surprised by dream do I really feel like this?

[iluvmybigfamily]

Ok All my dreams this pregnancy have been that I'm having a boy and I've always been ok with it. Think once I had a dream that it was a boy and I was like oh ok. But last night I had a dream that we went to the scan and the girl said oh look its a boy and showed us a really clear potty shot! and paused it there and I burst into tears I mean absolute no consoling hysterics!

I actually woke up thinking if this isnt a girl I'mdone no more babies. I have to say I'm very surprised with myself obviously I want a daughter thats why I post here but it has always been a desire not a disappointment. I've always been happy with my boys and even after being told my last was a girl and him being born a boy I wasnt devastated just more a ah typical LOL reaction.

So wondering if anyone has thought that the gender wasnt a mojor issue went for their scan and been really gutted after thinking you'd be ok with it. I have to admit that dream has really unnerved me, now I'm terrified that I'll be a jibbering wreck at the hospital and make a complete show of myself!



My DH wants to wait to find out if we are having a boy or girl until the birth but my sister is due 3 days after my scan and I'm worried if she had a girl I'll really not enjoy the rest of my pregnancy because she will have my dg and I'll be same as now convinced this is another boy!

[TTC5]

With my 3rd I admit I was pretty gutted =(
I think what you are worried of it completely normal (and ok!!) x

[sela]

Hi ILuvMyBigFamily. I never knew GD existed until last year. I never could have anticipated how I would feel when I found out I was expecting my third DS. I was secretly hoping for a girl but for some insane reason it had never crossed my mind that my baby might be a boy. I found out that my third baby was a boy at around 20wks pregnant. I got home and cried for the best part of 2 weeks. I couldn't touch my belly as I had before, I couldn't talk to my bump as I had before and I generally felt very disconnected from my baby and extremely worried about how I would bond with him after his birth. Most of all I felt so terribly guilty about feeling that way. My DH reassured me that I was a caring person and would no doubt love our baby. I got on with things for the remainder of the pregnancy but asked my DH to consider HT if I still felt this longing desire for a girl after our son was born. Fast forward and our DS is here, he's perfect and I would not swap him for any little girl. Bonding was not a problem. I love him dearly and probably even more so because of my guilty feelings. I still really want a daughter and am now looking into HT. I don't want to risk a natural pregnancy with another boy and feel the way I felt last year.

So there you go...my story for what it is worth. I just wanted to let you know that we cannot help how we feel. Take care and go easy on yourself if you do experience feeling this way. xx

[Belle]

I had dreamt that I was having girls but I have two boys so dreams are opposite for me yours might mean an opposite too. You might be surprised your sister may have a boy but gd for me gets worse I would find out before birth to get use to the idea because waiting till birth with my second was not a pretty site on my part and feel guilty about it still now nearly five years later Good Luck

[iluvmybigfamily]

thanks Belle thats what I'm worried about I had prepared myself that the tech could have been wrong cause at 20 weeks I was told boy, but I was still a bit upset. The fear is that I have every so convinced that it is a girl. Especially DH and my Dad who was not only right with my 5 but with me my bro and sister as well. I just think it will be an even bigger blow if the day comes and its a boy. I know I will love him thats not the issue but to risk not bonding with him straight away and spending years feeling guilty about it I cant deal with. I was like that with my first due to a difficult labour and post natal depression and now he is terminally ill I feel so angry with myself because I feel I wasted those first few years with him. But I know that it wouldnt be that bad again perhaps a day or two of not bonding. Also I kept dreaming pink through my last two pregnancies (cant remember before that) and I had boys always put it down to the fact that I was suffering gender desire, So I was quite surprised that this time all my dreams have been blue. Think its another reason I need to find out before hand because with all the factors I keep convincing myself that its pink! If its not I think I need time to prepare though knowing my luck the little rascal will have their legs closed!!