Timing Question

[PNWmama]

I'm currently in the middle of a girl sway. I'm CD13 and monitoring with OPKS (wondfos and clear blue advanced). We've been abstaining for 10 days. If we BD tonight, is it best to keep it to one time? Or should we dtd again tomorrow, or will it effect sperm count? I'm feel a little clueless

[atomic sagebrush]

PLEASE only have one attempt at least at first. That has been far and away best results for us.

[PNWmama]

Ok thanks. My clear blue test this morning had a flashing smiley ("Hugh") and the fmu OPK looked negative. The smu OPK looks positive so I hope I didn't mess up timing too much. I'm cd 14 now and ovulated on cd17 last time I tracked. I read that coming off BC helps sway pink so I did that for this cycle and it's so hard to predicate ovulation 3 days in advance

[atomic sagebrush]

It's actually pretty much impossible, but no worries, most of us on here have 2-3-4 timing opposites and got our girls (or boys) after we gave up on Shettles timing. I have 3 of 4 boys with "girl" timing and got my girl with Shettles boy timing. The important thing is the one attempt.

[Birthfree]

It's actually pretty much impossible, but no worries, most of us on here have 2-3-4 timing opposites and got our girls (or boys) after we gave up on Shettles timing. I have 3 of 4 boys with "girl" timing and got my girl with Shettles boy timing. The important thing is the one attempt.

I'm in a similar spot (have been ttc for 3m, using Shettles)... I am at CD11 and last month got a + OPK on CD12... (ovulated next day, according to the temp spike 48h after + OPK). Do I want my try to be tonight? Tomorrow?

I know this should be simple and I have read for days here but it got really confusing and conflicting...

(Not sure if it matters but I'm 40)

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, it depends on how sold you are on Shettles. If you feel like you HAVE to keep doing Shettles, you'd want to attempt tonight but personally I'd wait till positive OPK if you can bear it.

FWIW given your age, time is not our friend here and I would start giving up things that don't sway (like timing) while keeping the things that do (like one attempt.) But you have to decide that for yourself.

If you could explain what is confusing/conflicting I can explain.

[Birthfree]

No I'm not set on Shettles... I was ready to just throw it all out until I asked a friend who referred me here (she's not quite as old as I am but closer than most).

I was reading all sorts of things on the dates of when to do the one try and it was that that was messing me all up...

And because of time I'm worried anyways. Just on the + OPK day (evening?)? (I see sometimes people have + OPKs a few days in a row. I've only had it one day but that's why I'm asking, I don't know if my body will do like it did before? Probably safe to say it will?).

Hopefully that made sense...

[Birthfree]

And thank you!

[atomic sagebrush]

What you can do in that scenario is have the attempt at first positive OPK and then pick it up with every 4 days thereafter in case you ovulate later than you think you're going to.

RE the confusion with the dates, just go ahead and ask any questions - a lot of the "conflicting" info is just because I try to let the majority of people have "their sways, their way" but at the same time advise based on my own experience. so there are lots of potential ways to do something, but then I have my "vision" on what is best, too.

[Birthfree]

I really appreciate this/that, thank you!