Review my future Blue sway please! (TTC#4 after 3 girls - 1 being after a 'failed' sway)
Hello all,
Well, here I am at it again – obsessing, again :rolleyes: and it’s questions Galore!
We probably will be TTC mid next year, if I can get hubby still happy with the idea by then…this would mean TTC mid winter here but can’t be heavily pregnant at the peak of summer, it near killed me last time so aiming for heaps of Vit D to compensate haha.
Hoping we get our blue bundle:DS: this time around! Kinda secretly hoping for boy twinnies – because I know hubby will NOT cave for #5,even if this is a boy – but I have read so much about you guys saying little boys should come in pairs yadiyada – and I love the idea of them each having a buddy too ^^
I have just finished weaning my 18 m.o daughter, so should have a good 10/12 months before TTC.
My DD2/3 were conceived when their big sisters were 17 or 20 m.o – here DD3 would be at least 28m.o … hopefully a slightly bigger gap, more sleep (hopefully, still working on that ha!), will all be in my favour and balance out the fact that we will be older and probs less fertile (hence pink )
My cycles have finally returned 4 months ago (never happened with my first 2 (AF returned around 10-11months PP for both), but then miss #3 co-slept after 1st wake up so nursed heaps at night which her sisters didn’t!). They are regular ish(so far mostly 27 days with a couple being 26 or 28). Some months I have slight spotting 2-4 days prior, others, straight into AF (not sure if that means anything) – my cycles have started coming in the mornings too (never did when I had my first 2 girls – only did this when swaying #3)…. and my libido is baaaack! :D
We currently BD unprotected from ca. CD 9 max (as I sometimes O early) then protected until ca. CD19/20 (to be sure we are definitely out of possible fertile zone), when we go unprotected again until end of cycle.
Since my cycles have returned, I am keen on the deed haha so most cycles it’s been EOD pretty much, except when kids/life get in the way ^^
Especially now that we are falling into the “older parents” category – with me being 35 at time of TTC and him 42 – we want to improve our conditions so we are fit and fab :P and have the best possible sperm and egg for optimal chances of blue ^^
I don’t want to go overboard either, and risk undermining our sway by falling into the “control freak that just decides to drop everything because it’s up to fate anyways” category even though the detail-orientated person in me needs to haha
Currently applying for a new job, which would be challenging and pushing me – driving my competitive spirit :)
I have started a few PT sessions just to get me started – and set up a routine I can do by myself at home, to get some weightlifting going: mainly using my own body weight. I want to prove to hubby that doing it on own at home will yiled results and I can stick to it – again, driving the competition as he goes to the gym (once only though, want o push Him to go more ^^) ad wanted me to go (IMO it’sd a waste of $$ as I am already running after time – at least at home can go with kids in bed etc).
Here are the vitamins I have noted to be as part of our regime (haven’t started on any yet) – will only do multi and probiotics for now – and add the rest in about 3 months prior to TTC. Is that ok?
Vitamins for DH (daily unless advised otherwise)
1) One a day multi men 50+ - should I add more vit D? (multi has 700ui)
2) Fish oil 500mg (1000 every other day)
3) Probiotics – do they have to be the refrigerated ones to be good?
4) CQ10 (Ubiquinol)– 100 mg: is that enough?
5) L-arginine 500mg – plus 1000mg cartinine
6) 99mg Potassium - the multi doesn’t have any – should he add this?
Does he need extra folate (multi has 400mcg) or zinc (recommendations are 100-200mcg – multi only has 24) ?
Vitamins for DW (daily unless advised otherwise) –Spread the intake throughout the day
1) One-a- day multi -should I aim for more vit D, especially since we will be TTC in winter? (multi has 1000ui)
2) Fish Oil 500mg/day (mine has 1000 so doing 1 EOD)
3) Probiotics
4) Methyl folate 1000mcg (multi has 400mcg FA)- is that enough? 1000 Methylfolate and 400 FA
5) CQ10 (Ubiquinol) – 100mg daily - is that enough - should I aim for 200?
6) 99mg potassium - should I avoid this?
7) Melatonin: is it worth taking in lead up to TTC for egg quality – but wean so that not taking any more by the time we do start TTC?? Or if I get enough natural sun, that would maybe suffice to get my natural melatonin production going?
8) Resveratrol – needed at all? https://www.whitelotusclinic.ca/blog...rol-fertility/ It seems egg quality is improved with this…
When attempting: I used Preseed with my 3 girls, so am hoping to avoid it and stick to just natural EWCM this time– some cycles I have plenty for days, others just a day and small amount…
Take Guaifenesin at least 5 days prior to expected O – I just need to find the right version in the shops when the time comes: only use on attempt months or should I give it a go a few months before to see how/if it affects me?
