think I've failed to ovulate :(

[rainbowflower]

I feel so down about it all. Sorry if this turns into an essay.

This month should have been quite a good sway, had we ovulated when I thought we were going to. All the signs looked so promising, our BDing was good, used RepHresh, OPKs, stuck to the diet... and then I never got my temp shift and instead seemingly infinite pos OPKs!!

Here's my chart: it's worth noting that todays temp is the first "adjusted" temp after our clocks went back an hour, so is potentially 0.1C higher than it would have been had the clocks not changed as I don't think my body clock has adapted yet.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/296ced

I feel like we've wasted so much money this month - a whole box of CBFM sticks, loads of OPKs (ICs and Tesco own brand), RepHresh... in fact I have barely any supplies left and no indicator of when/if OV will occur. For all I know I've already OVed... although my chart doesn't show it.

I'm fed up of the diet. I was only doing it until after OV this cycle as I need to regain weight quite urgently now... so the longer OV takes to happen, the more fed up I'm getting.

DH has been so good with his pre-attempt releasing but he's getting exhausted and fed up now too. It's not fun just DTD or releasing out of necessity and not for enjoyment day after day. We simply won't be able to keep it up much longer.

What probably went wrong was that my DS developed a tummy bug at the completely wrong time - just as OV was about to happen - and upped his BF. From what I've read, higher prolactin can cause the LH receptors on the follicles to become over enthusiastic, thus producing even more LH. This would explain the lack of OV and more days of pos OPKs, and OPK lines that are darker than normal. I just hope that it hasn't ruined my eggs this cycle by letting them mature too much...

I don't know what to do now, I'm so exhausted and this stress can't be helping

[Lavenderlime]

Oh Rainbow I don't know what to say? How long of as break were you hoping to take before TTC again? How long do you have to be on the LE diet before an attempt?

I must be horrible thinking you've wasted a month in time and money. It's so annoying. A few people on the smog thread have missed Ov after asking there DP/H's to abstain for such a long time. Or had to write off a month because things didn't go to plan It's just a shame that our bodies are sometimes unpredictable. TTC can be hard enough without throwing swaying into the mix.

[Lavenderlime]

Are you willing to stop now and just write it off and start eating normally? Proper tasty food often lifts my mood and nothing like a cup of tea and cake for stress.

You don't want to be TTC stressed as it sways blue doesn't it. I think you just need to give yourself a break and get your strenth up. x

[rainbowflower]

aww thank you for replying to me

you have to be on it for 6 weeks at least. I think I've now been on it for 9 weeks... it wasn't actually too difficult for most of that time, but I do like my food and had been really anticipating my 2ww so I could enjoy meat and breakfast again (in particular).

how can I possibly sway well in future if diet is the most important thing and if I can't spare the weight without becoming swayorexic?

this month really was our best chance what with still BF quite a bit which sways pink in itself and potential OV coincided with the new moon, biorhythms... everything seemed to line up.

you're so right that it's just horrible and our bodies know how to throw a spanner in the works sometimes. swaying is hard enough as it is without everything else. I think I'm mainly having a down-day today, I can feel that black cloud hovering!

[rainbowflower]

I'm not sure stress sways blue particularly - I've seen studies that show that more stressed women (i.e. SAHMs, managers, those with long-term financial worries) are more likely to have daughters. It just makes life feel more of a struggle!

I don't know about writing off this month. If I do then it means the whole 9 weeks will have been wasted too as we won't be TTC until after Christmas after this cycle. The idea was to have a go this cycle and then take the time to regain weight and enjoy our first Christmas at home as a family.


I did go and get a cup of tea and a Wispa earlier, and you're right that did help a bit

[Lavenderlime]

So are you doing frequent with O+12? Can DH do frequent release by himself so that takes the stress off of DTD for DTD sake.

I've looked at your chart and it looks like some crazy science spreadsheet to me (I don't temp) lol.
So can't help there.

What cycle day are you on and how long are your cycles?

[Lavenderlime]

Gald the tea helped!

Maybe the stress swaying blue is more of an IG theory. But i'm a high stress person and have two boys! So am doing everything oposite this time so will be lighting the lavender oil and taking long baths. What I really need to do is ship my boys off! lol

[sweetsister]

How long have you had pos opk for maybe due to the stress of what you said your egg is having trouble getting out of the gate?It might still happen?I agree relax and eat rest the stress isnt helping...Ijust recently quit breastfeeding last two cycles i havent conceived and usually i get pregnant v vvvery easy..They say breastfeeding for some is like birth control,although others doesnt work obviously.So that would do it..I hear you about the diet im fed up with it too...

[zanacal]

I wish I could pretend I understood your chart too but I've never done it myself so my understanding is very basic! What is your CBFM saying?

I know you feel p!ssed off right now and I don't blame you but you're not out yet this cycle and will hopefully ovulate eventually - if anybody can dust themselves down and get back to it then you can Rainbow!

[rainbowflower]

I've had 6 pos OPKs so far (possibly another one tonight but as you know ICs don't show them as well and I didn't verify it with a Tesco one)

With the CBFM you can only use 20 sticks per cycle and then it stops asking you for them even if it didn't detect your surge. I did miss one day earlier on but all the rest have been "high" meaning that oestrogen is high but not picking up the LH surge.

SS - I know BF can be like that for some, which is why I think the increased BF over the weekend caused me to be less fertile temporarily. I've been charting a few cycles before this one (this is my first TTC one) and I have ovulated in all of them, so I know my BF levels have been low enough... I didn't have more than 1 pos OPK in any of those cycles either and had an obvious and sustained thermal shift.

Zana thanks for the PMA, I'm afraid I've cracked this evening and had a slice of my DHs Dominos pizza and two of their cookies... now I feel the guilt!

LL - I'm doing BD through O, not timing O+12 but if I see the opportunity we'll DTD around then too. At the moment aiming to BD every other morning, with DH releasing and discarding the night before. Aiming to DTD within 12hrs of his previous release each time, and have managed that so far each attempt this cycle. Initially we were only going to DTD on the day of the pos OPK, but with so many in a row we've had to carry on. A long lavender bath sounds like heaven - think I'll give that a try tonight and have an early night!