WTF is wrong with me... I'm jealous of Princess Kate now

[lemonade]

I was out grocery shopping with my 6 week old DS2, and as we were checking out, a magazine headline popped out at me: "Princess Kate Pregnant Again... It's A Girl!" in huge letters, with a picture of her looking ecstatic. I felt my heart sinking, and I actually got tears in my eyes. I held it together until I got to the car, and I started sobbing behind my sunglasses.

I don't really care about the royal family, but Princess Kate had her son around the time I found out I was having a second son. Having her in the world spotlight as a mom of a baby boy kind of helped me with my GD (although it seemed there was a ton of disappointment that he wasn't an adorable little princess.) But less than a year later, she is going to have her princess after all, and you just know this little girl will get insane amounts of press, with her adorable outfits and tiaras. You just know Kate will dress her to the nines like her little doll, and she'll be everywhere. Prince George will be shoved to the background.

I think I feel worse because we went to a little boy's 2nd birthday this weekend, and the mom was pregnant, and she congratulated me on my DS, and then said "we're having a little girl this time." As always, I felt that twinge of hurt deep inside. It's far worse when the mom has a boy first. I also tend to see far more baby girls than boys lately.

This is definitely Gender Desire, not Disappointment, because I am head over heels with DS2. He is extremely adorable with his wide eyes and blond hair, and I get compliments on him everywhere I go. And DS1 is a sweetheart. It's just that I know we're only going to have 3 kids, and if I want a guaranteed daughter like these women, it's going to be tremendously invasive and expensive, and that makes me so sad.

[GreaseMonkey]

I am sorry you are hurting but I wouldn't put too much emphasis on magazines, I highly doubt she is pregnant and also carrying a girl.

I get what you are feeling, I was this way when I had my 2nd son. It seemed like everyone around me was having girls and I was having another boy after wanting to stick with only 1 kid. Only reason I had #2 was because of DH, he wanted another one. Now I am pregnant with #3 and I was SO mad!!!! I hated it, wanted it to be over and when I thought it was over and then it wasn't I kind of felt relief that the little one I thought I had miscarried was still alive and thriving. This is it for me, boy or girl this baby is going to be my last and I find out gender in a couple of weeks.
Don't lose hope, your #3 might be a girl

[hotdogz&boyz]

I think Gender Desire/Disappointment can hit at weird times. When you expect it, it can be mysteriously absent. And when you don't, it can hit you really strongly.

I am quite sure that Kate is not "pregnant and expecting a girl." The royal palace would have put out a press release if she were expecting. And I highly doubt they would announce gender at the same time...or even at all, given they didn't find out with George. She would be rather early to find out even if she were expecting. And I doubt she would have the testing, given her age and health. It seems to be a "thing" with the media lately...talking obsessively about her "being pregnant." I've seen it 2-3 times since October or so. Who knows if she even wants another at this stage. I do, however, feel bad for her. Everyone seems to be focused on her getting a princess, I bet that is a lot of pressure and could fuel some GD of her own.

But your feelings are entirely valid. No different, really, than your boy-mom friend who suddenly gets a girl. It feels like they won't understand anymore (although, I assure you, I do remember very well how it feels). And envy creeps in. You may be that person who other folks are envious of when number three turns out to be a girl. Don't count yourself out!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I read a TON of things saying she was having a girl with the first one, so I wouldn't put any stock into that.

it does getcha sometimes though. Even though I have my daughter, my sister and all her friends have b-g pairs without even trying (they are way younger than me so although I have been popping out boys for 20 years they are all just now starting their families). It's like oh of course everyone else it just happens for easily and without effort and now they get to relax and enjoy every precious second, whereas I have to give birth 5 times and raise kids for 45 years and do years of exhaustive research and invent a whole freaking diet to get one little girl! :s Not my most shining moment!!

[Dreamofpink]

Yes but in doing so Atomic, you've changed so many women's lives around the world! You're incredible!

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[Rosie85]

Yes but in doing so Atomic, you've changed so many women's lives around the world! You're incredible!

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What she said! You are changing so many peoples lives, making their dreams a possibility!!

[Rosie85]

Lemonade I too saw the same magazine and INSTANTLY felt extremely jealous. I went home and looked it up because I was skeptical it was even true and sure enough it's fake but still! The feelings I had were real and I get them all the time. Why everyone but me? What did I do to not deserve a baby girl...my dream? It literally hurts my heart so badly I think it truly skips beats. Hopefully this is my time and your time too whenever you have your next!

[trifecta]

I saw that magazine and had the same feelings some of you did but I doubt she's pregnant again so soon. As others pointed out all the tabloids were keen on her having a girl the first time but she had a boy; there's no way they would know the sex if she was pregnant. I was dreading George's birth because I thought based on how bad her morning sickness was that it would be a girl and I would be jealous. Now I hope they have another boy so George won't be lonely and so people might start to see single-sex families as something that could be desirable instead of as an aberration.

[Adia]

I read a TON of things saying she was having a girl with the first one, so I wouldn't put any stock into that.

it does getcha sometimes though. Even though I have my daughter, my sister and all her friends have b-g pairs without even trying (they are way younger than me so although I have been popping out boys for 20 years they are all just now starting their families). It's like oh of course everyone else it just happens for easily and without effort and now they get to relax and enjoy every precious second, whereas I have to give birth 5 times and raise kids for 45 years and do years of exhaustive research and invent a whole freaking diet to get one little girl! :s Not my most shining moment!!

While it is not a laughing matter, you make me chuckle. Some of us have gone to such crazy lengths to get our DG that it could be seen as a little nutty if you were talking to an average friend on the sidewalk....

In all that you have changed many of our lives for the better.

And i HIGHLY doubt princess Kate is preggers or having a girl. The tabloids get desperate when the drama dies down in the winter time. She certainly didn't look anywhere near prego in her Valentine day photo from some royal errand she was on.

[dreaminginblue]

I felt envious when she had George as she had such bad morning sickness I was convinced she was having a girl. Obviously this has been found to be fake but it would be like someone else has said, all over the media if she was to have a girl. Boys are lovely but the world seems more appreciative of girls. Unless its your second one, than no-one seems interested.
IRL my friend has just found she's pregnant with her 2nd and she's had a terrible few weeks with bleeds and morning sickness so much so that those who know are saying she's having a girl and though she'd love to be, she has a boy and this will be their last, she doesn't want to get her hopes up till they know the gender. To add to the pressure, this will probably be the last baby in both their families and their siblings have all had boys! I feel sympathetic but she will fall into the smug crowd if it is, she can be quite smug when talking about DS. For her I hope it's a girl but I would be envious if she had a boy too.