Confused now

[love being a mummy]

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[TTC5]

I guess you need to do some serious soul searching hey. I hope you come up with a decision you are happy with

XXX

[nuthinbutpink]

I can relate to this. I would love to be more involved with my kids' school while they are still young enough to love having me there! I know when they are older they might not want me to!

If you are going to tailspin if you have a girl, I wouldn't do it then. You obviously have a full life, sound like a good mom that wants to be involved, etc.

I'm sure you'll sort it out.

[angel in a pink sky]

I agree with NBP. How old are you? Do you have the luxury of waiting a few years and then going back for your last baby? If so, maybe that is an option to consider. I am sure you will make the right decision for your family.

[Kitten]

I hope you come to a decision that you will be at peace with.

[purple sky]

I know exactly how you feel. I think about that too. Now that all my boys are in school I actually have a lot of flexibility to help out. I guess you really have a lot to think about. Do you have your mom or dh's mom to help out with the baby so you can help out at least occasionally?

[love being a mummy]

I can relate to this. I would love to be more involved with my kids' school while they are still young enough to love having me there! I know when they are older they might not want me to!

If you are going to tailspin if you have a girl, I wouldn't do it then. You obviously have a full life, sound like a good mom that wants to be involved, etc.

I'm sure you'll sort it out.

Thanks, I hope so.

I agree with NBP. How old are you? Do you have the luxury of waiting a few years and then going back for your last baby? If so, maybe that is an option to consider. I am sure you will make the right decision for your family.

I will be 29 next month. I don't think I want a big gap. I am still in mummy mode iykwim All my kids are less then 3 yrs apart. I don't want this baby to feel like out. If I wait too long I feel that the older kids will be more like aunties/unlces then bro/sis. I want this baby to grow up with them not after them. Does that make sense?

I hope you come to a decision that you will be at peace with.

Thank you

I know exactly how you feel. I think about that too. Now that all my boys are in school I actually have a lot of flexibility to help out. I guess you really have a lot to think about. Do you have your mom or dh's mom to help out with the baby so you can help out at least occasionally?

My mum and my MIL are both in heaven.




I've been thinking about this and I feel that if I don't try I will probably regret it. Seems silly now to change my whole life plans just so I can help out in the canteen lol
I'll have plenty of time in the future to help out in the canteen.
I can still help out now while ttc and until bub is born.

[Cinss]

I've been thinking about this and I feel that if I don't try I will probably regret it. Seems silly now to change my whole life plans just so I can help out in the canteen lol
I'll have plenty of time in the future to help out in the canteen.
I can still help out now while ttc and until bub is born.

Perfect!!!

Sorry to hear about your mum and mil. xx

[Lilian78]

What helped me when deciding whether I really want another is thinking about how I would feel in 5-10 years ... I don't think waiting really helps because you get used to more focus on yourself, older kids, etc. I know I would have been happy running marathons, not sucking so much at work, and not being sleep deprived for a few more years. But eventually, I would have regretted not having another. So that's how I decided to just suck it up and have one more ... Now, if you know you want another but only want a boy It would be worth at least considering HT. If you can avoid trying again just for gender and being disappointed that would obviously be ideal. Wishing you lots of luck!

[love being a mummy]

How much is HT and what is the success rate.
I've never really thought about it, I sort of thought it was mainly for people who were having problems conceiving.