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    What should my BD pattern be?

    I am asking this question in case DH comes round and we get to do our attempt this cycle. Today is CD 7 (last day of AF) and we BD last night. Going by the last few cycles I should get my first pos OPK on CD 16 (and a second on CD 17 and usually O night of day 17 or following day if it's late). It will be just one attempt that we have but I am wondering if pattern of BD still matters? Last night we made up after a tiff and I think that DH will be wanting to BD more regularly than every 4 days, so what others options do I have that are still girl friendly? Otherwise I will have to skip this cycle and wait til next one if he needs more time. Is every 2 or 3 days boy friendly? We would be using condoms from now until the one attempt. Thanks and wish me luck.
    2008 2010 2012 August 2015 at 10 weeks and CP June 2016 2019. My longed-for baby girl (DD2) arrived into the world safe and sound on 13th June 2019 . We named her Lucia Anna Catalina. I still can't believe she is here and often have to pinch myself. I am one VERY blessed Mumma. She also has a dimple like her big sister.



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    Bding every 2-4 days with condom until your one attempt is fine for pink and great for sperm health.

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    currently TTC, Cycle #16 since last BFP

    TTC #1 - swaying pink on & off since Nov 2013 - hoping for a girl first but excited for either!

    Dec 2001 - May 2006 : 5 early abortions of healthy singletons (3 medical @5w, 2 surgical @8w, last 4 pregnancies conceived with late DH, all conceived while TTA/on birth control)
    Mar 2012: miscarried B/G twins @5w (conceived 2 cycles after removìng Paraguard copper IUD while NTNP), one twin was ovarian ectopic

    Me: 34, widowed, late O + short LP, normal-good hormone levels excepting undetectable testosterone, seeking a known sperm donor/life partner
    My sway: vegetarian LE for over 28w, skipping breakfast, fibre (ground psyllium husks) with/before/between meals, physically inactive, drama avoidance, ocassional minimal YesBaby lube as needed, alternate cycles on low dose Clomid, double shot lattes (with meals)
    Past sway tactics I've dropped (in order): Vitex, Sudafed, antihistamines, intermittent fasting, one attempt per cycle at positive OPK, one attempt in fertile period

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    Thanks maiden. Not that I need to worry now since DH has gone back on his word and anti any more babies. I tried to talk to him this morning civilly about it but he doesn't even listen to me. He just shuts down and says, "No more babies." So I'm presently back in a lose lose situation and feeling teary and emotional about this morning as though it's not going to happen for me one last time like I'd hoped and dreamt. He told me this morning he agreed to that one attempt just to stop my nagging but I can't even seem to compromise with him now. Part of me says I should just move on and forget about one last baby, but another part of me is upset and angry that he is denying me this one thing. He even told me he thought we'd agreed to just two kids before we got married and that is simply not true. We never discussed a set number of children let alone decided upon such. I don't know what more I can do to help change his mind back to the one try. I have tried to compromise telling him I would do it all myself - night feeds, nappies, etc.
    2008 2010 2012 August 2015 at 10 weeks and CP June 2016 2019. My longed-for baby girl (DD2) arrived into the world safe and sound on 13th June 2019 . We named her Lucia Anna Catalina. I still can't believe she is here and often have to pinch myself. I am one VERY blessed Mumma. She also has a dimple like her big sister.



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    Oh no. I am so sorry to hear that, though unfortunately not surprised given that he'd only offer one attempt EVER before. Maybe it's time to back off for a bit on this topic, focus on improving your relationship with him, then try a different approach in a few months? In the meantime you can be swaying hard on your own but without rubbing his face in it, just determinedly doing it yourself. That is probably what I'd do...

    My Ovulation Chart
    currently TTC, Cycle #16 since last BFP

    TTC #1 - swaying pink on & off since Nov 2013 - hoping for a girl first but excited for either!

