Facebook is just a rotten factor in gender disappointment
So there is this gal I knew back in college. We weren't especially close (perhaps "frenemies," lol) but we've been linked on Facebook for several years. She has a little boy who just turned six and last year was pregnant with her second son. Her 37 week appointment was just fine and at her 38 week appointment, there was no heartbeat. She had to deliver him stillborn, name him, have a funeral, everything.
Well, she just announced on Facebook that she's 16 weeks pregnant and will be having her gender ultrasound in a few weeks. And I can't ~believe~ how many people are commenting about her having a girl. Comments like "GIRL! GIRL! GIRL!" and "I'm thinking pink and hoping for pink" and "Thinking girl all the way."
Um, hello, people? She lost her ~son~ a year ago and you're throwing on all this pressure for a girl? The implication is even if they see a fully healthy baby at that ultrasound, it'll still be "less than" if the results are blue? Don't you suppose she'll be thrilled no matter what the gender, simply because there is such a hole in heart from the baby she lost?
People absolutely baffle me and it just ticks me off. Even my DH who, although he was very supportive and participatory with the whole swaying thing, doesn't really "get" GD, even he thought that was pretty a-holish for someone who's lost a baby.
Am I wrong here or are people who've never dealt with GD (or pregnancy loss) just morons?
Vent over. Thanks for listening. I shall now chill the heck out. :wave: