New, need help, time for intros later...

[usuallywrite]

I will properly introduce myself very soon, I promise! I have been reading on here for about 4 months, but right now have a question that is in urgent need of an answer. I had a +opk over 2 weeks ago, but no obvious signs of O, went ahead and dtd anyway, have since had a bfn. I was expecting AF so haven't been using opks, and suddenly tonight, ewcm like crazy. It has been over a week since we last dtd, and since neither of us are spring chickens, I am hesitant to dtd since his, ahem, quality might be lacking at this point. But if we wait, we may miss a window. I normally only get about a day of ewcm, so it's not like I have time to waste here. What do I do? We have been trying, loosely for a few months, and then quite seriously since April. Help me, wise ones. TIA.

[covered in blue]

Go for it . You've got nothing to loose!

[usuallywrite]

We decided to throw caution to the wind, since apparently nothing about this process is going to be straight forward this time around anyway. Very un-Martha of me, so maybe that is something.

[atomic sagebrush]

When in doubt, DTD! esp if you've been trying for a while. Ya never know when the "Golden Egg" will show up.

I get the concern about the abstain but that's just one of those things while I don't want people doing it deliberately, it's just something that may raise risks a teeny amount. I would still have you go for it, with ONE attempt, and then leave it.

[usuallywrite]

Thank-you, Atomic. I figured no attempt= definitely no baby. As you said, you never know...

[usuallywrite]

I don't know what is happening or what to do! After this initial post, yesterday, Saturday, I had no ewcm, which didn't surprise me. Took an opk yesterday, negative. Just out of curiosity this afternoon, I did another opk, and it was the most blazing positive I have had in months! Now it has only been 2 days since we bd'd, I am seeing ewcm again, and don't know if I should give it another go tonight... I know 1 attempt is best for ttc pink but I am a bit nervous that if I don't O for another day or 2, there may be nothing left to meet the egg since we had had a 9 or so day abstain (not on purpose) before our most recent attempt. I feel slightly like I could shoot myself in the foot either way. Thoughts?

[covered in blue]

I think that one attempt is still good. You did have the abstain but you had the ewcm which will help them survive a few days and there still would be some good spermies in amongst there. Fingers crossed you ovulate sooner rather than later. Good luck! Bumping up for AS anyway

[atomic sagebrush]

I would flip a coin!!