Early miscarriage- help

[pinkcoffee]

I am 5+3 but this pregnancy does not seem to be progressing as it should. Unless anything happens dramatically beforehand I have another week before I’ll know a clearer picture of what’s happening. I’m trying to be realistic and prepare myself but I do know I’ll still be devastated anyway. I’ve had miscarriages before (all tests normal, maybe my body isn’t fussy enough when it comes to viable pregnancies) and the only thing that’s keeping me together mentally whilst we wait and see is thinking I can try again if this doesn’t work out, so I hope I’m not offending anyone by thinking to the future.

I know late losses sway pink in the next pregnancy but what should I do after an early loss? Since finding out about this pregnancy I’ve been taking vitamins and eating much better. So would it be better to wait and have a strict 3m LE before trying again or should I try first month and be LE for that month?

[ksmom]

First off, I'm so sorry you're in limbo. We do think that even the earlier losses may help sway. No need to go back on LE for another few months before TTC again. Even just eating normally for a few weeks will not derail your sway. If it did, we'd only have to do LE diet for a couple of weeks but we know that's not the case. Don't worry about having taken vitamins. Depending on how long you've been swaying, your body may have needed it anyway. If you feel ready, I would start trying right away. Don't feel bad for thinking ahead as it's a way of guarding our hearts. With my third loss, I just knew in my heart the moment I got a BFP the pregnancy wasn't viable and found myself preparing for the next steps. Hopefully though your pregnancy is healthy and will continue to progress. Lots of sticky dust and positive vibes to you.

[pinkcoffee]

Thank you Ksmom, I’ve felt like that since the bfp too was hoping it was just the shock as we weren’t meant to be trying yet.

Should I take anything extra like raspberry leaf?

[ksmom]

I wouldn't do RRL (I just made a post about this stuff here). Unfortunately miscarriages are quite common and I see them a lot with pink swayers. Something goes wrong from the outset and nothing we did or didn't do causes it. Are you taking folic or folate and how much?

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm so sorry to hear this pink.

No, you dont' need to start over again on diet. You haven't been off it long enough to cause any harm anyway.

[pinkcoffee]

UPDATE: first scan actually went ok (darent say well)
Heartbeat etc seen and measured 2.3mm which is slightly smaller than expected for 6+4 so she’s put me back a little. Hopefully this isn’t bad news.
Ovulated from the left and implanted on the left, little bit paranoid about that since miscarriages are often from the left ovary. There was some implantation bruising seen on scan so I might have a small bleed at some point. Keeping everything crossed.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh that's great news!!!

Do you think you might have ovulated a bit later than you think?

[pinkcoffee]

Thank you ❤️ I really don’t know when I ovulated as our attempt was meant to be in the new year. She wasn’t too concerned about the size/dates so will hopefully have caught up or still be positive at the next scan in 2 weeks time. I think ovulation occurred somewhere between the 5th and 10th of November but no idea when

[atomic sagebrush]

That's what I like to hear - sometimes people know exactly when they Oed and then being behind makes me nervous but I think the dates are just a little off. Good luck!