Everyone seems to be pregnant with their third...

[Junie]

I've been trying to stay so positive about the whole TTC thing and the fact that it is taking longer for my husband to agree to a third than I originally thought and hoped. However lately it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant with their third or starting to TTC their third and today the icing on the cake- a woman whose child also goes to our daycare and who has two sons about the ages of mine and who got pregnant spur of the moment didn't need to convince her husband or anything found out she is having a girl- which she doesn't even really want (of course she is thrilled but she is one of those who really, really would have been totally happy with a third boy no regrets).

I was so depressed about it a few weeks ago but we went on vacation last week and had a great time. I didn't worry about the diet or anything I just enjoyed myself and had a great time with hubby and the kids. Now we are back and once again I am thinking about TTC and having a girl constantly. It drives me crazy how my DH just doesn't get it. He has said now that he could change his mind at any time but right now he would rather try to get pregnant when friends do in a year. SERIOUSLY?! Who cares when they get pregnant, most of them are only having their second and what matters is the spacing our kids have to each other, not that he can go out to eat with friends and two of them bring a baby along.

Sorry just had to vent. I'm trying to focus on the fact that this is teaching me patience and that I don't always get what I want when I want it. But part of me then doesn't want to see anyone who does! I also think I have the only DH in the world who would never ever ever consider sex without a condom if I'm not on BC and we aren't TTC. Absolutely no hope of an oopsie here. Which is good because I want to enjoy my last time TTC whenever it does happen but I also want to be pregnant right now! OK sorry for that. Just had to let it out somewhere.

[2boysJustOneGirl]

I just have a thought. That woman who got pregnant with a girl and doesn't care which gender she got likely DOES care. Nobody, except my husband, knows how badly I wanted/want a girl, and when I was prego with DS2 I actually told ppl I wanted another boy. Lol. It's a protective mechanism. Anyway my point is don't think that everybody else is getting exactly what they want while you (and I) suffer in grief.
The more I deal with GD the more I begin to really believe that we are all fighting some sort of emotional battle just us boy moms carry around extra grief.
I also hate seeing ppl have daughters. That won't ever change but at least you know you are not alone. I want to slap most moms with daughters, it just part of who I am!
Chin up.


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[Junie]

I know you are right. I also try to never make any comments about wanting to have a girl so people wouldn't necessarily know that about me unless they were just guessing and of course someone else getting their girl doesn't mean I won't be able to have one but it is still easier when you don't have to see it everyday!

[EmileeJane]

I also really want #3 and we have only tried once and it didn't happen. I keep expecting DH to nix it and he hasn't officially but we were talking 'sway' the other day and he's like, ' are you sure you really want another child?' He was also very hard to convince to have 1 more. And he also really would like a girl- which ultimately is the reason he finally agreed.
You are right though I see pregnant gals EVERY WHERE! And I'm jealous! And like just2boys, I'll likely never stop feeling the pain and envy when someone else gets their girl. You are absolutely not alone on any of it!

[hotdogz&boyz]

I'm sorry. That must be really frustrating. I so, so admire your spin on it, how you talk about it teaching you patience. But it's really hard when people around you are not only having the baby you wish you could try to have...but getting what you want gender-wise too (and not *seeming* to care). I hope your husband comes around soon and can help you fulfill your dream of a little girl.