Why do you want your desired gender?

[impatientlywaiting]

This has probably been talked about a lot but I'm just wondering what the reasons are (or were if you are done having kids) for wanting a specific gender.

My desires for a dd stem from a few different reasons. Firstly, I have a brother 2 years younger than me. He made my life hell growing up to the point that it could have been classified as abuse. He was/is very impulsive and has anger issues. Just to give an example one time he dumped a bowl of boiling hot soup on me because I asked him why he was crabby...it wasn't out of the ordinary for him to pull kitchen knives out on me so I would do what he wanted. My parents have said that he was much more difficult than myself and my older half sister to raise. He is still very immature, victimizes himself, won't hold a job and has anger issues now as an adult. I know rationally not all boys are like this but based on my experience I'm quite nervous that my son will end up like him and be a terror. My husband's personality is completely different so I should expect my son to be more like my husband but I can't get over worrying a son would be like my brother. I love my brother but he is very difficult to get along with.

Secondly, my sister, my mom and I were really close...my mom passed away 5 years ago and something in me would like to try to recreate that formation in my own family.

Everyone expects me to want a son next but if I'm completely honest with myself I have a desire for another girl. I feel guilty about this because I'm blessed to have a daughter and should just have a desire for another healthy baby but I guess there are sort of irrational reasons for wanting another girl. DH would like another girl because DD is such a daddy's girl but he does still want a son someday and a part of me does too but I'm just irrationally worried about it.

[Rainbow baby]

I want a daughter because I don't have one!! For all the reasons one would want one! The relationship, clothes, toys the PINK...

[gurly]

This has probably been talked about a lot but I'm just wondering what the reasons are (or were if you are done having kids) for wanting a specific gender.

My desires for a dd stem from a few different reasons. Firstly, I have a brother 2 years younger than me. He made my life hell growing up to the point that it could have been classified as abuse. He was/is very impulsive and has anger issues. Just to give an example one time he dumped a bowl of boiling hot soup on me because I asked him why he was crabby...it wasn't out of the ordinary for him to pull kitchen knives out on me so I would do what he wanted. My parents have said that he was much more difficult than myself and my older half sister to raise. He is still very immature, victimizes himself, won't hold a job and has anger issues now as an adult. I know rationally not all boys are like this but based on my experience I'm quite nervous that my son will end up like him and be a terror. My husband's personality is completely different so I should expect my son to be more like my husband but I can't get over worrying a son would be like my brother. I love my brother but he is very difficult to get along with.

Secondly, my sister, my mom and I were really close...my mom passed away 5 years ago and something in me would like to try to recreate that formation in my own family.

Everyone expects me to want a son next but if I'm completely honest with myself I have a desire for another girl. I feel guilty about this because I'm blessed to have a daughter and should just have a desire for another healthy baby but I guess there are sort of irrational reasons for wanting another girl. DH would like another girl because DD is such a daddy's girl but he does still want a son someday and a part of me does too but I'm just irrationally worried about it.

WOW. I'm so sorry for what your brother put you through.

[gurly]

I posted about why I want another girl on the ttc girl forum but I'll also add that I was looking for some cute clothes to send my nephew and I'm just not into boy clothes at all. I think overalls are cute but tutus, bows and dreses are so much fun. There are so many fun clothes for girls, I love it. If we had a boy, I wouldn't spend much $ on clothes, that's for sure.

[Cauliflower]

I want a girl because I am from one gender family, and really want to experience raising both genders. And of course all the nice pink stuff!
Also bcz everyone thinks girls are more close to their parents I dont believe that, but need to raise a girl and then debunk the theory by being close to all my kids regardless of gender...

[impatientlywaiting]

Thanks, gurly. We have a better relationship now (we no longer live in the same area) and he is not as physically aggressive but he still has issues. In all reality he should be in anger management or some kind of therapy but he won't go.

[Ribenaberry]

I would like a boy for hubby really, and just so we had a son as well as beautiful daughters.

I adore my two girls and know another girl would be just as fantastic, but i never saw us only having girls, and i would love to buy some boy clothes - i know all the boy mums seems to hate boys clothes, but there are not as many giddy girls clothes as you think!!

Also hubby is the last of his name, it will die with us if we dont have a boy.

Xxx

[Lanabanana]

I always wanted at least one of each, but the reason that I really want a girl is because 1. I'm a girly girl and I really want to be able to experience everything that comes with raising a daughter. The deeper reason though, is that I have a really difficult relationship with my mother. As much as I have tried to be close to her over the years, she just isn't interested in a close mother/daughter relationship with me. I'm hoping that if I ever have a girl, that I will be able to have the kind of relationship with her that I always hoped to have with my own mother. I adore my beautiful boys, and adding a girl to my family would be the cherry on top.

[Modern Goddess]

I don't know, I have always wanted a girl as has DH. Can't explain why