Originally Posted by
BeachBabies2
Hello!
I hope this is the right place to put this, it's my first time posting. I have two awesome boys and we've decided to have a third child so I'm doing whatever I can within reason to just up the chances for a girl. I have some questions and hope someone can give me some reassurance that I'm going in a good direction. I started in very early June with the le diet and were thinking of ttc sometime in September. I'm trying to make this more of a lifestyles (temporary) change, so I'm thinking of only using the fitness pal app for another week or two and then less worrying less about it. I'm probably worrying too much with all this anyway, which is what I'd like some reassurance on so that I can relax into it more.
-speaking of relaxing... I'm sure everyone is different, but what's the best attitude to have- I feel great about swaying because I'm honoring my needs and don't feel like I'm doing anything too crazy, but then I also catch myself feeling negative often, thinking like "this won't even work anyway."
-I'm still in the process of weaning my 18 mo old from breastfeeding. We're down to 2 or 1 a day, and I'm wondering if it's at all beneficial for me to keep the once a day for a while until or through ttc.
-related to that, I've been eating the max calories fat and protein within the limits because of breastfeeding and also because I was already at my lowest adult weight after breastfeeding this time around and running around after my two boys. Either way, breastfeeding or done, I'm a little confused at how many calories I should be doing when I add in walking / cardio 4-6 times a week, considering that I'm still losing weight currently with this diet added in and I just started a few weeks ago. If I need to stop or slow weight loss (with cardio and BF or just with cardio if I'm still losing weight too much) do I up the calories, fat, and protein or just calories? I am 5'5" by the way and 146 lb which is the lowest adult weight I've been.
-does it matter if the time of day for exercise is the same every day? I'd like to think I'll do 6 times a week for 60 min but if it ends up being 3 or 4 is tnat still beneficial or is it then into boy land?
-I've been allowing small cheats on the weekends if we're at families houses and I just try to skip snacking and skip breakfast still, I just stay within or around the limits and have small amounts of the biggest offenders. Some things that feel like things I used to eat a lot of... I'm a little unsure about because of that, but I'm still within the limits--- like yogurt (fat free versus whole as before though), red wine, chocolate, cheese (within limits for all of this so that's probably less than I ate before, and before I smacked often)... bananas, Amy's veggie burgers (they have basically just veg and oats?), soy sauce ..... so these things make me feel like I shouldn't eat them at all because they feel like "me". I can switch to lighter alcohol if it matters- any other thoughts?
-coffee- I love, I'm glad to drink lots of it now and it helps me skip breakfast which was definitely something I never ever did before. And I ate eggs basically every day before. Anyway, I just do coffee with cream no sugar. How much cream is okay? I don't want to undermine the sway because it feels like a big feat to me that I'm able to skip breakfast (it's not as crazy as I thought!)
-in the past, OPKs have been confusing for me and given me two positives and all that- I've bought them to test out in the coming months for this sway but if I end up getting confusing signs again, should I just do E4D? If the OPKs work fine, then how often should we have protected sex leading up to the try? I would assume just whenever or like every few days for sperm health but ... what if one of the times bumps right up into the OPK day- is that bad?
-is having an orgasm still a bad idea?
Thank you for your time!