So scared to TTC - Swaying for a Girl
Can anyone help me or offer advice/positive view.
We have been thinking about conceiving our 3rd baby since about March and I have been swaying for a girl. This is all well and good however every month when the time comes I freak out and decide against even trying as I am so scared it's going to be a boy.
We already have 2 girls and not to offend anyone I can only see myself with girls (this is my issue) girls are all I know. What if I don't click with a boy and trucks and guns and all that boy stuff. Theres so many reasons why, like I want my girls to have that close sisterly relationship when they get older and if I have a boy will he be left out now? Also I keep thinking later on when they are older is a boy just going to find a wife and then distance himself from me (would break my heart) this issue comes from my own brothers, who found wives and don't really seem to care about their own family anymore and just do everything their wives want them to do and just push me and my parents out of the picture.
I have tried for months to try and get my head around and picture my life with a little boy in it but I just can't. It gives me so much anxiety to the point of feeling so sick.
Every month I put it off, the age gap just keeps getting bigger and thats not what I wanted.
Does this mean maybe I should just stick with two children? I love my girls so much and am so scared a 3rd will put them out and upset them. They (for the most part) play happily and gentle. Will a boy come in and wreak havoc? Or am I just stereotyping?
I just cannot get myself over the line to even try to conceive as I am so scared. I am also sick of thinking about it all and trying to work it out in my head and tell myself it will be okay.
Ultimately all we want is a healthy baby and I hate that I even have these thoughts. But the anxiety is killer and it won't go away no matter how hard I try.
I want to be okay before trying to conceive with the possibility that baby #3 could be a boy otherwise i'm so scared of falling pregnant and just being an anxious mess.