rid of it. she told me i was ruining my life etc etc. after time she accepted it and was there for his birth and my parents put aside their differences with my dp and got on. Now i can honestly say i have never had an arguement or dissagreement with my mam or my dad for nearly 6 yrs. When i think about it now its all so very sad and i wish it never had happened but i always knew that i couldnt go through with it again.

i watched this morning yesturday and they had a news report saying that 2 medical experts were wanting to legalise after birth abortions. Meaning that the lady could have the option of going through the whole 9 months of pregnancy giving birth to the baby and then having the option to have the baby aborted. especially if the baby was born with disabilitys etc. i thought that was absolutely horrific! couldnt imagine anyone going through that and coming out the end of it without any mental issues further on. and like phil and holly said who on earth would carry out the job in aborting the newborn baby? just so sad!

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lmw bless your heart sounds like you had a really hard time as a teenager. dont think you need to justify your reasons for aborting, as i said i don't judge anyone and I think it's good that we do have that choice in england these days.. all i tried to say is i dont understand the logic that we have free will wether to keep a baby or not, but we can't perform PGD because it's thought of as "playing god" when in fact all we do is to put a sperm and an egg together and leave the rest up to god. as humans we are never in charge of creating life, just because we penetrate an egg with a xx sperm in a dish doesnt mean it's going to develope into a blastocyst.. that part is completely up to god, we just create a window of opportunity. this debate is just so ridiculous as we can then take it one step further and say IVF to treat infertility is wrong as well because if god intended infertile people to have children they would then fall pregnant naturally etc etc. when really we should see it as a great gift that we do have the technology to help infertile couples to conceive and for other couples to balance out their families with that daughter or son they so desperately long for.

about the aborting after birth debate.. that must be the most terrible thing i have ever heard!!! how can someone even suggest to make murder legal! that also brings on the question that at what point does a baby/child get human rights? can we perform after birth abortions up until 1 day old? 1 week old? 2 months? 5 years? 18 years? thank heavens in england today we have human rights and do so from 24 weeks of pregnancy!!
i guess these doctors or whoever was pro after birth abortions were men? they dont say you experience a gush of love for your baby at birth for nothing. it's called mother nature!

heres the article in the sun

Slaughter newborn kids, say academics | The Sun |News|Politics

Wow I cannot believe that!! Crazy....I also consider once it's born, it's a child and therefore that would be murder.

Sunset, I agree completely with you about the legalization of abortion but the outrage about PGD. I also agree with your idea that women are already creating "designer lives" by choosing what children to keep, etc etc, so how can sex selection be much different than what's already going on?

Personally, I couldn't have an abortion. That's just me. I don't think I've ever said this on this forum, but when I was pregnant with DS1, I had occular melanoma. It was cancer in my left eye.

My OB wanted me to have an abortion, because I was still in my first trimester. After talking to my oncologist about it, he said that my cancer was caught early and very confined in my eye and he said the possible amount of radiation that my baby *might* recieve would be the equivilent of flying across the country (US). So both my eye and cancer doctors really reassured me that everything would be OK to keep going. I mean, I would have really been hard pressed to have an abortion. The doctors would have really had to tell me something atricious would happen to me or the baby if I had kept the pregnancy. I was 29 and although DS1 was an opps, I had desperately wanted to be pg for years, but my DH (boyfriend) at time, wasn't ready, so when the pregnancy happened, I was so grateful that having cancer on top of it felt very cruel, like fate was trying to take away what I had so longed for.

DS1 is now a happy 4 year old, funny, silly, big dimples, just pure amazing. He's in great health. DS2 is a chubby, grouchy 10 month old who wants things his way or the highway.

Anyhow, it's been 5 years since I have had cancer, and I'm healthy, and of course pregnant with number 3. I could have stopped after DS1, but I really wanted a big family, and I think if anything ever did happen to me (we never do know what's going to happen), I still think giving my kids siblings will be a great gift; to have each other.

Sorry for going on and on....love you guys.

On another note, I don't judge anyone for having an abortion. I really, truly believe every woman has to live the life she feels best. Life is not easy, so therefore I cannot look at someone else's life and see what is right/wrong for them. I can only guide my own the best I know how :)

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heres the article in the sun

Slaughter newborn kids, say academics | The Sun |News|Politics

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OMG!!! shocking....

auroara78 im so happy to hear you're doing well now!! it must have been very frightening to suffer from cancer..life really isnt fair sometimes

Sunset, it was, and I still sometimes am afriad to be really happy, I sort of lost trust in things being OK because I've seen the other side and I know how scary life can sometimes be...on the other hand, my cancer treatment was just 4 days of a localized radiation, and my dear friend and cousin, Jennifer, who is only 41, has stage 2 breast cancer and has been fighting it since LAST August!!

Compared to her journey mine was thankfully very short. I am thankful all the time of finding it early, etc, and I decided after I had cancer, that I wasn't going to stop or change my life plans because of it, I was going to keep living the way I imagined for myself, and I wasn't going to let it hold me back, or be afraid to do something.

It's not something I like to talk about very much because of the preconcieved notions of cancer and then having kids. Many people would think i was totally crazy for going on and having 3 kids after such a diagnosis, but cancer is one of those things now that isn't a death sentence, and treatments have come a long way. It's really very dependent on a lot of factors, that a person has to weigh, etc.

Aww Auroara, you have every right to have children!! so glad you found the cancer early and in the clear now :-)

LMW, that sounds awful what you have been though, so glad you and your mum get on well now thou :-)

That artical is just the worst, who in gods name would do such a thing? disgusting.

How are you doing maybe? 3 days and counting!!!!!!! x