Thoughts after 2 miscarriages
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After 3 years of failed IVF trying for our DD - after a failed sway & a miscarriage, Ive reflected a lot lately about our miracle natural conception of our DD - who despite being genetically normal stopped growing after just 5weeks (we had the embryo tested after the d&c). There are no answers to why she stopped growing especially with normal genetics. Possibly just bad luck.
My lifestyle had been different than before I conceived any of the boys.
I'm a fairly typical boy mum - Im a highly motivated high achiever, snacker & was always a cereal lover. High stress & control.
Very Long LE diet brought me a miscarriage & another boy - but I was too obsessed & I think this contributed to my 3rd boy. High stress & anxiety at work. This led me to try & control even more I think. I focused so much on kj & food content on the LE diet. Way too obsessive.
2022 - Im overwhelmed & stressed (but totally beyond my control), Ive pretty much given up all hope of another child. I feel like I have no fight left in me at all. I havent eaten cereal for breakfast for almost 5years!!! No prenatal vitamins until poas, & lower than usual kj with little to no snacking for months - just 2 small meals around 1000kj plus dinner a day. BD just once before conception. Recently diagnosed with depression & anxiety but not treated.
less ewcm than when I conceived the boys & still mostly acidic! it was always very alkaline with the boys conception cycles. I was also unwell when we BD.
stress with uncertainty around my career
stress with 2 special needs kids
stress with covid
stress with my relationship
Was this the magic answer? who knows? Ive experienced so much loss these past few years. 2 months later I cant even grieve for this baby. Im numb empty & broken. Ive got nothing left to give. Its like it never happened it doesnt feel real. Maybe it will hit me one day. I dont know where to go from here.