Dealing with my family and gender disappointment
I have a girl and a boy, and did a half-hearted sway for a girl. I didn't do it extensively as I would love to have two of both eventually and wanted to leave this one up to the big man upstairs, especially since I have had issues with miscarriage. I'm having a boy and admittedly had a pang of disappointment. Not that I have any preference towards either of my kids but really wanted a sister for my daughter. And even though I want another, I felt ready for another girl. I have been doing a lot of self reflection trying to get to the bottom of my disappointment and finally figured it out...it all comes down to my family (my sisters and my mom). They prefer girls over boys. The girls are always doted on and preferred. It all came to a head yesterday when my sister told me that she and her husband want to try for a fourth. She already has 2 girls and one boy and said she's going to sway for another girl. She just KNOWS it'll be another girl because she's swayed with her others and it's worked out perfectly for her. She goes on to say how she does not want another boy - no way no how. I'm not sure why as her girls are brats. I think it's perception and being able to dress them up and show them off. Her obsession with having girls has started to get to me now. It's almost like I feel competitive with her. Because she wants a girl, I want a girl. I also am just annoyed with her in trying to stack her family so heavily with girls. Doesn't she care about her son dying for a brother?! IT's just all so weird to me. I'm trying to focus on myself and how I FEEL about boys or girls. Do I even care or is it just being driven by my fam? Anyone else ever struggled with this?