So, at the doctor yesterday, i mentioned going for a 3rd. She referred to my age (39) and the risk of abnormalities, she listed them. She also mentioned some study that states couples are happier with a 2 kids / smaller family than a bigger family with lots of kids. She herself has two boys and a girl. I think she was trying to have that chat with me that most people dont.. Everyone else is 'just do it, just go for it'!! I mean, i have thought about the risks with my age etc.. but she's made me nervous. She also mumbled on about gender and having the same gender again - like, it just works out that way!