Timing your cut-off???

[praying4princess]

Okay a few questions about trying to time my cutoff....my O usually varies, the last few months it has been anywhere between the 17th and 23rd of the month. So do you guys have any advice on how to time my cutoff if Im not sure exactly what day Im going to O?? I am using the CBFM and OPK's, so do you watch for the fade on the test sticks? But how do I know by that how many days away O is? And do I need to do the cut-off 2 days from my +OPK, seeing as how I dont know where in that 8-24 hrs (or whatever) Im going to O? Im worried about saying ok heres the fade so lets DTD and then I turn around and O 24 hrs laters making it a 1day instead of 2 day cutoff!

Also Im trying to decide between abstaining or frequent release...we DTD everyday when we conceived our boys, so I thought abstaining would be better. BUT does "frequent release" mean him releasing inside every time (which would affect my pH) or wearing a condom until the day we are aiming for? I know this is probably TMI , but I need to get down to the nitty gritty so Im doing this like Im supposed to!!

[Emmy2012]

I am going with strict abstain myself only because my last two boys were frequent. I want to tryt o do exact opposite! LOL Timing the cut-off is hard. right now I O on CD14 everytime but I am now on vitex and saw palmetto so we will see if I O next week on time. My attempt month is May. I think though if you abstain and so other factors even if you ended up with one day cut-off you would still be ok.

[praying4princess]

Hey Emmy! Thats what I planned on doing too was abstaining with a 2 day cutt-off, but Im worried about trying to time it! I hope youre right, thats what I was hopinh too, about the diets and vitamins and everything helping so much that it wouldnt matter if I ended up with 1 day. Ive seen on IG where alot of women DTD close or through O and still got a girl! Im just scared of taking that chance. Or O late and then not getting pregnant. I really want it to happen this month!

[atomic sagebrush]

Okay a few questions about trying to time my cutoff....my O usually varies, the last few months it has been anywhere between the 17th and 23rd of the month. So do you guys have any advice on how to time my cutoff if Im not sure exactly what day Im going to O?? I am using the CBFM and OPK's, so do you watch for the fade on the test sticks? But how do I know by that how many days away O is? And do I need to do the cut-off 2 days from my +OPK, seeing as how I dont know where in that 8-24 hrs (or whatever) Im going to O? Im worried about saying ok heres the fade so lets DTD and then I turn around and O 24 hrs laters making it a 1day instead of 2 day cutoff!

Also Im trying to decide between abstaining or frequent release...we DTD everyday when we conceived our boys, so I thought abstaining would be better. BUT does "frequent release" mean him releasing inside every time (which would affect my pH) or wearing a condom until the day we are aiming for? I know this is probably TMI , but I need to get down to the nitty gritty so Im doing this like Im supposed to!!

ACK! Do not time cutoff 2 days before OPK, you need to time it 2 days before ovulation itself not the OPK. Have you read this, it tells you how to do a cutoff. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...hettles+timing.

Cutoff timing is risky because you may O early. It's true. If it bothers you too much, go for an O+12 instead.

I think the easiest thing to do is to DTD right when you start to see EWCM one time and then don't DTD again. You won't know exactly how long a cutoff it is until you O. But this can make it harder to get pregnant if you get EWCM many days in advance of O.

There is no TMI on this site! Frequent release just means DH "releasing" and it does NOT have to be inside you. If you want to do frequent release, just have him "clean the pipes" every day for a week or 10 days prior to your attempt. You can even have him release once the morning of your attempt and throw that one away, then DTD again that evening for your attempt.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am going with strict abstain myself only because my last two boys were frequent. I want to tryt o do exact opposite! LOL Timing the cut-off is hard. right now I O on CD14 everytime but I am now on vitex and saw palmetto so we will see if I O next week on time. My attempt month is May. I think though if you abstain and so other factors even if you ended up with one day cut-off you would still be ok.

I agree, they have studied and studied timing dozens of times and found there is nothing to it. Both boys and girls are conceived on every day.

[praying4princess]

Ok ladies, that makes me feel better about possibly being closer to O than I plan! Atomic, I had not read that particular post so thank you! I swear my brain is mush from all of this researching and reading!! Ok Im just going to put my timing in Gods hands and pray that my pH is exactly where it needs to be at the time if my attempt and just go with it! I read and wrote down tons of sways from IG last night and there is a good mixture of timing there that resulted in girls, from 2 day cutoffs, straight through O and O+12 so I guess as long as Im good with pHand have my creams and lubes and Zyrtec, I should be good to go and pray like crazy!! I have a circle of friends and family that will all be praying around that time for us, and God does answer prayers!!

That was a good post Atomic thank you for sharing that with me! I thought I had read pretty much all of them, plus I hav Shettles book! I took pics of my fade pattern last month so atleast Ill have that to look back on and Ill watch CM. I tried to chart as much as I could the last few months, so I hope that helps. Thanks again!

[atomic sagebrush]

Good luck!!