2 miscarriages in a row :(
It's with a heavy heart that I once again write a post like this 4 and a half months later. I miscarried yesterday at 10 weeks :( I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks 4 days and baby had a heart beat and looked good. Everything was on track as should be. At 10 weeks I started having some very dark brown discharge. I called my doctor to ask about a scan (I had one scheduled for 12 weeks but wanted to go right away just incase something was wrong) and she was a bit reluctant as it wasn't bright red. She eventually agreed when I insisted and two I went in that afternoon. Sadly I found out my baby stopped growing shortly after my 6 week 4 day scan. I am devastated :( As in many miscarriages, they have no idea why it happened and if anything, my doctor was very shocked.
I had another miscarriage back in December at 9 weeks. I went for my 8 week scan and all they saw was an 8 week gestational sac and a yolk sac. That's it. No embryo. They asked me to come back in a week for another scan, but I already knew the prognosis was grim. I have two sons (2 and 4) and at 8 weeks they were active and bouncing around. Sure enough I went back at 9 weeks and all that was there was the yolk sac and only enough the gestational sac had grown again to 9 weeks. But no embryo/fetal or heart beat. I was told it was a blighted ovum.
We were so confident, including my doctor, that my next pregnancy would be successful. My doctor said the chances of a repeat miscarriage weas low and I have always conceived on the first try and have had two healthy pregnancies, I feel like I got my hopes up too high, because here I am experiencing my second loss. I am now terrified of a repeat.
Oh course, and I know I shouldn't have...I have gone down a google hole and have made my head spin even worse. That I now have a high chance of it happening again and only 2 percent of women who have one miscarriage with have anther. And other articles that my chance of another one is now 40%...the list goes on (I think I need to stay off google).
I don't know if there is anyone here who is very knowledgable on miscarriages and the different types. As mentioned, I was told my December miscarriage was a blighted ovum since there was no embryo ever seen or detected but a growing gestational sac (my body did not clue in there was no baby). A yolk sac was present but never any fetal pole/embryo. I have read conflicting information on the internet that a blighted ovum is only a gestational sac and can't have the yolk sac and others say that sometimes it can have a yolk sac, just not a fetal pole/heart beat, and be classified a blighted ovum. My doctor called it a blighted ovum. I ask this because if that is the case, then my two miscarriages would be classified as different. One being a blighted ovum and the other being a 'first trimester' miscarriage (as my doctor put it). With my first miscarriage the sac kept growing. With my recent one, the sac stopped growing when the baby heart stopped. My doctor seemed to be positive they weren't "the same'. I'm not an expert in any way so I'm truly unsure.
Has anyone here had healthy, easy pregnancies and then gone on to have a couple miscarriages before having another healthy baby again? I recently turned 37 and my husband will be turning 38. I have two health boys ages 2 and 4. For all 4 of my pregnancies (the boys and the miscarriages) I have conceived on the first try. Would my egg quality have any baring on this? (like went down hill since I had my 2 year old). Or could there be any underlining issues for two consecutive miscarriages? (like an infection in the uterus?). Am I at a point where I need a fertility specialist for testing or pregnancy monitoring? (I've been with my family doctor). I am wondering if I can emotionally go through this again...
I apologise for all the questions. I am just grieving and broken hearted and looking for answers (that I may never get) and hopefully some light at the end of this dreary tunnel. I appreciate any feedback. Thank you kindly ladies