I'm a horrible person

[lovellcute]

Why do I get so upset/jealous/anxious when anyone announces they are having a girl..
I don't even know some of these people yet it can completely ruin my day.. or week
The worst is when someone is pregnant, doesn't find out and then reveal it's a girl
Why does that kill me so much?
I could just sit and cry?
BUT I want these people to be happy, I would never wish for someone to be unhappy so why do I cope so badly with it?

One minute I think yes I'm swaying, I picture myself with a girl etcetc
Then the next day I could just sit and cry because I know i will never be lucky enough!

Anyone else feel the same? Or am I just mental!


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[XXforhubby]

Yep. While it never made me cry, or ruin my whole day, I would get bothered, annoyed, and sometimes mad briefly. Especially those that make it looks so easy and are smug about it. Like my cousin who has BGBG, ugh I could just smack her, haha! She had her own wack theory on the matter [emoji849]. Or the pigeon pair who make comments about having all one gender or largely one gender [emoji849][emoji35]!

It's totally normal! Try not to let it beat you up and know we are all here for you! Hang in there- this TTC business is hard enough!

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[Shannshaff]

I fully understand! My SIL is about to have baby #2 (a girl after a boy) and it does get to me. I often question why I only have boys. But then I remember that God gives us what we need, not what we want. For some reason, he feels that we are great boy parents. Hang in these and FXd that you get your little girl!

[ksmom]

You're not a horrible person. I've had the same thoughts. I hate feeling jealous/bitter any time I see/hear someone announce "it's a girl!" Seriously it's like rubbing salt in the wound even though I know they're not doing it to make me feel bad! lol I guess it just hurts seeing people get so easily what I've so desperately wanted and have worked so hard to get. The GD monster is terrible and I'd love for it to go away but it just won't.

[MiaMelb]

I even get a bit jealous and bitter here occasionally when I see comments like "oh boys are so easy to make". I know it's not their intention and given the percentage of pink swayers here I'm clearly not the target audience for these comments but it does make it hard to see so many women here have something that I desperately want. I flip flop some days about having #3 and try and be happy with what I've got but when I realise I've thought about having a little boy almost every day for the last 2 years I can't help but think we've got to give this one last go.

[Bobster]

I feel exactly the same. I get upset and it plays on mind mind when people announce their pregnancies. Everyone I know who's had a baby recently has had a girl so I just kind of expect it now. It does get easier as I get used to it but it stings at first. I hate feeling jealous too. But thinking about swaying again is kind of getting me through it, although it worries me that it won't work. I feel positive hay this time I'll do what I can to shift the odds.

[lovellcute]

Thanks for replying ladies!
I'm glad I'm not the only one!
I feel panicky even when someone first announces their pregnancy, I obsess over the nub and what their bump looks like
Which is ridiculous
And eurgh some people really need to think before they speak, a woman said to me 'I can imagine you with 3 boys'
I've only got one so god knows why she felt the need to say it
It upset me so much I left the BBQ we were all at.. how sad am I?!?!?
I will be so gutted if swaying doesn't work because what then? HT? That's not even doable for us!
Let's hope we all get our desired genders to complete our families xx


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[Girlswaylondon]

I find myself doing all these things too! It's awful!

[Pinkmama]

I been doing this since I have known that I was pregnant with a boy. More than two years now...


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[atomic sagebrush]

I must admit it is the one thing that still gets to me sometimes - literally everyone I know IRL had a boy and a girl or a girl and a boy without any effort whatsoever. I never even wanted a BG pair, but it is just the ease at which it seems to happen for others while it took me 4 boys and 20 years and having to do all this exhaustive research just to get one daughter at 42 years old and I have so much less time to enjoy her than those who got their daughters in their 20's and 30's. :/