Scared these feelings are permanent

[Wantanother2017]

I've been reading articles tonight about gender disappointment and so many of the comments underneath in response are from mothers of older boys. They still feel the way I do years after having there last son. Still jealous of friends with daughters, still reeling for days at friends and families gender announcements or birthday parties. I'm so scared these feelings will never dissipate and I'll be stuck carrying this weight forever. [emoji174]


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[ksmom]

I worry about that too and it's a valid feeling to have. My MIL had only boys and she still feels a little sad she didn't get to have a girl BUT she adores her granddaughters. She not only gets to have a close relationship with them, but she also thinks of me as the daughter she never had. Honestly I prefer to be around her more than my own mother. I guess all we can do is hope and know that we're not alone in our feelings.

[Mamablues1]

I only have one boy but i feel like if i dont ever have a daughter i will feel like this forever! I love my son, but still want a girl. Its awful. Yesterday my best friend sent a picture of her little girl (one montj younger than my boy eho is 8 mo) with a pink bow in her head, i felt so sad so sad....

[bigbump]

I think some people do get over it but I'm not one of those. I wish I was. I believe it's a grieving process. For some it never really ends.


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[Wantanother2017]

I've been seeing a counselor for a few months now. Sometimes I think it's helping and other days I feel like I'm at square one. The smallest thing (like that picture your friend sent) can trigger these feelings of total jealousy, anger, bitterness and heartbrokenness.

It definitely affect my relationships with friends and even family. I avoid my SIL like the plague and she doesn't understand. Hell, I don't understand some days. I feel guilty and ashamed most of all and I just wish I could make it all go away. But I'll keep working through it. Maybe these feelings won't ever be gone per se but much less intense. [emoji1374]


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