Swaying after miscarriage

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Thanks mom25boys. I really appreciate your sweet words and insight ❤ I hope and pray you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

[atomic sagebrush]

Sorry atomic, I actually do understand that. The study I read lumped women who conceived 0-3 after a mc and it showed a significant decrease in consecutive mc. It has not made me want to try immediately just bc of that but has made me feel like that's ok and wouldn't hurt anything. I wouldn't be surprised at all if dh wants me to have at first and I probably wouldn't argue.

exactly. That's what I want you to take away from that.

Some people get in a huge hurry to try again even if they don't feel ready because of that study so whenever someone mentions it I always like to explain.

[RaisingGentlemen3]

So I have my follow up appt on Tues. I am really hoping for low hcg, doubt it'll be below 50 but it would be nice! By that time it'll be almost 2 wks since the mc. My dh and I talked about ttc again and he wants to make sure I talk to my Dr about the swaying stuff we are doing to make sure we won't increase our chances of another mc. All we plan to do (like before) is diet (he wants me to increase to at least 1400 cals), hurry up fr (refuses abstain now bc it can cause unhealthy sperm), one attempt at +opk, post mc (instead of post bcp), skipping breakfast, coffee, fiber and folate,and rephresh every 3 days once clears by Dr. I don t see how any of this could increase chances of another mc...?

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Also, have you heard of increased chances of conceiving twins post mc? I have non identical twins in my mom's side and my mom was one except her twin was stillborn. One of my brothers had one for a while but his twin reabsorbed randomly.

[atomic sagebrush]

I really can't stress strongly enough that you SHOULD NOT talk to your doctor about swaying stuff. They will make fun of you for believing it is possible, make you feel bad (like you caused your miscarriage) and tell you many things that are actively untrue like that you need to take a prenatal before getting BFP (even though the ACOG itself says that you don't.) or that you should do Shettles timing or some other nonsense thing that has been debunked 25 years ago. I just hate to see you guys get put in a position that will likely be upsetting and possbly end up with you getting bullied or talked into things that may really lower your chances of pink for no reason.

I personally like most people to eat 1500+ calories. Very few should be on less than that (maybe 1-3% of people.)
Fine to do FR instead of abstain. Everything else looks fine.

[atomic sagebrush]

Also, have you heard of increased chances of conceiving twins post mc? I have non identical twins in my mom's side and my mom was one except her twin was stillborn. One of my brothers had one for a while but his twin reabsorbed randomly.

Not in any reliable way - the family history is much much more likely to boost odds of twinning than TTC after a loss might. I'm racking my brain even trying to think of anyone who got twins after a loss and I'm not coming up with anyone off the top of my head - certainly not very many people that's for sure. Maybe in a study in 1000 people, but not any kind of very strong correlation, that's for sure.

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Maybe I can just tell her what I was doing last time around the time I got pregnant but not tell her it was for swaying. Like just dieting to lose weight, rephresh for help after my af, etc. That way I avoid being talked down to and still get the answers my dh wants. I was also going to ask her if I should monitor hcg by taking pregnancy tests until I get a negative that way if I get pregnant before af, I know I had a neg test first so it's not residual hcg. I thought personally, I could use opks until they're negative and then bulk internet pregnancy tests. Then once the pregnancy tests go negative start opks again and wait for o. What do you think?
Here is an opk I took today at 130pm. I think it is slightly negative or barely positive...what do you think? I took one at 6 weeks and it was crazy blazing positive. Took one last week that was still blazing but not as much as when pregnant. 20181012_141415.jpg

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Not in any reliable way - the family history is much much more likely to boost odds of twinning than TTC after a loss might. I'm racking my brain even trying to think of anyone who got twins after a loss and I'm not coming up with anyone off the top of my head - certainly not very many people that's for sure. Maybe in a study in 1000 people, but not any kind of very strong correlation, that's for sure.

I'm glad you haven't! Idk how I came across it but it worried me some bc of my family history (kind of) of twins. Sure hope we have ONE healthy bean in there this next time

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Should I ask my Dr about taking aspirin? The stats on your data sheet are pretty good!

Also, what about olive leaf extract for dh?

[atomic sagebrush]

Perfect. People get pregnant all the time doing things like dieting and using lubes, etc. and docs are used to having questions "did this contribute to my loss" and putting people's minds at ease. It's only when they think you're doing something they haven't heard of and may personlly disagree with that they get all preachy about it. So that makes sense to me.

If it gives you mind to test out the HCG that's fine. I don't think it's necessary but it is fine to do that if you like. I'd consider that test still positive but not a blazing positive to be sure.