Trying to have big O at every BD session (and when not, finish the job myself lol) – is it worth having some ‘solo sessions’ before BD to get the right Ph down there?
Water water and more water – and lemon water again..well, generally keep hydrated but not intending on overdoing it (maybe 2.5-ish per day max) ^^
Fertility massage before O??
Before O, coconut water - After O, pomegranate juice
BD:
EOD (~48hrs between BDs) from AF-O – follow the SMEP plan
Going by my libido, and what hubby has been able to “deliver”, we should be able to BD at least once a day in the fertile window – life permitting
Attempt night of 1st pos OPK, next morning and evening and again the day after – at least, on this point - more is more, right? haha
Then resume EOD until AF or BFP
Exercising – aim to gain lean muscle, and shed some fat – body reformation: https://www.fitnessbliss.com/en/ Blogilates Popsugar and TaiBo Gunnar Peterson Kick/boxing (have asked my DD1 to teach me some of her taekwondo moves to just get some “kickboxing” done – and she finds it fun to watch mummy so win win, as it motivates me to do it harder and better haha). Hubby goes to gym, but not enough (1/week): I want to challenge him – and prove I can get great results at home, so hopefully he will pick up the pace and we can both get good changes. We’re coming into summer, so we will be able to use the pool and get in some swimming too.
Doing 45 minutes sessions 3/week with weights – and a couple of lighter sessions (HIIT)
BMI as of now: 168cm for 58kgs = 20.5. The biggest I have ever been non pregnant (was 53kg when fell pregnant with DD1, 51kg when feel with DD2, and about 55 with DD3…I’ve been at this weight for a year and it hasn’t budged lol).
Aiming to not lose weight in the process (or 1-2max) but build muscle mass instead – not too fussed about the # on the scales, just want to feel strong and fit/lean overall ;)
Food – Atkins, HCG diets?
No coffee at all in attempt months – otherwise, reducing gradually from now onwards (I have maybe 4-5/week) – and aiming for only black tea by the time we start TTC.
Always eat carbs+ protein – but small portions, more often
I like my carbs and that is the hardest, not eating toooo many – just enough to balance things and still not be starving :P I think I still ate too many carbs and not enough protein last time alas what is the current view on wholegrain over refined? i.e. am I always better off going for the wholewheat/grain/brown option (brown over white rice and pasta / wholemeal bread over white…)?
Cereals: I know cereals seem to sway – in an attempt to eat healthy, I would tend to do overnight oats or oatmeal (with greek FF yogurt /milk and berries & nut butter for ex.) for brekkie (alternating with egg/cheese/tomato wrap)– but this is obviously not fortified.
So I could alternate these with a cereal: any recommendation? Most are high in sugar, i.e. empty carbs, so not ideal. We don’t have as many options here in Australia as maybe the US or Europe so need a basic that is readily available: fortified granola with nuts (the catch is the fortified ones are the more processed and hence sweeter ones)? Cheerios?
Avocado – 1/ day when in season
Lemon – equivalent of 1 lemon /day in water (approx. 2-2.5L) – Coconut water: drinking 1L/week (small glass/day – hubby too most days) – getting a small glass of multi vitamin juice (or pineapple/orange) most days (fortified)
NYE – eating on salad, pasta etc / using Brewers yeast in baking
Nuts – a small handful a day (almonds, cashews, walnuts mainly) – giving hubby some for snacking too (mix but adding brazil nuts!)
Fats/proteins – red meat (buying grass fed mince) at least once every few days / alternating with chicken, dark cuts where possible – overall, aiming for 100g of protein /day with most being animal based (eggs,FF greek yogurt, milk and meat as main source – olive oil or butter for cooking and olive oil/avocado oil for salads). Fish (brramundi or Slamon) twice a week max.
I’m not big on cheese – can do Haloumi (grilled – added to sandwich or salad), Mozzarella (salad or on pizza) or cheddar (in grilled cheese sandwhich for instance): i.e. you won’t see me scoffing down a Brie or Blue (yuk!) lol
Fruits: last time ate a fair few bananas lol so not going to eat them purposefully – only if I feel like it. Aiming for berries, apples,
Veggies: Leafy green salads, green beans, sweet potato (better than potato), tomatoes, garlic, onions, carrots, capsicum (I think you call these bell peppers in the US?), zucchini, eggplant etc avoid the very starchy ones maybe?
Pulses are a great source of protein – is it worth having them as well as a protein, instead of (or to assist reducing the carbs) say pasta or rice to bulk up the protein in a meal (say chickpeas or lentils)?? i.e. chicken curry with chickpeas, served with rice and vegetables
Superstition – will have an amethyst gem on me at all times
Place a baby boy outfit under my pillow:bluecheer:
If you read all of this – thank you!!
I will be buying a personalised plan, but want to wait until we are 6 months from TTC so probably around the new year ^^:bowdown::hug2: