DH having trouble abstaining

[Hobbermittens]

I have been DTD with DH every 2-3 days for a while, until AF arrived, and since then I have given him a BJ on those days instead (sorry, TMI?). He is usually one who releases on his own pretty much every day, but I have been trying to keep him from doing that so he doesn't lower his count. Well, he released today, and apparently has a few other times too in the last week.... so, if I am on CD6, and I usually O somewhere around CD13 or CD14, how many days does he need to keep his hands off in order to build back up again? I am so annoyed with him!!

[nuthinbutpink]

With IVF, they tell us 3-4 days before egg retrieval for best results!

[Hobbermittens]

With IVF, they tell us 3-4 days before egg retrieval for best results!

But does it matter how long before that that he has been releasing? I am just worried that he has released many days in a row (he won't admit how many because he knows I told him not to and he doesn't want me to get pissed off at him).

[nuthinbutpink]

It builds back up so quickly, they don't really go into that much detail. For IUIs, they sometimes do 2 samples within a few hours if the first is low.

[Cinss]

It shouldn't really matter if he is FRing before your attempt as sperm do regenerate very quickly, the most important thing is to get him to abstain for at least 2 days prior to TTC 3 would be even better.

[TTC5]

I was hoping for at least 2 days and up to 4

[purplepoet20]

I say it is ok if it is 3-4 days before you need it.... just ask him to not do anything (note in shower) for certain days.

But I will say my hubby helped himself in the shower 99% of the time before both my boys. Before DS1 we DTD 1-2x's a day but with DS2 we only had time for 1 a day..... so I think a lot of it is the mom's diet and timing.

[atomic sagebrush]

But does it matter how long before that that he has been releasing? I am just worried that he has released many days in a row (he won't admit how many because he knows I told him not to and he doesn't want me to get pissed off at him).

I think if he can make it every 2 days, that's good enough.

[atomic sagebrush]

I say it is ok if it is 3-4 days before you need it.... just ask him to not do anything (note in shower) for certain days.

But I will say my hubby helped himself in the shower 99% of the time before both my boys. Before DS1 we DTD 1-2x's a day but with DS2 we only had time for 1 a day..... so I think a lot of it is the mom's diet and timing.

It is, but rem that they've conceived 2 girls. Each guy is different and some guys can release every day and their sperm just sneer at it but other guys can BD 5 days back to back and they're totally depleted.

[Hobbermittens]

I think if he can make it every 2 days, that's good enough.

Okay, I will get on him about it. I wish he could contain himself. I mean, NO ONE needs to release EVERY DAY-- how can anyone be that horny?