Pink swayers' December thread

[Jamie86]

So AF arrived on monday and so this is going to be our first month really TTC (last month we BD once unprotected a couple days after my 1st positive OPK but that was a very last minute decision and all we did) but I'm getting nervous and have a few questions. I made a thread with a couple of these questions but with so many options of where to post things I'm never sure if I post in the right spot to get an answer.

I'm thinking of doing more of a "sway lite" so I don't stress myself out but I had a couple of questions based on things I was considering

1. What is the purpose of baby aspirin? I starting taking it but then I read some things that said it was bad to take it while TTC and then stop after conceiving (I'm not sure why exactly) and so I was a little worried and not to mention I kind of hate taking a ton of pills daily.

2. I also am trying to figure our about the timing and frequency of sex. We are going to attempt to do FR as in DH releasing every day from the end of AF on (let me know if I should be doing it differently) but I was not sure of when we should actually start with having sex. My cycle can range from 28-35 days and so I never really know when I will O until I start seeing my OPKs get darker so I didn't know if we should just start when my OPKs are starting to get dark and then how many times should we be attempting? Also on the days we do attempt should DH also be releasing once before our attempt and if he doesn't will it make a big difference? (FWIW I'm also planning to do rePHresh and maybe benadryl)

3.I'm also starting to worry about my testosterone levels. My skin is always really bad and I get a lot of breakouts but it has started to clear up (although still not good) and my sex drive is really low compared with when I conceived my boys so I know those are good signs. But I haven't added any saw palmetto or anything and I'm wondering if I should or if there are other ways to lower testosterone. Any opinions on that?

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He was kind of frustrated and was like "what am I doing wrong?" What he was doing wrong was by bothering me!

...I almost spit out my tea when I was reading this. Too funny, Auroara!!!

Well, anyway, I managed to muster up enough to finish having sex, and then it got all irrirated down there again. I really wonder why I had such a bad reaction to the represh, and why now, even after a week of it being over, I'm still not myself.

Like I said before, it made my area very red and dry, and I never detected any EWCM while using it, but I'm sure of course there was still somewhere up there.

My only concern now is whether I want to bother with it again in Dec if I get a BFN. Not sure if I want to re-traumatize myself!

I usually have EWCM by now but it’s non-existent so I’m thinking it’s b/c I’m putting RepHresh in there too often maybe. Also, it may be b/c of this that I’m a bit sore in there…??? I had a Y infection right before my period so maybe I was still a bit sore b/c of that and then the RepHresh made it worse…??? I didn’t put any in this a.m. and will see how things go tomorrow. I don’t want to overdo it and just be sore and not preg but I want enough in there to do the job…

I’m hoping you won’t have to worry about using it again b/c you’ll be getting a BFP soon…!!! Good for you for trying to hold off. I think 13dpo is perfect! I’m going to try to hold off testing until at least 12dpo once I’m in the 2ww. Ohhh…so exciting you’ll be testing soon!

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Hey, lemon...Any news...???

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Thanks, amari - you make me hopeful. Did the cramps feel just like af cramps? Was the blood brown and gunky (sorry for the tmi).

Mocha, w/DS2 and this last pregnancy, both times I swore AF was coming...I kept checking and wore my diva cup or pads just incase...I never had any imp. spotting but soooo many women do. Guess it's just a waiting game but I'm very hopeful for you!!!

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So AF arrived on monday and so this is going to be our first month really TTC (last month we BD once unprotected a couple days after my 1st positive OPK but that was a very last minute decision and all we did) but I'm getting nervous and have a few questions. I made a thread with a couple of these questions but with so many options of where to post things I'm never sure if I post in the right spot to get an answer.

So exciting, Jamie!!!

I'm thinking of doing more of a "sway lite" so I don't stress myself out but I had a couple of questions based on things I was considering

1. What is the purpose of baby aspirin? I starting taking it but then I read some things that said it was bad to take it while TTC and then stop after conceiving (I'm not sure why exactly) and so I was a little worried and not to mention I kind of hate taking a ton of pills daily.
I think it's to reduce pH levels? Girls, can anyone confirm on this? Since I'm still BF, I cannot take aspirin and anything I can't do on my sway just goes in one ear and out the other...

2. I also am trying to figure our about the timing and frequency of sex. We are going to attempt to do FR as in DH releasing every day from the end of AF on (let me know if I should be doing it differently) but I was not sure of when we should actually start with having sex. My cycle can range from 28-35 days and so I never really know when I will O until I start seeing my OPKs get darker so I didn't know if we should just start when my OPKs are starting to get dark and then how many times should we be attempting? Also on the days we do attempt should DH also be releasing once before our attempt and if he doesn't will it make a big difference? (FWIW I'm also planning to do rePHresh and maybe benadryl)
As long as your DH is releasing, he can either release in you or somewhere else. It's up to you how many times he releases in you and when but the more times in you, the greater chances of getting preg. I don't believe in timing so if you want timing advice, maybe someone else can help you. You could just try to BD a few days before you think you'll O and then continue even after you get a +OPK maybe. It's also up to you if you want him to release more than once a day...For me, I figure I'm on the diet and using RepHresh/Sylk and reaaaaaally want to get preg this time so he's only doing it once a day.

