TTC a boy! HELP!!!

[Nann3r]

I am planning to try to conceive a boy at the end of this year. I just finished reading the shettles method!

I would love any more advice anybody has on trying to conceive a boy. As of right now though, I will be tracking my ovulation knowing that is the most important part. Along with this I plan on also doing the baking soda finger, the Robitussin, coffee for the hubby before the deed, the position, and the boy diet.

Another question I would like to add it is your opinion on finding out the gender while pregnant. I had a daughter first, and I love her more than anything in the world and I wouldn't trade her for the world. However I desperately wanted a boy first. I did deal with gender disappointment in fact I still do to this day on occasion. With our daughter, we found out gender early. It was hard.. But like I said I love her with everything that I am. However, I still dream of having my little boy.. Knowing what it feels like to find out early, I wonder if it would be easier to just wait to find out the gender for the next baby. Thoughts ?

[Dana-Alicia]

Hi and welcome! First: forget about Shettles, it's been debunked. It does not work. What does work is the HE diet (High Everything) extra supplements and Bd every other day. There is tons of info on this site, with great results. Good luck and blue dust to you!

[True Blue]

Yes totally forget shettles it doesn't work at all.

What we are doing here is HE diet for 6 weeks, supplements, weights, DTD every other day with 3-5 attempts from first +opk. So for example DTD the night of +opk, next morning & night & following night.

We are getting great results this way.

One attempt at +opk (shettles) is getting great results for GIRL swayers.

[Nann3r]

I am already doing the diet. And supplementing. But as far as shettles goes, the method you just described (waiting till the night of +opk or the next morning) is exactly what shettle's suggests for a boy too. He strongly recommends against dtd at the first +opk.

He actually encourages testing a second time when "practicing" to give you more information about ovulation so that you can try as late as you can after the first +opk without missing your window. (For a boy)

The only thing that has been disproven about the shettle's method is the life expectancy of sperm. They live about the same duration of time. The environment is what can help or hurt the sperm. Timing is important due to the fact that closer to the moment of ovulation is when the tract is more alkaline- which suits both x and y. It HAS been proven that the smaller Y (boy) sperm are faster. So if you wait till AFTER the first +opk at least 12 hours, the environment will be as alkaline as it will every be, giving the y sperm a better advantage.

Trust me I've been on forums and reading books and articles and experiences etc every day for two months now. (No joke very day.. At least once a day!!) I do trust the shettles method for a boy - waiting after first +opk. But I know there is so much more I can do!

[Adia]

I have a Shettles opposite, she is almost 7 years old and my little mini me!! Many of us with on this website have Shettles opposites.

Most of us who have had successful sways on this website came from multiple other websites where the success rates seem to be inflated or inaccurate. Many of us had opposites from those other methods that are sworn to work by many people.

At Gender Dreaming we do not focus on pH, timing, and or a few other super common swaying idea. Atomic Sagebrush has had a ph, timing, swaying opposite herself and developed the Gender Dreaming methods as a result of a lot of research and personal experience of many of us.

As of lately the Gender Dreaming methods are having phenomenal success with Atomic's theories, I am so blessed to be one of the successful sways and expecting a baby boy very soon after 3 girls!

We all know swaying will never be 100% successful. PGD/IVF is a better bet, but even then not a solid guarantee.

Atomic will create a personalized plan for you, as she has done for many of us for a fee, or you can find all the methods many of us have used for free on this website. Some forums may require that you be a Dream Member.

You should really do whatever you see fit for you and your circumstances. Those of us who have had several kids of the same gender and have been on swaying boards for years have some differing opinions mainly based on personal experience and years of research on both our part and Atomic.

Best of luck to you!

[Mulberry Smurf]

When I got my boys I was snacking between meals, for my first I was taking prenatal vitamins and used pre-seed, we also dtd every day after positive opk. try and get a couple of attempts in your fertile window and stay healthy good luck! xx

[atomic sagebrush]

timing doesn't work and most of us have 2-3-4 or more Shettles opposites to prove it. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

We got terrible results with baking soda finger and are no longer using it. (very low odds of conception and irritation/infection, for no better success rates than those who were not using it.) We are getting 75-80% for boys among those whose husbands are not smoking (and good results for smokers too but just not quite as high, more like 70% for smokers)

I personally wanted to know. I did not find out wiht my first two and liked it, but I did not have any really strong gender preference with them (actually I did want a boy with DS 1 but I got him). I'm really glad I found out with my 3rd because I think I would have been devastated at birth, since all the OWT and symptoms indicated he was a girl and I really thought that's what I was carrying. I found out with my 4th and 5th too because I worried I'd be disappointed at the birth.

[atomic sagebrush]

Actually, Nan, it has been DISproven by real live scientists that Y sperm are significantly smaller (they are just a teensy amount smaller and this does not equate to any different behavior) they aren't faster and live the exact same amount of time as X sperm do. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/sway...m-y-sperm.html

I have researched swaying and read all the books and experiences every day since 2008. I got BOYS with Shettles girl timing and my girl with Shettles boy timing. there are hundreds of other ladies who will testify to having the same experience. Shettles just didn't work for us. Please read the "trouble with timing" essay because it is fully 110% known that Shettles was mistaken in what he thought he saw through his microscope and he's been dead for many years and he literally cannot look over the new evidence that has come to light since his death and revise his theory.

But, I'm not here to talk you into or out of any method that you believe in. The reason why I have people wait to start their attempts till night of positive OPK is so that way people can stay in line with Shettles timing for a boy if they so choose. That's cool if that's the way you want to do it. but it is IMPERATIVE that you don't stick to one attempt the way Shettles recommended. That has gotten us 70-75% for a girl regardless of the day of intercourse and you really harm your odds of success by sticking with one attempt.

Have an attempt that night (night of positive OPK) again the next morning, and then again the following night. Getting very good results for us. Good luck and blue dust!

[atomic sagebrush]

When I got my boys I was snacking between meals, for my first I was taking prenatal vitamins and used pre-seed, we also dtd every day after positive opk. try and get a couple of attempts in your fertile window and stay healthy good luck! xx

Thanks Mulberry - prenatal/good multivitamins have gotten 80% success for a boy! (and also many of our pink opposites were in people taking prenatals) If you do only one thing make it that!

[atomic sagebrush]

Also you may be interested in reading this essay about how it's unlikely that pH levels in and of themselves are really swaying. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...ph-pickle.html