Question about abstaining

[onebigwish]

Hi I’ve read the essay about timing. But have questions about timing. When we are going to ttc DH is going to be 42/43 years old. He is very very fit. He never drink alcohol or smoke or ate pork in his life. With ds1 & ds2 we conceived immediately. I’m thinking about abstaining (7 days) is that a good idea?

[ksmom]

It's not recommended for men over 35 to abstain. Thread about it here

Atomic also updated the essay on number of attempts (5th post down) in which she states she's found that abstain and FR are not getting good results for pink, just the one attempt.

[atomic sagebrush]

No. Here's an essay that will explain why (and I just updated it, too!) http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...over-35-a.html

[atomic sagebrush]

LOL ks we posted the same thing! Thank you!

[onebigwish]

Ok,thanks ! I’ve also read that for a girl I must use the last batch& have protected bd. I’m worrying I’ll sway boy because my husband don’t want to to protected and don’t want to help himself and always wants to come inside me ��. Can I still sway girl with every 4 days UNprotected BD?

[Girlswaylondon]

Every 4 day method is meant to be unprotected

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes BD unprotected every 4 days has been a good pink sway for us - just wrote a how to in this thread, a few posts down http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

That's how I got my girl!!

[Kristenann]

to be clear, for a girl BD every 4 days from start of period? since this is day 1 cycle does that mean BD Day 4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 24, 30 etc.....?
and to BD also when positive Ovulation test?
Does this lower sperm count and lower chance conception? I really wanna sway pink however i also really want to conceive straight away ... Thank you

[atomic sagebrush]

In this thread (last post in the series of posts at the beginning I just posted a writeup that should answer your questions. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

[Kristenann]

Thanks Atomic.. i have just read your other forum post.
Reading what it mentions about lots of sex or no sex and how single mums have daughters...
to be totally clear, this means you should have no sex at all from day 1 / start of period / cycle until Ovulation day?
But doesnt this conflict with the BD every 4 days to get a girl?