Peoples Opinions on Having More Children
I fell pregnant back in March/April of 2019 and as I’ve mentioned before I am pregnant with my fourth boy. With this one I did face GD because I tried for a girl but I’m slowly moving past it all. But what I found really upsetting this time was the blatant opinions of people when they find out you are having a fourth. Ironically most of the nasty and negative vibes have come from my own family or my in-laws. It’s really upsetting because while I was so incredibly close to them prior to this pregnancy, they suddenly felt entitled to pass the most hurtful comments with this one. To start not one person congratulated me when they found out. It was as if I had committed a crime by wanting more children. It may have something to do with the true fact that my hubby and I are going through a bit of a financial strain but at the same time we don’t rely on a single family member either. I was told by my sister in law, that “it’s so obvious you were trying for a girl and that’s the only reason you wanted a baby”. At the time I was so shocked by her statements I couldn’t think of what to say. She went on to saying, “ have you thought about living expenses? Medical bills?” Just horrible comments that made me want to cry. I just love coming on this forum and reading how positive all the women are with each other about having multiple kids. I don’t know whether anyone else has faced this with people but it has really contributed to my depression during this pregnancy. It’s hard for me to talk to people around me too because I don’t want to sound vulnerable. Why can’t people be happy for you? I’ve kept my distance really since then but I’m just wondering is this a normal reaction from family who should be supportive? Maybe I am missing something? Or wrong for wanting more kids. Would love to hear others thoughts x x x
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