3.I'm also starting to worry about my testosterone levels. My skin is always really bad and I get a lot of breakouts but it has started to clear up (although still not good) and my sex drive is really low compared with when I conceived my boys so I know those are good signs. But I haven't added any saw palmetto or anything and I'm wondering if I should or if there are other ways to lower testosterone. Any opinions on that?

Off the top of my head I think drinking Peppermint Tea and lowering your protein/fat/cal intake helps lower your T levels. I know there's a few really good theads...I'll try to find them for you!

Hope my responses help!

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I was thinking the same thing! Between nursing 3 kids for 2 years apiece and doing this LE diet for going on 6 months now my boobs have completely deflated. There's no way dh would be mesmerized by them like that (though he's sweet enough he'd never admit that)!

Here's the story...(I'm kind of embarrassed to admit all this but I've written more exposing things on this site by far!...) First off, DH is such a boob man! Waaaay back before pregnancy I did have nice little boobs… Mocha, I’ve been preg &/or BF since the summer of 2007 so mine have really been put through the wringer too! When I was preg this last time and thought I had a bleed, I tried wean DS2 too quickly…It was a disaster as now he’s doubled his drinking and also has refused to drink from my left side (b/c I wasn’t producing as much). I tried power-pumping on that side to compensate but it just didn’t work and I didn’t have the time. Fast-forward to now, DS2 still won’t touch “ol’ lefty” and is pretty much permanently attached to the right. I now have a sweet, perky little A and an almost C. It ain’t pretty, girls! Maybe DH just focuses on one side or something… Sorry…this post has been TMI but just wanted to say my boobs are nowhere near perfect!!!

BD session #3 happened last night. Boy is this getting old, lol. It's just so completely awkward when I can't get into it. I couldn't get a nice pic of our girl in my head this time b/c it just seemed like it was all too much work. Boobs saved the day again for me...Thank GOD! I didn’t put any RepHresh in this a.m. and may not tomorrow either. Hope we can keep this up until I O…

[Jamie86]

Hope my responses help!

Thanks so much they do help!

Atomic has confirmed for me it's to lower PH so I might start that but I'm just so torn on a lot of these things.

And after reading on here I'm not sure I put a lot into timing either so I think I'll just try not to think to much about that but I am a little worried about DH doing FR because he has had a pretty low sex drive and 2 times a day or even daily is like a chore for him and I don't want this to become too much work.

I've read that eating less refined sugar and simple carbs lowers testosterone and I'm hoping that's the case because I'm probably not going to lower my protein intake too significantly. I know this is not good for a girl sway but I had gestational diabetes with both pregnancies so I try to eat very low carb which is usually high in protein. I was not going to worry about it but then the more I read I started to panic a little thinking that maybe I should take saw palmetto.

Thank you so much for the help! I've read most of this on here but for some reason I can't help but ask the question to "hear" it from someone else directly to me because now I'm getting a little nervous but I'm also so excited.

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Jamie, here's a really quick little bit on lowering T levels:

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/nutr...naturally.html

I'm trying to lower my sugar intake as well b/c I just think sugar is so bad for your body anyway and if I can exclude it, I will! You can definitely sway w/out sugar! I'm also not eating a lot of pasta/rice and I never eat bread anymore...The majority of my carbs come from fruit, although I do eat air-popped popcorn frequently. I wish I could take S.P. but since I'm BF, I can't. I just try to trust in doing the things that I can to help maybe tip the balance in favor of pink.

I dont' think the swaying nervousness will ever go away until you actually deliver a sweet pink bundle. I think even if I was told I was having a girl at a 20 wk u/s, I wouldn't believe it until I was holding her in my arms.

[Jamie86]

Jamie, here's a really quick little bit on lowering T levels:

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/nutr...naturally.html

I'm trying to lower my sugar intake as well b/c I just think sugar is so bad for your body anyway and if I can exclude it, I will! You can definitely sway w/out sugar! I'm also not eating a lot of pasta/rice and I never eat bread anymore...The majority of my carbs come from fruit, although I do eat air-popped popcorn frequently. I wish I could take S.P. but since I'm BF, I can't. I just try to trust in doing the things that I can to help maybe tip the balance in favor of pink.

I dont' think the swaying nervousness will ever go away until you actually deliver a sweet pink bundle. I think even if I was told I was having a girl at a 20 wk u/s, I wouldn't believe it until I was holding her in my arms.

Thanks so much for all your help! Yeah I really don't think this nervous feeling is going to go away either especially when swaying for a girl with all the things I've heard about it being easier to confuse a boy for a girl than a girl for a boy. I looked at your signature and my two boys were also born in 08 and 10 (March 2008 and June 2010 to be exact).

[Mochagirl]

Mocha, w/DS2 and this last pregnancy, both times I swore AF was coming...I kept checking and wore my diva cup or pads just incase...I never had any imp. spotting but soooo many women do. Guess it's just a waiting game but I'm very hopeful for you!!!

Thanks, but I'm starting to lose hope again. I had more spotting this morning - thick very dark red (almost black). I have a feeling all this spotting just means the m/c is still not complete. I spotted through O, at 3 dpo, in the evening of 5dpo and the morning of 6dpo...I think that's far too much for me to actually get pregnant. My temp did go slightly up today, but nothing dramatic.