Would a DG at #5 actually "balance" the family?
Hi everyone,
I haven't been on the introductions forum but I thought I'd be more relevant here. I am currently 14 weeks pregnant - had my NT scan last week and the scan technician, who is very experienced, asked me whether I wanted a gender guess. I did, and she said confidently, "it's a boy", then looked again from a different angle, chuckled, and said, "yep, it's a boy." So that's probably DS4 on his way, my third pregnancy (DS2 and DS3 are twins!). We had tried Shettles with the twins but had mistimed it... I didn't know anything back then. With this current pregnancy we had done a committed sway, drunk more milk than we ever thought possible, home cooked everything to eliminate salt, timed it, sudafed, almost everything except TBM.
Some days I am OK with GD, if I keep busy, other days it gets overwhelming to the point where my DH has to steer me past the baby girls' clothes section to buy clothes for our older boys. My eldest, DS1, came with me to the scan because he wanted to see the computers, but he had been freely and sweetly expressing that he really wanted it to be a girl, and who can blame him, he's got two very naughty little brothers and when you're that age, you don't see that they're cute, just annoying and they fight. He is so good with them but DH is shocked that even DS1 has GD!!! ... and DS1 asked me, "But *I* don't think your tummy only makes boy babies, Mummy, you could grow another one!" I had to say to him, "Oh J-, I wish Mummy could keep having babies to see whether they turn out to be girls, but I can't!"
The day after my scan I felt so emotional and weepy, and gutted that for all I know I might as well not have done the sway and put myself through all that stressing and horrid diet. I started looking at HT and wishing that I had just done that. I thought I had partly protected myself from too much GD by choosing a really nice name for our DS4 in advance, but GD thoughts still creep back in. Having been through the sway with me, DH can read my mind. I was a bit shocked, though, when I told him about HT and how IVF/PGD works and how it gives you 99.9% DG (barring human error), and in principle he agreed and said, yes, it's good to know at least we have that option.
The idea of going HT and having guaranteed girl baby or no more babies has kept me going this past week. But now I'm thinking in detail, both about the logistics, timing, etc and whether it's really right for our family. I am freaking out about the idea of 5.
I would love to hear from ladies who have had 3 or 4 (or more!!) DSs and then gone on to have a DD! (either naturally or HT). Or the other way around... are there boys out there with a carful of older sisters? Does it really balance the family or does the girl feel left out because there's so much boy stuff around? I'm really worried that it would be a really lopsided family, more so than families of all one gender who can just do one thing (do the boy thing or do the girl thing). I think same gender families have so much cool identity, and I'm planning to announce this baby with a really loud, "Hey!! We've got that barber-shop quartet we always wanted, yay!" or something incredibly fake and cheery like that, to stop the comments. Also, I would barely be able to stand the comments of "Aaah, they kept going until they got their girl". Mind you, I hate the comments full stop. But I can't let go of the girly dream. The evil GD demon has me in its grip.
Not even thinking of what we're going to do about a car! DH only ever wanted 2, he was a PP and so was his mother before that!! I wish I could talk to my departed grandmother - she was one of 13, and she had 3 boys, then 2 girls, then another boy!
:DS: DS1 (2007)
very tiny :broken: (2009)
:DS: :DS: DS2&3 twins (2010)
Swayed for a :DD: but probably :DS: DS4 (due July 2013)
Now wondering about HT