SILs

[Liv]

Mine are annoying and I cannot relate to either. Both are one uppers. One thinks she knows it all about parenting and has one child who can do no wrong. The other thinks she knows it all about nutrition and exercise and as I am discussing ingredients in something she is making yuck faces and telling me what's wrong with my recipe.

[DoulaMama]

I could go on and on in this thread......but I won't because I complain enough about one of them as it is....
I feel for you! One has a child through adoption and I have no issues at all with her She's very sweet and doesn't judge(or if she does she doesn't say anything ) and the another is judgmental and bitchy and always has really awful things to say to my family. She told me my DS1 looked like an alien at 3w old. And then she laughed. She made me feel terrible for doing certain things, like help her with her wedding crafts...I finished the last 2 for her(as a surprise as she wanted to get them done but had to go out and get other wedding things done...I had nothing to do and was at my IL's house where the crafts were so I thought I would help her out) and then she cried and told me that SHE wanted to do them...even though she had done 75 of the same thing for 3 days before....

She's a total cow. Anyway.....hugs to you...I have zero in common with any of my SIL's. It's kinda sad.

[LolaInLove]

OMG I once had a SIL (ex-dh's sister) who was just like that, DM! She flipped at me for helping with wedding stuff that SHE wanted to do, and then had a nervous breakdown 2 days before the wedding, requiring me to do EVERYTHING. This is all with a 2 year old and a 4 WEEK old baby in tow (and bfing all night, of course)...while ex-dh sat on the beach all day with the cousings drinking pina coladas. I still fume when I think about how selfish that crazy family is. I can't believe your SIL, or hell, anyone for that matter, would say your baby looked like an alien and laugh! That would have sent me over the decorum edge and I would have kicked her in the taco!

Liv, first of all, that is the cutest pic of your DD as a little mermaid, if I am seeing that right. I feel for you, because not only can I not stand women who are one-uppers in general, I can't stand it even more if it's family members. I am so not a fighter (even though it sounds like it from taco comment above!) but I have become a bit more thick-skinned in the past couple of years and have gone out on a limb a couple of times and given people a piece of my mind. And it always works, especially when done in a classy manner, meaning no cursing or calling names, you know what I mean. I hope you can either say something next time they annoy you, or you can learn to ignore them....which I am terrible at.

[purplepoet20]

My bro's wife thinks she knows it all... They moved into the middle of no where into a house that no one should live in, but she claims they will build a house next summer. Talks about all the things a house should have (high class house) or it isn't a home. They are Christain which is ok but they think that their church is the one true church and all others are wrong, like me a Catholic. They are homeschooling which again is ok but my SIL thinks that her kids need to do all kinds of subjects and bought so many things to teach her 5 year old so Kinder has turned into 12mths of school everyday (6-8hrs). She told me that I shouldn't teach my kids the basics of all religions because they will grow up with no beliefs. I shouldn't sent my kids to the school I have chosen for them because they wont learn to read until 1st grade (I love it for that reason) and they will be behind, she doesn't know that the kids in that school enter high school ahead of everyone else. I shouldn't let my kids decide what they want for lunch because they can't make good choices... my son loves salad, tuna sandwiches, and bean and veggie burritos. She called me a bad mom because my youngest is still BFing. I haven't seen her in almost 5 years and she has never met my kids but she sends me long emails every other day about what I should be doing.

My hubby's 1/2 bros wife... Is odd! She never gave her daughter any sweets, breads, or meat. She claimed the baby was diagnosed with a gluten intolerance at 6mths old but all the Dr's and Naturalist I have called said that is not possible (must be 18mths). She is now suppose to have been healed of the gluten intol because a holy man blessed her ??? But anyways they went vegan and over Thanksgiving when we made the turkey and ham my SIL told her daughter she can't eat it because they were baby piggy and a baby bird. When my then 2 1/2 year old ask her to get him some ham she told him no because he shouldn't eat baby animals, poor James cried so hard he got an upset stomach... My MIL flipped because she doesn't like the way they chose to talk to their daughter about eating meat and they shouldn't force their veganism on a child that isn't theirs. My SIL always tells us that if we feed our kids meat and breads they will be fat. Her daughter is 4 and very very under weight with no muscle mass or energy to play. My boys or about 25% for weight and 50% for height they eat about 3-4oz of meat, very little sweets, and about 1 serving grains a day because they like fruits and veggies more.

[LolaInLove]

OMG Purple, I LOL about the baby piggy and baby bird.....what whackjobs! I hate to say it, but their poor daughter is going to be a hot mess someday.

[Liv]

Lolainlove, my avatar is just a pic I found that I thought was cute .
Glad I am not the only one with annoying relatives. I LOL'ed at some of these.


I just can't stand competition with kids. When I hear people brag about how their children learned to read at 2, despise candy, never fight or argue, etc...makes me want to gag!

[purplepoet20]

A child that learns to read to early will 1. not like reading much later (like my 9yo neighbor) and 2. lack other skills that are learned in the toddler years... I think it would be interesting to see a 2 year old who can read and I would love for my kids to be super smart. But I love that they are active, can make their own decisions, observent, and everything else that comes with let them be "who they are".

A peice of some kind of sweet now and then is better then an 18yo who goes crazy for candy just because they are finally on their own.

A perfect child is a child that is trained/programed/brainwashed and will never learn to express themselves!!!

... just now my prefect little well behaved monsters... 3yo takes car away from lil bro, lil bro picks up another car and bangs it on big bros head. They are so sweet and loving!!!

[LolaInLove]

WELL SAID, PP!

A smart child is not just one that knows how to read at 2 (which is bull anyway.....no kid can read at 2, the parents are lying if they claim that). I'd rather have a HAPPY kid that is well rounded....and rarely do I see the children of people like your oppresive in laws that way! They always seem anxious and overly sensitive to me.

And your little "headbangers" are doing just what happy little boys should- having fun and being social and silly with each other!

[Flava]

She is now suppose to have been healed of the gluten intol because a holy man blessed her ???

OMG

Me and my SIL we don't talk at all and they live far away .So all is good.

[Liv]

Me and my SIL we don't talk at all and they live far away .So all is good.

I am jealous!