If it had been the other way around?

[puppydogstails]

Just out of curiosity..

I sometimes feel like i get a lot of 'Two boys, poor you' kind of comments. One lady actually admitted that all boys would have been her 'worst family make up' ( a woman with a pp ) I don't know if it is just me been sensitive ( are you pink moms ever made to feel the same way?? ) because i would really like a little girl but, I love boys, i think they are brilliant, i'd be happy with 10 boys as long as there was a girl in there to!

So my question is, if you were mom to the opposite gender to what you have, would you be right back here trying for the other? ( if that makes sense ) because i know i would.

Is it about having a child of each gender for you or did you have a preference for one or the other and would have stopped?

No offence is ment to moms of only boys by this like i said, it certainly is not my opinion.

[LolaInLove]

Nope, I think most people want to parent both genders....I have gotten some "you need a boy to carry on the family name, blah blah" commentary. It is really the same for moms of boys and girls, IMO. I think every family, every mom, is a different situation coming from their own background and cultural cues, know what I mean? I would be perfectly happy with a third girl, but of course, I'd LIKE to have a boy....you'd be surprised how many people commented on that when I was, for a short time, pregnant the other month (had a chemical). Girl moms have the whole issue of the DH....I think some women's DH really want the boy, maybe they feel like a wuss with producing all girls (which I of course don't agree with, but understand). I think each parent wants one of their gender to "relate" to, even though I wouldn't care, but I don't know, I don't have boys...my DH definitely wants a son, but he won't be broken up about it. Just don't sweat the stupid comments people make....we are blessed to have healthy, wonderful children whatever is between their legs!

[Liv]

I thought about this just the other day. I do believe that I would have wanted a boy after having 2 girls. My BF had a boy a few years before I had my first and I l fell in love with him. I don't know if I would have gone HT to get a boy, but you never know. I absolutely loathe when people make comments like that (nightmare having all boys or girls).

[puppydogstails]

....we are blessed to have healthy, wonderful children whatever is between their legs!

Oh Yes,i completely agree And i also would be just as happy with a third boy, although would obviously quite like a little pink one! I'd never really thought about the 'carrying on the name' factor, silly as it sounds. So yeah, guess your going to hear some kind of stupid comment no matter what.

Sorry to hear about your chemical

[LolaInLove]

Aw, thanks....it's all good, though. Que sera, sera.

You know what gives me lots of hope, though...and I did just see a post about statistics related to this....but I see TONS of families, and almost all I know with BB or GG gets the other one last! FX that's us.

[nuthinbutpink]

I would have definitely wanted a daughter but all this began for me because I did want a son first. I got a DD, then another and another. It sent me spiraling and I can't say for sure if I had gotten a boy first that I would have done HT for a DD. I think I became so obsessed that it changed me.

[LolaInLove]

NBP, I do hear you....I got a bit obsessed thinking my 2nd was a boy....mostly because my Ex-H only wanted boys (he hates women, something I would have liked to have known BEFORE we got married). He was always, "I know this one is a boy" and it did mess with me. I wouldn't say I had GD though, because I knew I'd have more and 2 girls was great....if I were still with him, it would be a different story, though. I wouldn't be surprised if he would have MADE me go HT for a boy. He always told everyone that we would keep "trying till we had a boy." Thankfully my current DH doesn't really care, as this will be his first child (the girls are his steps). I do see myself having moments of obsession, though.

[atomic sagebrush]

I would have and I actually feel very fortunate because I wanted a boy with my first quite badly, and had no preference with my second. So I did get to experience pregnancy without GD two times.

I have tons of sympathy for women who have very strong gender preferences with their first and never get to feel that happiness of getting the gender they want or even just to experience pregnancy without worrying about gender.

[nuthinbutpink]

I would have and I actually feel very fortunate because I wanted a boy with my first quite badly, and had no preference with my second. So I did get to experience pregnancy without GD two times.

I have tons of sympathy for women who have very strong gender preferences with their first and never get to feel that happiness of getting the gender they want or even just to experience pregnancy without worrying about gender.

It's interesting to read this. Never really thought about it but it is sad that I was never into it each time. I remember with my first, I was planting flowers out front and my neighbor said 'oh, you chose pink because you are having a girl'. I wanted to dig them all up.

I had to learn to embrace the pink. Notice my name. I picked that name when I registered at IG because at that point with 3 DD, all we had was pink. Nothing.But.Pink Had to learn to embrace my inner pink.

[anxiousandready]

I think that I am going through this mainly for my DH. I love my girls but my biggest thing is that I have to do it all myself, the taking them to the potty, the hair every single morning, the picking out their clothes....he's just not into the girly girl things and quite frankly its tiring. If I had 2 boys I would have been here a while ago. With 2 girls I can stop now or try again for a boy. I don't want any more girls but I love the ones I have.