Lets just say you won the lottery, heaps and heaps of money. Would you go HT for your dream gender? I think i probably would.
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Lets just say you won the lottery, heaps and heaps of money. Would you go HT for your dream gender? I think i probably would.
I don't know!
Yes i would! :)
Money isn't the reason we aren't doing it so nope, I guess it wouldn't change it for us. If I do win a gazillion dollars though I'd happily sponsor many other women here to have their go at it :)
No, I wouldn't do it. Only because with some of the methods, good embryos are discarded.. and I couldn't live with that. I also couldn't live with donating them, cos they'd be MY babies, with another family.. I almost wish I could do it though!! ;)
This is how I feel too ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by hopingforsaskia
I'm not sure.
Do you mind me asking what is the reason? Just curious :)Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
It varies :) Forget finances, it's a huge emotional and physical investment, and also, for ME, I can't get comfortable with the unused embryos. If I knew I'd have no embies leftover I'd do it...if I could do IVF/PGD and get just one XY embryo and know he'd go to live birth, I'd be all in! I'd also be all over something like a micro-sort, where no embryos are created/discarded, if MS was available still AND a better success rate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Orchid
Anyhow I don't judge anyone else for doing it and like another poster said, I *wish* that I was ok with it for me.
nope!
in a heartbeat. after having multiple m/c, I would even consider it, not for gender selection, but just to give me the knowledge that the embryo inside me was chromosomally normal, and thus more likely to survive.
I would! I don't know why the embryo thing doesn't bother me....I guess it's because I've lost 4 babies total in my lifetime, and the easiest way for me to get over that is reminding myself that they are just a little ball of cells, and that ZILLIONS of little tiny balls of cells die or don't make it every second of the day around the world. It's nature. Of course, in my position, this is an easy question to answer. But I love your idea, Begonia....I would totally sponsor others having IVF just to have babies in the first place. Infertility forums are a much different world than this site. You can't even mention pregnancy or babies or anything related to that without a disclaimer that you are going to mention it because it is too painful for some women who struggle with infertility and have no children at all.
I have to say no because the idea of the discared embryos would bother me, esp. the xy ones that would be left behind, I'd be thinking of my sons I currently have, and it just wouldn't feel right to *me*. Though I totally understand that biologically they are just a bunch of cells, I couldn't do it.
And I support each and every woman in their decisions to do HT :) I do admire the road taken, because for me it seems very hard, the money, the emotional and physical aspects, so bravo to all you ladies who could undertake it!
If we won the lottery and had tons of money, I would be tempted to "duggar it out" hahahahah :rofl:
Or at least I know if we had heaps of money we would go for number 4 for sure, and maybe a number 5.
Unfortunately yes I would do it. I wish I could say no, but honestly I would. I dont live in a country where this is a possibility and also my dh would never ever ever agree....
I use to say no way but if it would be just one baby like begonia said then i would have done it for #3. But no not anymore because I don't want more kids at all.
If I would get rich I would pay for good schools for my girls , take them on vacations in the summers , have some nice times with DH and things like that .Not having more babys for sure.
Iīm not sure, Iīd have to find myself in the situation to be sure but I believe I wouldnīt.
It would take my desire for a girl on a whole different level, now itīs just part of wanting a third child and enjoyable things like pregnancy and having a newborn again, going High tech would put me in a :ī I will do anything to have a girlī and īI wonīt be happy without a daughterī-perspective. That would make me very vulnerable. And you donīt know how many cycles it will take and if you will get pregnant. A lot of possible stress and hurt. Iīm still in a stage in which I believe my life will be a happy one if I concentrate on the good things I have and not on the things I donīt have. This might change in July... lol
I donīt judge people that go HT in any way, if people really just want a child of their desired gender and they have the finances, I think going HT is the best thing they can do.
I think that to some extent, money controls who can even try HT. That is unfortunate.
