My story...I will try to make it short.
Got married, and thought I would have some fertility issues due to cervix surgeries and thyroid issues...but got preggo first try. Had an extremely difficult pregnancy. Severe sickness, basically bathroom ridden 24/7 the entire pregnancy. Started having contractions at 12 weeks, saw specialists and kept getting cervix and contractions monitored. Started dialating at 23 weeks and was bedridden. Was given meds, nothing stopped them. Went into active labor at 28 weeks, hospitalized and they got it under control. Everytime I left the hospital and was taken off mag. I would go back into labor and re-admitted. Also had a terbutaline pump (ugh hate that stuff). Anyhoo by the time I was 34 weeks I was dialated to a 7 and the Dr's allowed me have my sweet little boy. He had a week in the NICU and is perfect. He's 16 months now.
My dream for another child is plagued by terrible pregnancy memories. My families history is too get violently ill and I seemed to inherit that. The pre-term labor issue is most likely an aggravated uterus issue. Plus I have a shorter cervix. The Dr's can't tell me if it will happen again. I have a gut feeling it will and that this time it may be a much earlier delivery.
When I think about when and why I would want to go through this again...it's b/c I want a little girl. I'm not sure if my next pregnancy will go worse and I will have a much more pre-mature baby. At that point I wouldn't try for a 3rd.
So I am contemplating PGD here in Phoenix Az. My husband is open to a consult. I'm just having moral issues...am I playing God here? Is it wrong to want a girl so badly? I know most of you have multiple of one sex and that's why you turn to PGD...I'm not sure how many chances I get for my girl, or if I will be able to mentally and physically handle a third pregnancy if my second is another boy.
Any thoughts? Any of you deal with these same feelings? Thank you for any input. Also~have any of you been to Advanced Fertility Care in Phoenix, Az?? They offer PGD.