sway after miscarriage?

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

Do you feel like (if you're ready) it is a good idea to attempt again after your first cycle following miscarriage? Or is it a better idea to get back on the diet for a few months. Does one sway better than the other?

[maidentomother]

I don't think we have enough data to know yet. I think either route sways pink quite strongly, personally, so I'd TTC right away if it were me amd I felt up to it emotionally. I hope you haven't miscarried?

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I have not, yet. Went to ER yesterday, all measurements and levels right on but no heartbeat detected. (If I am 8 weeks would fetal age be 6wks?) Doctor says too early maybe...I dont know if he was just trying to give me false hope or if that is true. But The bleeding has turned to red and more period like. Cramps on and off, but nothing very painful. I havent given up hope yet, but was asking in case the worst was to happen. I kept thinking mc would sway pink except that I have been eating meat like crazy and taking the prenatals. Thank you for your response.

[Rosie85]

With my first miscarriage I didnt wait at all got pregnant right away and carried that pregnancy til 12 weeks. After my d and c we planned to not get pregnant until after 1 cycle but we had an oops but that ended in a chemical. Now I waited until a period and just had my attempt the other night so for me even though ive been through a lot..emotionally I still want to be pregnant and by now miscarriage is the only thing swaying. Its nerve wracking trying to decide what is right but my heart just isnt into swaying anymore but ive had multiple losses and just want a baby. You may be in a different place and feel its more important to have a solid sway. I think a lot of what you did for the sway will still be in tact at this point. Maybe try right away but also pick back up your sway at the same time? That way if you dont fall pregnant you are still on track with the sway.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

Thanks for your advice Rosie. It is such a helpless feeling to see all this bleeding and to just be sitting here and waiting to see what happens. The ER doc said wait a week and make a follow up appointment. That will feel like an eternity, I think!

[Rosie85]

That is nuts to wait. I would be going mad. Some women do have heavy bleeding though during pregnancy and you really just never know. Crazier things have happened ya know? ! So my fingers are still crossed for you. You could take pregnancy tests. ..they would show the drop in hcg if it is indeed a loss.

[girlthistime]

That is not fair to make you wait. If you go to your normal doctor and have them take your bloods you will see whether they are rising or falling and that should give you a better idea. I went through something similar where they made me wait too so I went to the hospital to have my bloods taken. I would just go to your doctor though, the hospital just told me they couldn't compare levels as each practice have different levels but I think he just didn't want to be the one to tell me I was having a miscarriage.

I wish you luck with a sticky bean !

[bluebonnet22]

I'm so sorry you are going through this and don't have any answers! At the risk of sounding TMI/graphic - for me I knew it was a m/c when I passed bigger clumps than I normally would during my period. I honestly didn't pass anything that awful, but it was still clumps. My miscarriage was nearly all brownish-red, I had no bright red. If you haven't passed anything "clumpy", I wouldn't necessarily call it a miscarriage yet. I would be so incredibly frustrated to not know! You poor thing!

Re: swaying - For me I definitely worried about not having a strong enough sway after my miscarriage, but in the end DH and I decided we emotionally were ready to be pg again and really didnt' want to sit out a month waiting. I do worry about the weight I gained during pregnancy (5 lbs), the meat I ate, the prenatals, etc. I understand your concerns! I have seen a fair amount of success stories after m/c (odd, Mrs. Incredible, mariposa,etc) that gave me confidence and made me feel better about trying to conceive again right away.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

Thank you all for your support. It is appreciated more than you know. It has been 6 days since the bleeding started. Would a HPT show up negative by now? That is the hard part, bluebonnet, is just the waiting to see...I am bleeding like a period...nothing clumpy. I am going to try to see when I can get into the doctor but I am sure it will be next week sometime :/

[Rosie85]

It might not be negative but the line might be lighter. It didnt take long for my numbers to drop with either loss and my hpts were negative within a week.