First post, hoping to sway pink!
Hey everyone! I've been a long time lurker on this site but haven't posted or commented on anything yet. I thought maybe I should introduce myself instead of just silently stalking everyone's threads.
A little bit about me, I turned 32 in June and I have 2 sons. My oldest is 10 (11 in October) and my little guy is 2 (3 in December) and they have different fathers. I was with my oldest son's dad for almost 10 years and he had a son from a previous relationship, and was NOT open to anymore children, so I thought my son, I'll call him "C," would be my only. Then when C was 5 years old, his father died unexpectedly. I met my current fiance about a year after his passing and we have been together ever since. He was 35 at the time and had no children of his own, but desperately wanted to be a father. I know it sounds crazy, but we started trying for a baby within the first year and it took me about 16 months to conceive my youngest, I'll call him "B." DH wants at least 2 more kids, but I'm not sure my body would be able to handle that. My OB told me when I was pregnant with B that if I wanted more children I needed to do it within the next 2 years and then be done bc they're just going to be harder and harder on me, idk though. I had gestational diabetes (diet controlled-ish, late diagnosis) and pretty severe pre-eclampsia, I had him via c-section at 36w and he weighed over 8lbs; with B, I only had gestational diabetes but it was very uncontrolled (even being on insulin 5x/day and following the diet), he was born just shy of 37w via CS and weighed 9lbs. I also had very low fluid with both pregnancies, so that, combined with the fact that they were both so big for their gestation and having GD, he feels like it would be best for me to only try one more time. So this may be my last shot for me to get my daughter! Both sides of our family lack girls, so everyone is praying for pink! DH's mom has 2 sons, her hubby has a son and they have 7 grandsons between the up of them. On my side, I have 1 girl cousin and 8 boys, and my brother is the only one of us who has a daughter, the rest of us all have ALL boys! So we NEED a girl in our lives! Haha!
Anyway, back to what's relevant... Sorry, I ramble sometimes.
So yeah, I'm 32 and DH is 38 (he'll be 39 in November), so the clock is ticking for both of us. Physically, I'm overweight, technically obese I believe, weighing in at about 215 and only being 5'10" tall. I don't eat well, my diet is mostly carbs and meat with very little fruit and veggies (even though I love both!), minimal dairy (I hate milk so I really only get that with cheese, sour cream, etc.) lots of sweets and other terrible snacks, and I drink Diet Coke like my life depends on it. I don't work out like I should and I don't take any supplements but I do take Adderall and have been on it for years. I know to stop it as soon as I get a BFP, as I did before. I also take Prilosec when I think about it and eat Tums quite a bit for heartburn. My family doctor knows we're TTC and has recently ordered some blood work as a starting point (per my request), just to rule out any hormonal issues since we've been trying for almost 18 months, I go next week for that. DH is also slightly overweight, but not as much as me because he's lost about 30-40lbs over the last 2 years. He's about 5'6" and weighs about 175lbs, I believe. Our diet is pretty much the same, but he eats more sweets than I do and hates Diet Coke, he only ever drinks Gold Peak sweet tea and refuses to drink water, I don't know what his deal is with that though. He doesn't take any supplements either, but he takes Prilosec regularly and he has been on a narcotic (prescribed!!) long-term due to a broken vertebrae in his spine, but I can't remember what it's called. He's terrified to have the surgery due to the risk of being paralyzed, but that's more than likely going to be necessary within the next 5 years according to his doctor, but that's probably irrelevant. He is also a smoker and will usually smoke weed before bed at night. I'm not sure if the amount matters or not, but I think it's just a hit or two. Please no judgement on that. He's willing to give up the weed if he has to, but it helps with the leg pain due to his back injury, and it helps his be able to fall asleep.
I have been trying to read all of the info on this site, but I'm having a really hard time knowing where to start and what to do for my individual situation. My cycles are on the longer side and can get irregular at times, but they're usually around 33-37 days, give or take. I am getting ready to put in an Amazon order for some more OPK strips and a new BBT thermometer so I can really track O, but I was also considering ordering some Vitex+ and/or Lydia Pinkham as I've read they help with cycles and also sway pink, but I'm not sure whether I should or not? I know I need to get some calcium and magnesium supplements, can anyone recommend a good brand/kind? Other than that though, idk what else to do. I'm dying for a daughter and I will do anything to increase my chances. I literally obsess over it and I have cried more times than I can count. It's actually kind of embarrassing to admit that "out loud," but it's the truth.
Well, if you made it this far, thanks for staying with me so long. I know I'm not the only one in this pink sway and I can't wait to get to know each of you!
I would love ANY tips and/or suggestions, I don't care if they're old wives tales or proven facts, I will do it!
What should I be doing or not doing? Help!!!
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