TTC pink chat thread for November

[Mochagirl]

Yay for af, Jen! (Not something we say very often ). I was just thinking about you last night and wondering if af had come yet. I agree that we both really need this BFP - here's to hopefully being DD buddies again!

I got impatient and did an OPK with SMU this morning and it was -. When I opened it up (it's a digi), there was a second line, but it was pretty light, so maybe my body's playing tricks on me or just trying to O but not succeeding. My cervix is softer, higher and more wide open than ever and there's definitely EWCM mixed in with the brown spotting. I'm still trying to hold out hope that I'll get that positive this afternoon - I'm holding my pee and having nothing to drink until then.

Jen,

my husband also has trouble "performing" if he thinks I'm not into it...I didn't fake an O or anything, but I had to start making sounds or acting like I was really enjoying it just to keep him going, although in my head, I was like hurry up, jsut do your thing already and get off me....LOL

My husband's the same way - I have to moan and pretend I'm into it or he just can't finish the job - in the meantime I'm planning my grocery list in my head .

[Jamie86]

I wanted to join this chat thread I have been posting question on the board and reading a lot but I feel like I'm going crazy right now trying to cram all the knowledge in and also waiting to test because we had a last minute try a week ago and my husband keeps saying he thinks I'm already pregnant (he did know 1st with our 1st) so I could use some ladies to chat with.

[Mochagirl]

Welcome, Jamie! I know all the info on this site can be overwhelming at first. I've been swaying since last May, and also swayed with ds3 3 years ago...yet I still get overwhelmed by all the information at times!

[Jamie86]

Welcome, Jamie! I know all the info on this site can be overwhelming at first. I've been swaying since last May, and also swayed with ds3 3 years ago...yet I still get overwhelmed by all the information at times!

Yeah I can see how there is so much, I'm amazed at how much knowledge you ladies have. I see you had a VBAC with your DS3 in June of 2009 I had a VBAC with DS2 in June of 2010 it was such a wonderful experience.

[Mochagirl]

Oh yes - such a difference from the birth of my twins. With ds3 I was only in the hospital for a total of about 5 hours - I was home again 2 hours after birth!

[Jamie86]

Oh yes - such a difference from the birth of my twins. With ds3 I was only in the hospital for a total of about 5 hours - I was home again 2 hours after birth!

I wish I could have done that but my son had to have antibiotics for suspected infection because my amniotic fluid smelled terrible like there was infection in it. So I had to be there for 48 hours I HATE hospitals and wish I could have a home birth but with the prior c-section and the fact that I had gestational diabetes both times as well as our distance from a hospital DH isn't really comfortable with it. Although with my last birth by the time I got to the hospital I was already 8-9cms.

[Mochagirl]

That's too bad you had to stay. I hate hospitals too. I had to stay a whole week after my twins were born because of the c-section, then because they weren't gaining weight fast enough and they wanted to push formula on me. I'm proud to say that I stuck with BFing despite the pressure and BF both successfully until they were 2 years old.

[Jamie86]

That's too bad you had to stay. I hate hospitals too. I had to stay a whole week after my twins were born because of the c-section, then because they weren't gaining weight fast enough and they wanted to push formula on me. I'm proud to say that I stuck with BFing despite the pressure and BF both successfully until they were 2 years old.

That is awesome! I caved and supplemented while in the hospital so they would let me out earlier but luckily my son switched back and forth easily and as soon as we got home I tossed the formula out. With my first I went in for an induction on a monday evening (mistake) didn't have him until wednesday morning after 2.5 hours of pushing and a c-section and didn't go home until saturday but I didn't sleep the whole time because I have insomnia as it is and literally cannot sleep in a hospital (people think I'm exaggerating but I literally didn't sleep more than a few hours total the whole time I was there). So after all that I was willing to do anything for them to let me out of there. Now I know I can stand up for myself more with my 2nd when they insisted I supplement I didn't fight them I just had my husband pour formula down the drain when they gave us the bottles (I know I probably should have just told them no more firmly but I was not in the mood to argue and I figured if they thought I was being super compliant they wouldn't check on us as much). Next time I think I'm just going to ask to be released even if it's against medical advice or whatever that you have to sign.

[Mochagirl]

Grrr...I just did an OPK after holding my pee for 4 hours, and it was still negative, though the second line was definitely darker. The signs my body's giving me couldn't be any stronger - I'm definitely dtd tonight anyway in case I miss the surge with the tests.

Jen - I think you said your body kept trying to O after your m/c but wasn't successful for a while (apologies if it wasn't you). On those unsuccessful times did you have all the O symptoms? Were you using OPKs at the time?

[fresas]

out of the blue, thank you so much. I guess I have to feel okay with it. We are both sad, though. While we aren't saying no yet (DH will have a vasectomy when we do), we are definitely going in the direction of not having more children. We want to give our kids things we didn't have, especially a paid-for college education. We aren't so much focus on material things as we are about solid futures. I hope that makes sense.

I read your story about losing your beautiful daughters. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine that type of loss.

On a totally different topic, I was at work today and observing a few of my least favorite female co-workers. They all either have boys or are pregnant with boys, they all smoke worse than a chimney (the pregnant one is STILL smoking), and have the worst diets in the world. I don't know about their husbands or their lifestyles outside of work, but at work, they have a very girl sway friendly lifestyle. I just thought I'd share.