Most of us using HT have 3,4 of the same gender. Had HT been more approachable and an option earlier, I could have done it for child #3 and then go back for any frosties for child 4 regardless of gender. That IS an option. You can go back for your embryos.
It is a decision of knowing that you are not okay with another child of the same gender. It is hard to look at yourself in the mirror and be honest. I don't feel bad for doing it though. Had I not gone for it, my son would not exist. We would have had no more children.
With the extra embryos, it's always a possibility but you are lucky to end up with one or two at the end. If you go into it open to more children down the road, it may still be an option for some of you.
Swaying is way harder. Requires much more self discipline and commitment. HT is expensive but in many ways, it is out of your control which makes it easier in some ways!
There are some clinics offering sorting with an IUI now. It's not MS but it is an option.
In a heart beat!!!! I would go for twin boys!
Nope, I couldn't bear the thought of any of my babies (embryos) getting discarded :(. I have ethical isues with PGD/IVF. If I had a gazillion dollars though I suppose I could have a gazillion babies and then most likely would end up with both genders though. ;)
I don't think I would. My husband would never agree to it first of all (but since this is a fantasy, we'll pretend he agreed) and secondly, every time I've ever been on a prescription drug I've had a major allergic reaction to it and my age means I'd be way unlikely to succeed anyway (but again, for purposes of fantasy, I'll set those aside.)
But the real reason is, I just KNOW I would be that woman who didn't get XX or didn't get pg with them, and then decides to implant XY instead. I KNOW with every fiber of my being I would do this! And I'm not even sure I would discard a Downs Syndrome embryo either, I think I might implant it believe it or not. So to my mind, I can brew up XY at home for free LOL. Course, I got over my GD most of the way too, and I've never been in the position of not wanting another boy, it's just that I DID want a girl too. Plus like Auroara points out, if money was no object I'd feel ok about having lots (more) kids anyway and so why not Duggar it out???
If money was no object I actually can see myself funding HT for others and not for myself! I know that's weird but I know so many people whose lives have been destroyed by GD and who deserve their DG, it would bring me more pleasure to make a lot of people's dreams come true than just mine alone.
Yep I think I would do it and then in an ideal world donate any left over eggs to an infertile couple. I don't know if that's even possible of course.
With a slightly different twist, if I won the lottery my secret desire would be too fund lots of HT for any members here ;) and also to go through an IVF cycle and hire some surrogates so I could meet all of my babies:oops: I don't know why I put embarrassed at this I suppose just because its slightly extreme, but slightly extreme is allowed here at GD!! But I would honestly love to meet alot of my children and money would allow me to cheat a little:bigsmile:
Yes I would...if money was no issue and I had endless supplies of it....I would go natural this time and have another girl for sure...then go HT and have either twin boys or two separate boys via HT. How wonderful...6 girls and 2 boys!!!
If I could ever choose to have a family of 8 kids, that's exactly the family make-up I'd chose. That, or 5 girls and 3 boys ;).Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess of Pink
That was my grandma's family, 6 girls and then 2 boys at the end! Jimmy and Jackie.Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess of Pink
If I had a huge amount of money then I would go HT, I would love to say I would keep going the natural way until I got my DD, but don't think my body or mind would cope with loads of kids. Babies yes, but then they grow and get attitude. LOL x
I would do it, both for family balancing and a healthy baby girl.
I don't think HT is an easy decision for most, both because of finances and ethics, not to mention the emotional costs involved. But, for women who have had difficulty getting pregnant, unhealthy pregnancies resulting in miscarriage, multiple miscarriages, high risk pregnancies, or have known genetic diseases and/or who also want to have more family balance, I think HT is a sound choice.
I think there is definitely compelling reasons for couples to go the HT route. I admire those that do it, and like I said, I *wish* I could. I certainly hold no judgement what so ever for those that choose to do things the HT way, for whatever reasons they choose it!! :)
Oh hell yes.