TTC pink chat thread for November

[lemon2012]

Aurora,
Can you help me out with my sway on the swayers over 35 board?
I am in a bit of a panic and it looks similar to yours. Just wondering if I should go again or not!
Thanks!

[maybeoneday]

Thanks for your replies. I am 34 on Friday (I guess that is part of the reason for my flip out as really wanted to be PG before my birthday )

I am pretty sure I am ovulating but am not temping so think I will go back to that this month to be sure. I am not sure why I am questionning the Vitex except I know women have had probs conceiving while taking it so thought it might be the reason. On reflection, I am not ready to give that one up yet so think I will keep taking it this month and temp to be double sure I ovulate but DTD more often.

I used sylk the first month and rephresh last month but have run out now so was thinking of dropping that part anyway. I still have some sylk left so may use that one some of my attempts next month but not all?????

I am on CD3 today and usually O on CD 14 or 15 so I have a week or so.

I laid off the Beef casserole tonight so at least trying...

Dannikins, your bump pic is lovely. I have everything crossed for you it is a pink one.

Mocha, I am so sorry about your m/c and even sorrier you are back on the diet!!! FX we get to celebrate out BFPs together.

Lemon, FX for you as well, I would be tempted not to tell DH you are ovulating and just surprise him - or is he that good at maths to work it out????

Thanks again ladies, I am sure we will all get there in the end. xx

[zanacal]

maybe - are you taking the Vitex all month long or just AF-O? I think trouble conceiving is only if you're taking it constantly (although some have taken it constantly for months then got pregnant with a girl just after they stopped taking it!). Are you taking it easy with the Sylk? Did you say DH released for 14 days in a row (sorry, I can't see that page any more!) - you could cut back to 7-10 days and still be swaying girl with your frequency or stick with the 14 days and DTD closer to O!

[maybeoneday]

Hi Zan, firstly congrats on your scan. I have no idea about nubs or scan shots, but I am crossing everything for you. You certainly deserve it!

I am only taking it AF to O so think I will continue with it. I think it really sways girl (based on what I have read) so don't want to give it up yet!

We have been doing FR for about 14 days then sometimes dump the first batch and use the second on our actual attempts so I think we may be reducing DH's sperm count a bit too far!!

If you had to choose, would you do FR for 10 days then DTD every day days 11-15 (assuming O on day 13 or 14) or do compressed release and only use the second batch on all attempting days???

Thanks! xx

[lemon2012]

Hey maybeoneday,

34 is sooo young Ok, I am 37 so of course it seems young to me. You will get there!!!
I am curious about your sway,...as that is what we did. How long between dumping the first batch and the second do you dtd?
Would you still attempt on the days leading up to o? Or just compress and then go for it close to o?
Wld you dtd on o day as well?
Just comparing sways. I can let you know what happens before your attempt..lol!
Zan can help with the freq right? Zan, did DH freq release all month long or just compressed?

I am not worried about surprising DH, he is right there with me unfortunately. One stress nut should be enough!

The vitex seems to have brought o on sooner, either that or it is showing up in the opk stripes. Did you notice this?

My one DS is 2008 and the other is 2006. I think I was 33 when I had DS2.....! I am old

I am curious to see what you do!!!!

[maybeoneday]

I know on the grand scheme 34 is still pretty young (33 for 4 more days though!!) but my mum (and probably my grandmother) began the menopause at 40 so I am conscious of my body clock ticking.... I guess there is also the thought in my head that is this sway fails (which I pray every day that is doesn't), I think I could persuade DH for one more

The first month, we DTD only once on the day of my and DH had been releasing daily for 13 days. We DTD and dumped the first batch, then DTD again very soon after but on reflection, pretty sure there was nothing left!! Having fallen PG so quickly with the boys, reducing count was very high on my list of things to do...

Second month, again DH released daily for 14 days then about 5 hours before our first attempt which was the day before my then we missed a day as he was out with work, then the following day he released in the morning, again at 6pm then we DTD about 11pm

Reading that back, I was pretty harsh on DH but he didn't seem to complain too much!!!

As for Vitex, I haven't really found it has affected my cycles too much either way, it has just made them not quite so clockwork.... I have had a 26 day cycle for many years and on Vitex it is varying between 24 and 28.

Let me know what you decide for this month, FX for you and hope to be with you on a birth board soon. xx

[lemon2012]

Maybeoneday
I would love love love to be on the birth board....it has been a long time!

Okay, so having read that...DH released only Friday twice and Saturday once, then released and we dtd a few hours later.

Contemplating o plus 12.......just worried about timing!
and raising my ph!

Did you use replens or rephresh?

Would you dtd again tonight considering low sperm count and no spermies left to swim????
13 days....DH is done after 2 days...lol
How many times did you dtd each month

Zan?
are you guys still up?
Or is it bedtime there???? I am in Canada!

[maybeoneday]

If he hasn't released since Saturday, I think too much time has elapsed between then and now (I think the count completely recovers after 36 hours), so I would be nervous about that.

I don't think I put too much stock in timing, but I personally do in sperm count. Good luck whatever you decide.

Month 1 - DTD once
Month 2 - DTD twice

It is 11pm here so I am off to bed. Catch up tomorrow! xx

[lemon2012]

You are probably in bed...but, he released Sun and we dtd as well.
We dtd this am but it probably does not count.

Good to know though about timing and sperm count!
Did you dtd close to o?
No BFP!
Oh dear!
Better go again, talk to you alter
thanks!

[Out of the Blue]

Hey, lemon...I agree w/maybe on the timing! I say "timing-schmiming"! It took me a while to deprogram myself that it was okay to dtd around O time but after all I've read, I just don't see the proof whereas w/other factors (like lowering sperm count), I do! It took some stress away once I was able to let the whole timing thing go. I haven't read this whole thread as I'm in a crunch for time but when were you set to O?

I'm not sure if my body will be back after my m/c to TTC in Dec or not but here's my plan...

* DH will do FR and then we'll DTD w/shallow penetration from the end of AF until I get a +OPK (if we've got enough stamina, we'll just keep on DTD through O but somehow, I think we'll need a break by then , especially w/DH taking Lic Root).

* I'll put 1/2 an applicator of RepHresh in evey a.m. as we'll be dtd 12 hrs later each night. We'll use a bit of Sylk for lube. Probably won't do a J&D and just leave it in.

* Continue diet and start skipping breakkie at end of AF until a +HCG or AF. If I don't get preg on this one, I may continue to skip breakkie if I can.

Honestly, that's it but I want to get preg right away if possible.

Maybe, I'm hoping 3's a charm for you and you'll get your BFP this next time!