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    Shettles die-hards

    So I'm quite active on another mummy forum and there is currently a thread going about the general principles behind swaying all based on the Shettles method (of course!), and the more I read the more irritated I get - because I'm thinking YOU'RE ALL WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! so I tried to introduce them to this website and posted a few links to different things, including why timing doesn't sway, and geez they are so quick to dismiss me! Why are they sooooo certain Shettles works I ask? Well because they all know of a friend that used his method and they got their desired gender. Oh and because the internet says so. Argh so frustrating!!! I don't know why people struggle to keep an open mind about these things. From now on I will have to avoid those types of discussions because everyone thinks I'm a party pooper lol
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    I have the same thing happen and have linked studies and other info showing why it won't work and some others will agree with me saying his method is debunked and we get shouted down. You just can't reason with someone who has their mind made up.
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    I am also on another swaying site and now that I have changed my way of thinking I find that I don't comment and contribute as much as I used to because I feel like what I now believe no longer aligns with a lot of the principles that are taught on this other site. I still stalk because there are many women who are still ttc and I am quietly rooting for them.
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    It drives me INSANE. I get sooooooo angry. I usually only post once briefly and avoid getting caught up for the sake of my sway, though. Bunny is right, it's basically impossible to get through to those who have made their minds up, that has actually been proven scientifically! In fact, the more you argue against them, the more they cling to their illogical beliefs. I have spent way too large a portion of my life arguing with idiots online, sigh.

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    They'll figure it out themselves in time! I get your frustration though. You've done the best you can now xx
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    I think there are so many anecdotes supporting Shettles because 50% of the time people will get their desired result in any case and the 50% who get an opposite are not as likely to go around telling people they wanted their child to be a different sex.

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    Why lurk on boards that have a different philosophy?
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    Probably has to do with the fact that (for want of a better way of putting it - it's 5am here!) the one thing they truly believe in, the only way they've been told it works is now being turned on its head. I know if I spent years thinking and believing something and someone chimed in and said "actually, you've got it all wrong" (to effect - not saying that's what you said!) I'd be really quite sceptical at best! Imagine if someone came onto the boards saying AS is wrong about xyz, and, for example, o+12 is the way forward. I think most people here would react the same way. I don't think it's meant badly on their part, just maybe thrown into confusion at best. Just sow those seeds! I think all you can do is lead them to the water... xx



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    Quote Originally Posted by Wantanother2017 View Post
    Why lurk on boards that have a different philosophy?
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    Lol it was an accidental discovery. As I said I'm on another parenting forum and this very active thread about swaying kept popping up and well I started reading it and... I couldn't help myself!! I had to comment [emoji1] I had to try and "enlighten" them, but alas they didn't want a bar of it. Lesson learned, I will not waste my energy next time!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by maidentomother View Post
    It drives me INSANE. I get sooooooo angry. I usually only post once briefly and avoid getting caught up for the sake of my sway, though. Bunny is right, it's basically impossible to get through to those who have made their minds up, that has actually been proven scientifically! In fact, the more you argue against them, the more they cling to their illogical beliefs. I have spent way too large a portion of my life arguing with idiots online, sigh.
    Yes I've learnt the hard way haha. I guess I'm hoping one or two of them who are serious about swaying may take a look. I wish I had understood it properly years ago!

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