I hate unprotective sex!! Advice on making this easier?

[3RussianPrincesses]

Ever since DH and I got married we have used condoms or "pull the goalie" and he goes into a towel.
I cannot stand the feel of sperm inside me. Since DH is the only man I have been with
I don't have anything to compare too.
I feel gross and unsexy. DH is very fertile and his sperm is like slime and walking around feeling like I'm dripping is uncomfortable.
I'm sorry for the TMI, I'm frustrated and embarrassed because I can't enjoy post sex cuddling.
With us TTC a boy, I'm not sure I can give it 3 attempts. We gave it 2 and I pray I get a sticky.
Now I enjoy sex, a lot actually. I just like feeling clean. Do I make any sense?
Any tips on making this process easier?

[kc15880]

I understand. Perhaps some toilet paper to help clean up a little? Also if you raise your hips afterwards that will help it from spilling out & feeling sticky. I hope that helps.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, I think most if not all of us feel that way. It's not just your DH that is the nature of the whole thing, unfortunately. I even know women who after their hubbies have had a vasectomy, still make him pull out or wear a condom.

I will say that you do kind of get used to it after a while. the more you think about how gross and uncomfortable it is, it just gets bigger and bigger in your mind. What I do is I'll use a towel afterward to sop it up, now you'd not want to do that for blue but (TMI sorry!) if you kind of put the towel between your legs like a pad it really helps a lot with the icky feeling.

Re feeling unsexy, TMI again (big time LOL, so sorry) but I have it on very good authority that men actually find that SUPERsexy so if that helps at all, guys are very much into that. So much so that there are whole genres of "adult entertainment" that are entirely centered upon that very idea. No need to feel dirty or unclean, it is what it is and the majority of guys like it even if they won't admit that they do.