where did "dtd every 4 days" come from?

[gizmo77]

i remember reading in IG and i think here that its best to DTD every 2-6 days to help replenish and keep sperm count high with the 4th day being the day of highest sperm count and the 5th day dropping markedly in sperm count. i realize every guy's body is different. ive also heard to TTC (just to get pregnant) that you should have sex "regularly" (whatever THAT means..bc regular is diff to everyone). so the two ideas go together.

but where did this "4th day (of abstainence) is highest and 5th day is when sperm count drops dramatically idea come from? any studies or articles to back this up?

my husb while he may have an average to low avg sex drive, is just too busy/tired/stressed to constantly have sex (daily or every other day). so every 4 days is fine for him he says. but occasionally itll be every 3 days if he has a trip planned where we are not together. i just want to make sure 4 days isnt too long but i also dont want to "pressure" him into "oh its every3 days now."
but typically 2wice a week (every 4 days) is a LOT for him, esply with how stressfull he views our lives, with work and the kids.

need research to reassure myself!!
thx!

[rainbowflower]

when I was TTC and got my DS before I even knew about swaying I did research to see what the "optimum" frequency to DTD was.... all the advice I'd seen to get pregnant said to do it every other day, but I found out that the man's store of sperm refreshes about every 36hrs, so we DTD every 36 hours and conceived my son

[Zivic-Bubac]

Excellent question!
Thanks Rainbow for sharing your experience!
If I remember well, IVF candidates are giving sperm samples 48 hours apart? That means sperm number is at optimum or not?
I agree BDing every 36 hours gives you better chance to catch the egg

Last cycle we BDed every other day without results obviously and I plan to do it this cycle too + BDing night of the 1st +OPK.

[daisyfay311]

That's a great question! My doctor said every other day is optimal and I know my bff had a boy from dtd every day for like a week around O (ironically, she wanted a girl). I know tons of people with boys who just dtd as much as they could around O.

My DH is like yours, he is fine with once or twice a week and when I try to get him to every day he starts complaining that there's not any of him left! In July we tried every 36 hours for a total of three times leading up to O. That was a stretch for us and obviously got no results. In August I'm not sure when I O'd, I was trying to relax because I had been so stressed before. But we dtd on a Friday, Saturday, and Monday around the times I had ewcm. I would have liked to have dtd Tuesday too but he was just too tired. So I guess I will see in about a week and a half if that got us any results.

But I am ready to be pregnant, I've been doing this diet too damn long so there is no way I'm going to every 4 days at this point. I will try to stick with every other day or every 36 hours if I can get DH up for it. And anyway, timing is supposed to be pretty much debunked and the least important swaying factor anyway.

[skrimpy]

I'm not sure where it comes from, either. I know "every other day" is the standard advice given, esp. for DH's that might have lower sperm levels. Otherwise, every day while fertile is standard get pg advice.

I remember that on IG they had the cutoffs given for being 4 days. We didn't do that, though, we only had a day between releases for our successful boy sway... my DH likes frequent BD'ing Hopefully not TMI - but DH did have a release with my assistance NOT BD'ing two days before my O on that cycle, since we wanted to time to only BD on O day. But DH needed his relief. So anyways, that BD on O day was the one that got me pg with DS, but DH had only a 2 day buildup, not 4. That's just our personal experience!

[Flava]

It comes from IG guru and I don't think any studies back that up because then we would know about it by now right?Or atomic or someone else would have posted the studies here right?

Anyway I did it with the suppose to be awesome msu and no boy for me ...So Im doing the 2 days now for sure.

[Flava]

Excellent question!
Thanks Rainbow for sharing your experience!
If I remember well, IVF candidates are giving sperm samples 48 hours apart? That means sperm number is at optimum or not?
I agree BDing every 36 hours gives you better chance to catch the egg

hey Z why don't you post with us anymore? I moved in to post and you never came back. Hope you ok. Sorry for the bfn

Last cycle we BDed every other day without results obviously and I plan to do it this cycle too + BDing night of the 1st +OPK.

Hey Z why don't you post with us anymore in the blue group? I post in there now and you are gone ...hope you come back and tell us about the vacation. sorry for the bfn

[gizmo77]

so 2-3 days okay, or is the general consensus 2?
i thought maybe id bump it to every 3 days for now if dh can handle it then on attemtpt week do it every 2 days...whtat do u guys think?
so confused

[purplepoet20]

For us we dtd nearly everyday, more before DS1, but we would sometimes miss a day hear and there. Hubby also helped himself every morning unless we dtd in the morning. I think our diet played the biggest role in getting boys and not having any form of cutoff.

[nuthinbutpink]

All I can tell you is that when you do IVF, the doctor wanted my DH to release 2 days before ER. They want a fresh sample. They do tell us 2-4 days though. They are looking for count.