First and only child for me, swaying for pink
Hi everyone! I'm new to this forum and geesh, here's so much information - I'm overwhelmed!
My husband has two boys from his previous marriage and after a very long, almost marriage-ending talk we agreed to have one child together. It would be my first and only and most definitely last for my husband. I really would like to have a girl because I lived with my mother and I would like to have the same type of relationship with my daughter. For years I thought that I don't want kids at all because I was so afraid I would end up having a boy. I don't have a clue how to raise or be with boys. Of course, after living with my husband's two sons I realized that a boy would be ok too. My subconscious has been working very hard so I wouldn't be so disappointed with a boy - I'm constantly dreaming about having a boy and always the boy is the most beautiful thing in the world to me. But I still prefer a baby girl.
First we had to find out if my 40 years old husband could have kids. He has a organ transplant (happened after having two boys) so he has to eat a lot of medications to keep that organ going. The doctor told him that it is risky to get pregnant because his medications have a slight impact on quality of the sperm (they have greater impact on eggs so luckily I'm not the one who has to eat them) which may cause at worse case scenario a miscarriage or severe malformations so we have to monitor the pregnancy more closely. At first we were so afraid that we almost dropped the whole idea of having a baby at all. But the doctor said that there are other couples who were in the same situation and have had healthy kids. He said that fear shouldn't stop us if we really want this.
So my husband is quite "old" already and doesn't have top quality sperm. In addition, I'm 32 years old and have a autoimmune disease which makes it more difficult for me to get pregnant and increases the chance of miscarriage. I have been going trough these things for a while now and occasionally it has been overwhelming. Just too much sometimes. I'm just going this loop in my head "Oh, please, let me get pregnant. Please, don't let me miscarriage. Please, let the baby be healthy. Please, don't let my husband change his mind again. Please, is it too much to ask if the baby would be a girl as well..?".
This is the first time I ever said these things "out loud". It feels so good to get these things out of my chest!
So after all this we agreed to start trying in April-May. Yey! It's been a looooong time. Not so many months anymore! My husband doesn't believe in swaying and doesn't care which one we get so I have kept this for myself. I have already started taking multivitamin which have highly absorbable folic acid because I read it has great affects on a fetus. I googled and researched how to sway for a girl and I was already settled with Shettles method and measuring my pH because my cycle is very regular and I know when I ovulate but after reading this forum I'm not sure what to do anymore. We have so many things affecting everything (my husband's age, quality and maybe quantitative of the sperm, higher possibilities for the miscarriage) that I just have to start the research all over again! I'm thrilled how thorough everything has been explained here. I just need a dictionary to help me understand everything. :D
Every advice is very welcomed! I'm ready for everything!
Edit. This is the vitamin I've been taking: https://fi.iherb.com/pr/Life-Extensi...Capsules/78363
Not sure if to take these because of the vitamin D.
