Mums of many girls followed by successful blue sways
Hello lovelies,
I was hoping to get some feedback from Mums of only/many girls (3+) that have successfully been able to conceive a boy after a sway ^^
If you are in that situation – would you pretty please share what your lifestyle was when you conceived your girls and what it was when you got your boy – and what you think were the likely changes that made all the difference (other than luck, obviously!).
There have been sooooo many successful blue sways on here of late, and I have tried to read the sways in detail where I could – but I need to build my confidence that yes, I will have done everything in my power to get our son – if we don’t at least, I know that I could not have done better IYKWIM? Basically, I need a pep talk to convince me that - “Yes, YOU (I) CAN (have a boy too)” lol
I have three girls – the youngest (my sway “opposite” baby) has just turned 1 and still is nursing, my cycle hasn’t returned (it did for a few months early on then disappeared again – too much nursing probably lol)– and I am not in (too much of) a hurry yet to have another baby (she is such a cuddle bug still too - whilst I was getting clucky by 1 y.o the first two times), mostly because I think I am so so so scared of not getting my boy.
I know that I would adore another girl – the way I have become so in love with the other three, but I really want to go into TTC #4 with no regrets, having given it my all. This baby will definitely be our last – I know Hubby will not be convinced for a #5, if this is another girl (even if it was a boy and I wanted another bub after him).
He is humoring me because he saw my distress when we found out #3 was a girl too – he would have been perfectly fine and happy with our three girls.
NB - Hubby is dead set against IVF w/ GS (even if we won the lotto and $ was no issue, he’d still say no – for him it is not ethical, he genuinely doesn’t give a hoot about gender, and would hate me for trying to push it) so it’s just not an option, unfortunately (I would consider it if we had $$$ to spare, because my mental health is likely to be affected if things don’t go the way I planned).
Whilst I bounced back (or forced myself to put up as brave front, rather) pretty quickly after finding out #3 was a girl – it still near broke me there for a while and I still get times where it cuts so very deep that I feel I could relapse and I feel terrible for almost ‘resenting’ the children I do have (for not being boys, if that makes sense??!) when really, I love them more than life itself. I know I should know better than listen to f*ing stupid comments, but they are made to me so often that I must admit I feel like a freak (people project their own insecurities and desires – and clearly, people immediately think “ 3 girls = 3 teenage girls” – and what stereotypes that come with that).
Thanks in advance!!