how do you feel about swaying

[Glittergirl]

Just curious if anyone feels sort of guilty for swaying. I have a friend who almost lost her youngest DS to an accident--luckily he's getting better, my friend's brother just had his first child last week and he has down's, and a girlfriend of mine had a boy last year with a severe syndrome. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I should not sway as if God's giving me a hint to just ask for a healthy child. Which I always do, I would feel blessed just to have another baby. Curious of others' opinions on natural swaying. Am I just reading too much into it

[Zivic-Bubac]

I never felt guilty for swaying. I know that if God destined me to have 3 girls, then it's going to be 3 girls, swaying or no swaying. I am always praying for a healthy baby boy , but seriously, I do realize how truly blessed we are with 2 healthy girls, and after lot of thinking and re-thinking and reviewing my feelings, I am finally happy to say: I will be thrilled with another baby

( it wasn't like that about a year ago when I 1st learned what swaying is, I was desperate for a boy, and petrified of a thought of 3 girls. My DH is big help, since he doesn't have gender preferances and he doesn't even want 3rd child - well, that's not helpful! LOL!)

[Indira]

I don´t feel guilty but I know what you mean-I wonder sometimes how I will feel if we´ll get a baby with some kind of problem, if I will blaim it on swaying. But that can happy without swaying as well, for me these worries become greater with every pregnancy. But having worked with special-needs children it doesn´t scare me, I just wonder.
I also feel strange sometimes in regards to an eventual third boy that won´t be there if we sway succesfully, I wonder sometimes if it is OK to miss out on him- this is because for the first time I have a nice boy´s name and it´s just much easier for me to immagine a Ds3- having a baby girl is hard to immagine for me.

[Belle]

I don't feel guilty of swaying because I have to know that I tried my best for a girl even if it doesn't happen. I know what you mean about a healthy baby ofcourse thats the most important part but I think we've been assured that swaying doesn't effect it.

[atomic sagebrush]

Just curious if anyone feels sort of guilty for swaying. I have a friend who almost lost her youngest DS to an accident--luckily he's getting better, my friend's brother just had his first child last week and he has down's, and a girlfriend of mine had a boy last year with a severe syndrome. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I should not sway as if God's giving me a hint to just ask for a healthy child. Which I always do, I would feel blessed just to have another baby. Curious of others' opinions on natural swaying. Am I just reading too much into it

I completely agree with you about the "hints"...I feel like I get those all the time. Like God is saying, pick up your chips and leave the table because I have already blessed you 4 times and you need to be satisfied with that! (That's just about having another baby, let alone swaying!) I am ~trying~ to turn my life over to God's control and embrace the "whatever will be will be" attitude but that is hard esp. for a boy mom LOL.

[swish]

I can relate to all these posts! Yes I do sometimes feel guilty as I know how lucky I am to have two perfect boys but I definitely feel happier with my swaying decision as times goes on as I know I will be happy with whatever I get next! I too feel like am I trying my luck having any one at all! But I think everyone feels this way with each increasing number of children you have. AND... It has crossed my mind that I will blame myself if my next baby is not healthy because of the changes I'm making to my diet. But I'm going to eat SUPER healthy when I'm pregnant!

[Glittergirl]

Thanks ladies, makes me feel MUCH better that I'm not the only one feeling like this. So many people compliment me on my boys, or their good behavior or say they are cute, etc and sometimes I'm thinking Ok I've been blessed with 3 healthy kids I should just be happy. I'm not saying I'm unhappy, I'm just saying maybe I'm being greedy when girls I know just want at least one healthy child and I'm all into this swaying thing. Anyway, I always tell myself if I end up with a 4th healthy boy, then life is awesome and I have nothing to be unthankful for! On a side note, I just got back from my cousin's DD 1st birthday and she looked so cute in her adorable pink dress and tiara {sigh}!

[skrimpy]

I can relate to how you feel too. I often feel, especially being pg with a girl and already looking to sway for a boy when she is a toddler, that I should just count my blessings now, and know that they are all blessings.

So many people can't have children, or like you said their children are not healthy or may have a disability. I should be so grateful for what God has given me.

I truly do believe that God can and will open and close the womb, and I believe he is ultimately in control of the children that I have. I feel humble when I pray that God keep the little one inside me now safe, and that he will help take the GD away (which, more than anything else in my life, has made me realize how much I need God).

I think that if God wants me to have 5 more daughters, that is what I will have.

But I don't feel really guilty swaying or even praying that God will bless with another son.

I guess it's the same as I don't feel guilty asking God to bless us with a bigger house... and working towards it. You know? I'm not sitting around waiting on a bigger house to fall into our laps. My hubby is working very hard at work to make extra mortgage payments so that we can pay this house off this year. I work hard on my own websites to bring in some extra for the family, too. I think that God appreciates those who are willing to work for the blessings we ask for. I also still believe that if he willed it, a newer, bigger house would literally fall into our laps - but I have noticed that such awesome blessings tend to fall in the laps of those who are working diligently and making wise choices.

I look at swaying in the same way. It is saying that "I am open to a child, a new blessing" - after all, if we were not open to a blessing in either Pink OR Blue, we would not sway. Then we work towards a girl or boy that would delight us to be blessed with. If God chooses to give the other (or even not give a child at all) there is something there he hopes for us to learn - and perhaps a soul he has a specific purpose for. But I also think that God honors our desires and will often bless with what we want after we work hard for it.

I hope I am making sense. Like I said, I do sometimes feel guilty. And I especially feel like I should just be anticipating the daughter I am expecting now and not worry about the son I hope for in a couple of years. But at the same time it helps my GD to do a little planning and if it helps that it is helping my baby girl. I know once she is in my arms and is my baby thoughts of another baby will take a backseat for months Luckily God designed that well! But mostly I do not feel guilt, because this entire journey of swaying makes me grow a lot - and be more open to whatever path we're going to end up on... pink, blue, maybe no baby at all... maybe both

[TulleExplosion]

Its funny because this question was asked on IG and I will answer the same answer I gave there. I truly believe God gives us tools with which we can make decisions. Nothing falls into our laps unless we work for it. If He didnt want us to access certain information or methods, they would not be on earth. If He created it, or created those who create it, it is here for our use. I feel no guilt for planning my sway. If it wont work, I know it is His plan and I feel at peace with that knowledge.

Also, when I found out that this peanut is a girl, I turned to DH and said, "I guess God wants us to have more" because I know that had this one been a boy, I would have stopped at 3.

[kaseybaby]

Yes! I struggle with these feelings of guilt all the time. I sometimes feel like God will give me a girl with some sort of problems because of swaying. I have to remind myself God is not spiteful and really this is all in HIS hands anyway. But it is one of the reasons I am not going too crazy over the sway. I want to keep my body healthy for my future baby.