    Dec 2001 - May 2006 : 5 early abortions of healthy singletons (3 medical @5w, 2 surgical @8w, last 4 pregnancies conceived with late DH, all conceived while TTA/on birth control)
    Mar 2012: miscarried B/G twins @5w (conceived 2 cycles after removìng Paraguard copper IUD while NTNP), one twin was ovarian ectopic

    Me: 34, widowed, late O + short LP, normal-good hormone levels excepting undetectable testosterone, seeking a known sperm donor/life partner
    My sway: vegetarian LE for over 28w, skipping breakfast, fibre (ground psyllium husks) with/before/between meals, physically inactive, drama avoidance, ocassional minimal YesBaby lube as needed, alternate cycles on low dose Clomid, double shot lattes (with meals)
    Past sway tactics I've dropped (in order): Vitex, Sudafed, antihistamines, intermittent fasting, one attempt per cycle at positive OPK, one attempt in fertile period

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    Thanks Maiden. Yep...will keep up everything on my part just in case and back off on the topic for a while.
    2008 2010 2012 August 2015 at 10 weeks and CP June 2016 2019. My longed-for baby girl (DD2) arrived into the world safe and sound on 13th June 2019 . We named her Lucia Anna Catalina. I still can't believe she is here and often have to pinch myself. I am one VERY blessed Mumma. She also has a dimple like her big sister.



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    Don't worry too much about a pattern. Since e4d isn't going to work for you as your DH wants it more often then just continue whenever and if you get an OPK+ try to have an unprotected attempt if DH is willing.

    I also agree with maiden about giving him a bit of time before bringing it up. Maybe things are really stressful at work for him at the moment and he can't cope with any extra demands at home. Who knows what he has going on in his head.

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    I don't think pattern of BD matters at all (ther is NO difference bewteen 4 days, 3 days, 2 days) and it's imperative that you guys just DTD like little bunny rabbits and keep that closeness going.
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    Thanks ladies. Great advice as always. We had a bit of a chat about it again yesterday and he admitted he would love to have another one if he thought it was going to be a girl, but just not so keen on another boy as the two we have already (espeically our oldest one) are handfuls. So I'm thinking he is going to change his mind again. I'm just worried now how I have been with my diet. I have been having breakfast (all though that may well change tomorrow when school starts up), I have been snacking (I find it difficult to go in between meals without eating as I can sometimes feel sick, weak and get the shakes - although I def don't have diabetes), plus I have been having a small bit of choc the last few days. The only things I have done well on the diet with are red meat (once a week or twice if we don't have fish once), chicken mainly, 4 eggs a week. I'm also worked because I haven't been eating much dairy as I just find that a struggle. Should I take a little bit of a calcium supp?
    2008 2010 2012 August 2015 at 10 weeks and CP June 2016 2019. My longed-for baby girl (DD2) arrived into the world safe and sound on 13th June 2019 . We named her Lucia Anna Catalina. I still can't believe she is here and often have to pinch myself. I am one VERY blessed Mumma. She also has a dimple like her big sister.



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    No calcium, you don't need to eat much or even any dairy. I strongly recommend you go completely vegetarian (or even vegan, all the better) and definitely NO snacking. Diet is the most important sway factor by far! I'd really focus on keeping fat intake low especially.

    My Ovulation Chart
    currently TTC, Cycle #16 since last BFP

    TTC #1 - swaying pink on & off since Nov 2013 - hoping for a girl first but excited for either!

    Dec 2001 - May 2006 : 5 early abortions of healthy singletons (3 medical @5w, 2 surgical @8w, last 4 pregnancies conceived with late DH, all conceived while TTA/on birth control)
    Mar 2012: miscarried B/G twins @5w (conceived 2 cycles after removìng Paraguard copper IUD while NTNP), one twin was ovarian ectopic

    Me: 34, widowed, late O + short LP, normal-good hormone levels excepting undetectable testosterone, seeking a known sperm donor/life partner
    My sway: vegetarian LE for over 28w, skipping breakfast, fibre (ground psyllium husks) with/before/between meals, physically inactive, drama avoidance, ocassional minimal YesBaby lube as needed, alternate cycles on low dose Clomid, double shot lattes (with meals)
    Past sway tactics I've dropped (in order): Vitex, Sudafed, antihistamines, intermittent fasting, one attempt per cycle at positive OPK, one attempt in fertile period

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    Maiden - she's doing the atomic fertility diet.
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