Trying to figure out best frequency for me...

[deaks66]

As it stands if I attempt this month it will be at o+12 (I'll consider dropping this after a couple of months perhaps). Would it be better to attempt this after abstinence (if so how long?) or after every 4 day releases? If the latter, I presume the releases are better if not bd? Presumably however if that option is chosen it might not coincide with o+12 right as my cycles are far from clock work meaning I could end up with an 0+12 after a release 2 days before or something. I guess this is what makes me think abstinence would be better but is it rubbish for swaying girl or rubbish for getting pg altogether? Sorry for the ramble x

[deaks66]

Thinking about it...what with dh being 35 (with an adequate sperm count, not brilliant by a long stretch) and me and my mildly dodgy fertility being 34, perhaps i need to rethink the abstainance! really want to stick with o+12 at the minute though as i get a sky high ph during ov.

[Pink rose 76]

Hi Deaks, I tried swaying in between ht cycles and had a miscarriage early on. I always put it down to the ridiculous long abstinence we did, 30 days. I think you are right that abstinence for too long may not be good but if it's in between a week and two it's supposed to be fine. And I did 0+12 a lot easier to pinpoint than o-days.

Good luck Hun. You'll have to keep us updated on the ht group

[deaks66]

so perhaps around 10 days abstinance is good? trouble is ov can be very delayed so its impossible to judge it which makes me think dh should release every 4 days up until our attempt. But i just dont want to do anything that sways boy at all. decisions...

i will keep you updated. another ht cycle isnt out of the question but i just dont know how much more of it i can handle... feel like someones trying to tell me something!

[deaks66]

Another question to add to the list on this thread, how many times would dh need to FR if we did go down that route? Atomic i know im a pain and im sure you have probably answered these a million times but id so appreciate your wisdom!

[HopeandDreamG]

Deaks- go for frequent not abstain. And can you get clomid?

[covered in blue]

Just found the frequency essay. Thought it might help someone if I link it here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

[deaks66]

Deaks- go for frequent not abstain. And can you get clomid?

Need to research the clomid. As for FR I really want to but if I have a very long cycle I think dh will end up struggling. Was thinking though if I use opks and get dh to start FR when the second line starts appearing. I'm sure that would be a good week or so before ov. Might add a lot if stress though x

[Luvmyboys]

so perhaps around 10 days abstinance is good? trouble is ov can be very delayed so its impossible to judge it which makes me think dh should release every 4 days up until our attempt. But i just dont want to do anything that sways boy at all. decisions...

i will keep you updated. another ht cycle isnt out of the question but i just dont know how much more of it i can handle... feel like someones trying to tell me something!

Deaks, this is me too. I feel like someone is trying to tell me to avoid ht...

[atomic sagebrush]

The answer is...it depends.

I don't recommend abstain for guys over 35 but yours is right on the fence, and the nice thing about abstain is that it really is a lot less stress than any of the other frequency patterns. WE haven't gotten great results with any of the frequency patterns, unfortunately.

If I may suggest a compromise, I'd have DH release every 2-4 days and then whenever you plan on having your one attempt, do a hurry up FR - have him release once, dump it, then DTD again as quickly as you're able to and use only that second batch for insemination. I think it's the least stressful option without having to do abstain.