swayers over 35 buddy group

[lemon2012]

Frequent release or frequent bding?
I only have 7 days from now or 9 depending on o date and how vitex changes it.
So, you would bd all the way through?
I know I have high testosterone due to PCOS. And, I cannot bd on o day as it hurts too much. I hope this is not too uncommon at my age.
Would you dtd after o?

Is that what you did last time?
MC often happen, but when you try to sway it does make it feel like it is wasting time. I worry about being too old!
Thanks for the input.

[HopeandDreamG]

Hi! I would like to join in too. I am 36 DH is 37. He will be 38 in February. We are ttc our 3rd. Dh is 100 % this will be our last. He said that after DS 2 also. This past spring I got preggo as an "oopsie" . I've heard people who use "pull and pray": Parents!! LOL. Anyway, I lost that baby (happened to be a girl) Dh saw how wrecked I was and said we would just try again. Maybe thats the silver lining he's now totally on board and doing his part: diet, supps, frequent release (didn't need to twist any arms there)....
I'm praying for a healthy baby girl.. I ache for her. I dream of her.

[lemon2012]

Hi! I would like to join in too. I am 36 DH is 37. He will be 38 in February. We are ttc our 3rd. Dh is 100 % this will be our last. He said that after DS 2 also. This past spring I got preggo as an "oopsie" . I've heard people who use "pull and pray": Parents!! LOL. Anyway, I lost that baby (happened to be a girl) Dh saw how wrecked I was and said we would just try again. Maybe thats the silver lining he's now totally on board and doing his part: diet, supps, frequent release (didn't need to twist any arms there)....
I'm praying for a healthy baby girl.. I ache for her. I dream of her.

Welcome Hope and Dream.
So sorry about losing your baby. It must be devastating for you and I can understand how you must ache. I dream of a daughter as well and it consumes me...here I am typing away!!!
Do you think you need frequent release if DH is 37? I am 37 and DH just turned 39. He is not into this whole trying for a girl since it is so uncertain but tries his best. How often do you think you need frequent release? Are you going to do a cut off? How many bds? Where are you at in your cycle and trying?
I o next week....no frequent release and no plan!
I hope this month is your month Hope and DreamG!

[HopeandDreamG]

Hi Lemon.
I spoke with Dh and got full disclosure from him. When I got preggo with a girl Dh was releasing daily. Also, I read in one of atomics posts that over 35 there is a increased risk of birth defects with abstinence (hopefully I'm quoting this correctly). I am also going to do a cutoff. I think I will have him release daily from AF to cutoff. I may even have him release the morning of our cutoff and BD that night. Hoping for as low sperm count as possible. I will determine my cutoff with regular opks and digitals. Hopefully I will get a fade in pattern. My plan is to DTD when the regular OPKS are almost positive but digital is still negative giving me a 2.5 day cutoff. If I miss it and digital is positive before attemt has happened I will DTD at first positive digital. I am afraid of 0+ I can't see DTD the same day as O. I also plan to use rephresh, it really keeps my PH low as well as combined PH. I am in CD 2. Should O CD 16 or 17. Recently added Vitex and Saw Palmetto don't know if it will be later. Will see! Hopefully it won't take to long. DS 1 preg first month, DS2 wasn't trying, Baby 3 wasn't trying.
You O next week!! Exciting. Keep me posted!

[lemon2012]

So, you are only going to do the actual bd once?

I used to have a fade in pattern and then things changed...not sure why but it did!
Are the digital OPKs the smiley ones?
How long after the positive OPK do you o? I think I am 24 hours from first postive OPK and the cbfm says Peak the day of o.
So, that is why I kept screwing up the cut off!
How often will you use rePhresh...why not replens?

Is it too late to copy you???
DH has not released at all!
Should I try 3 day cut off with abstinence (but it might end up being 4) and then compressed frequent in between and try for a 1 or 2 day cut off?
UGH, I need a plan!!!!!!!!!

[Mochagirl]

Lemon - we did frequent BD last time, but after my sway was over and I got my BFP I realised that I might unintentionally be swaying blue by doing that. This time I plan to try for just one or two attempts - maybe once when I get my +OPK and once again the day after. I *might* try to get dh to release every day for 7 days before that, but that caused a lot of tension last time so I might drop it this time (which I know will weaken my sway - I just need to do what I can to keep dh on board - he's very suspicious of swaying after my m/c). In your case I'd get dh to release every day from now until your +OPK then have your attempt. If it's too painful to do it on O day, then you could just make that one attempt - though you might not want to use rephresh or anything if you're leaving it to one attempt AND doing frequent release - up to you. It's such a hard balance at our age between wanting to get pregnant and wanting to sway. Good luck whatever you decide to do!

[HopeandDreamG]

Lemon-
Yes. The digital ones are with the smiley. Everytime I get a +opk FF says I O 2 days later. I think it's like 36 hrs. Bc I get +opk at night and two days later
lowest temp (am).
I like rephresh bc it keeps ph low for 3 days perfect for cutoff. It also works with anything that comes into contact with it like CM and semen to lower ph back to 4.5, replens gets washed away easier. I use it every 3 days. Before attempt I will use it that am (like 12 hrs before)
Regarding frequent dh is willing to take care of that himself taking that off me!
I think your plan can work. Def would do compressed frequent in between attempts.

[Flava]

Mocha-welcome here hun! I think you have a good plan I would do it after 1 cycle too!
XX

[amari]

Hi, ladies! I will be joining you! Gotta run but wanted to say hello!

[Flava]

lemon- i had HUGE GD with poor DD3 not much at all with DD4 .Don't know why but Im happy i didn't.
Yeah still really warm here im in FL hell.
We wanted to do night before O and night O but my temp is up high this morning ! So we only did it last night 11 pm exactly (great now everyone know lol) but I say this because I need to ask what all you guys think??
It was already after O then? So this O+12 thing going on for me? OMG I hope not but that's all I can think about....
And all this because DH said don't do it the night before so he got more swimmers this way...he was abst. for 3 days. I could have said do it anyway but I did not I wanted him to feel good and no pressure because our other tries before was not so good...
I had lot's of ewcm the night before and not so much last night. We used pressed.pH was lower too...
AND if that's not enough the top of that we drink champagne because we where celebrating something.
I said I will not have a big O but I did after...
Ok so I feel I screwed up again another sway...like every month. Because my stupid O is messing with me! None of this would happen if I just know when I O! Cervix is still HSO and it's already noon ...?
SO again I feel i did a girls sway and kinda hope for a BFP!

You guys really think timing don't matter?Im sad now...I just want 1 boy!