gender abortions? Please leave me out of it.
This is not directed at any person or persons in particular but just a general statement. I am not trying to start a flame-fest or argument, I just have to say this.
I do not support abortions for gender selection. I totally understand gender disappointment and I know that some of the wonderful ladies on this site are in situations in their culture or situation where they feel such a great pressure for a baby of a particular gender, that they don't feel like they have any option, but it is not what I am about. I'm not trying to judge or be harsh in any way because I know that everyone has a different moral compass and what you believe may not be the same as what I believe, but I just morally can't help you with that and live with myself.
I occasionally get the vibe that for a small minority of people, they are obsessed with knowing gender very early for the reason of pregnancy termination of an opposite, and it is just not something that I am at all comfy with. The methods of telling gender early on in pregnancy, be it by darkness of pregnancy test, beta, Ramzi, side of ovulation, Sneak Peek blood tests, Urobiologics, the moon phase you ovulated in, the "Chinese Calendar" which is completely made up, or even nub shots, none of them are 100% reliable for telling gender and most of them don't even work at all. Repeat, yes, even nub shots - YOU CANNOT TELL GENDER FROM ULTRASOUNDS IN THE 10th and 11th WEEK regardless of who claims otherwise on other sites. So matters of personal ethics aside you may very well end up aborting a child of your desired gender by using unreliable methods to predict gender, or using reliable methods too soon.
ABOVE ALL ELSE YOU CANNOT TELL YOUR BABY'S GENDER FROM "FEELINGS" HOWEVER STRONG THEY MAY BE. There are so many of us who had strong feelings about their baby's gender who were WRONG. Please, please, please I beg you do not terminate a pregnancy on the basis of your feelings, intuition, psychic ability and so on.
:nyd:You can't tell your baby's gender from darkness of pregnancy tests. knowing your baby gender from your pregnancy test !!!! (my reply is on the second page)
:nyd:You can't tell your baby's gender from betas/HCG levels. knowing your baby gender from your pregnancy test !!!! (my reply is on the second page.)
:nyd:You can't tell your baby's gender from where you felt O pains. You can't even tell what side you ovulated from where you felt O pains ovulation pain and spotting - in depth. and Side of ovulation and gender
:nyd: Ramzi - has been unreliable for many and I have seen several people send Dr. Ramzi himself $10 to guess on their ultrasound and he guessed WRONG. Nub shots are all well and good but nubs before the end of the 12th week are totally unreliable. Additionally, unless a tech has been well trained, it is totally possible to get inaccurate info and bad shots and sometimes techs are just wrong. Thorz scan 12w4d measuring 13w2d and Nub theory - official study!
:nyd:You can't tell your baby's gender from an ultrasound that tells you what side you ovulated from. We have seen plenty of opposites with this. Side of ovulation and gender
:nyd:You can't tell your baby's gender from where you think you felt implantation. That is IMPOSSIBLE and if the uterus was that sensitive, pregnancy and childbirth would be excruciating.
:nyd: The blood tests, gender predictor tests, cabbage tests, Chinese Calendar, OWT, symptoms have proven themselves again and again to be unreliable. Even the DNA blood test has produced opposite results and none of the others are reliable at all.
:nyd: You shouldn't panic because your sway didn't go the way you wanted it to...people get their desired gender every day without doing anything to sway, and even "perfect" sways produce opposites. Please don't despair over a sway that didn't go according to plan, you still have a great chance at your desired gender. I have fielded many questions from people wanting to take the morning after pill or drink parsley tea when their sway didn't work out and the majority did get their DG so please don't go this route. There have been people who DID go this route and baby stayed stuck through the grace of God, and they got their DG.
:hug2: I love you guys and sorry for the awkward subject matter, I just don't want anyone to make any decisions based out of desperation, that anyone would then have to live with for the rest of their lives.