To sway or not too?

[Deux Bleus]

Hello all,

I am blessed to have 2 DS's and love them very dearly.

As hard and sad as it is to admit this: not a day goes by when I don't think about having a DD and what I can do to get her.

Its consuming my life as it's always on my mind which makes me think that I def need to sway as I clearly am longing for a girl... On the other hand, I love my boys so much that if I had another, I would love him just as much. I would love for my little guys to have another brother and couldn't think of anything cuter!
(I guess thats my logic just kicking in as Im pretty sure I will never get the pink bundle I want).

I want to sway as the next bub will def be our last (for now) and if I can do something to make my chances higher, then why not.
I also think that if I do sway and still get another blue addition, It will just make me appreciate that I am just obv not made to produce girlies and just deal with what I am given.
On the flip side: If I do sway I will EXPECT a girl and might be devastated it doesnt work? Also, I think I would like to find out that it's a girl purely as a surprise, like I did my boys, not because I had to work really hard to get her

I guess it comes down to that if swaying was simple I would do it but it seems to complex, emotionally draining and inconsistent. I have read so much conflicting information and I think that makes me feel really anxious about it??

Im planning on doing cut off's when we TTC as both my boys were 'suprises' and were conceived on O day, one time :\

Does anyone else feel this way and has anyone gotten their DD after 2+ DS's without swaying or swaying much?

TIA

[jude17]

yes, I keep on wondering if its worth the hassle and money to sway to only get another boy. My husband thinks swaying doesn't work and says if you want to try again just get pregnant without swaying as its always 50:50. Its so confusing. I have 2 boys my sister has 2 boys and a girl. She didn't sway and doesn't think she changed her diet from when she had the boys. I swayed for my second boy and I really thought I would get a girl. I was devastated but am feeling better now he is starting to interact with us and his older brother more. If I could do high tech I would but we can't do it where I live. Some days I think I will sway again and if its a boy I wasn't meant to have a girl and I will move on with my life. Other days the thought of swaying is so overwhelming I don't know if I can do it. So I will be really interested to see if people with 2 ds have swayed and got a dd for their third child.

[jude17]

Also meant to say that I was looking at another site today at peoples sways and some had perfect girl sways but they still got a boy. That makes me less confident as they were similar sways to what I would do.

[rainbowflower]

I sometimes feel that way too because there are no guarantees... but at least this way I'll know we did everything we could and if it wasn't meant to be I can be OK with that (although will still look longingly at girls clothing in the shops!) lol

I do feel that timing is the least relevant bit, we DTD enough to sway pink for my son but all the other factors such as diet and supps and things must have overwhelmed that fact but as mentioned before you could do the exact same thing twice and have different outcomes.

If you want guaranteed, perhaps you need to think about going HT?

Personally I think that as long as you're sensible you don't have anything to lose from swaying

[Anna Grace]

I have three DS's (twin boys and a single) and if I had known at all about swaying before number 3, I would have done it and given it my all - because I really wanted a single baby after twins (and let me tell you it is bliss...) and I would have wanted to see if I could possibly change the odds of having another boy, ie, given it my all for a girl. And, though the gender disappointment smacked me way harder than I had thought it would, I am still very happy I have three children... I think the term "sway" is right - you are trying to sway your chances, or sway your odds. The term "failed sway" I think is kind of misleading, because it assumes that if you do everything right, you'll get your desired gender. I think it's probably 60-40 or some people even think 70-30 (maybe because of the Dutch gender study where the people who stuck to the diet/swayed were 70% successful or maybe 80? can't recall exactly...) so I think, if 10 women are swaying for pink, 6 or 7 of them will get the pink, the other 3 or 4 won't.

High Tech would be wonderful - but for some of us it's out of the question morally (my stupid DH) or financially or geographically. And adoption is also out for some of us (where we live, divorces, ages, etc.). So if you really want a 3rd and think you'd be okay with a boy, then I think swaying is worth it. The money spent on swaying stuff is nothing compared to HT or adoption - I also think, for those of us who are pink obsessed, the websites and research fill a need... I find it far healthier looking at swaying, reading about swaying, reading about the science about swaying than, saying, spending time in the gender disappointment boards which frankly, just pull me down. But good luck, in whatever you decide!

[TTC5]

I have 4 DD's and yearn for a boy sooooooo much. I will cry if it is another girl, I will grieve and what not but end of the day this is MY BABY, AN INNOCENT LITTLE GIFT OF LIFE I just have to remember that! I for now and staying positive, with the girls I kept telling myself it would be another girl, and it was. I am doing the opposite this time. Sometimes I think maybe I a setting myself up for disappointment but for the most part, I want to enjoy this whole experience and most likely will not find out the gender this time either.

[zanacal]

I completely relate to what you've said in your post.

I have 3 DSs - and no sixth sense because I thought every single one of them would be a girl lol! I was not disappointed to have a third DS. He is absolutely wonderful and I enjoyed his babyhood the most out of the 3. The other boys love him and all 3 play together now. He fits into our family and I'm so glad he's 'him'. That said, I am disappointed not to have a girl. I've persuaded DH to have another baby and he understands that I want to 'try for a girl' but I'm quite prepared to have a 4th boy join our family. I know I'll always wonder if we could have had a girl if we don't try but, if I'm honest, I don't want it enough to go HT (even if we could afford it and lived closer to a country where it's legal!). I want our 4th baby to be made by myself and my husband in the usual way ... and if it's a boy I'll mourn the girl I'll never have but I'll know we tried and I think I'll make my peace with being a boy mum